@PhoenixIsFlying
Waitwhat23
How do you know that is what happened? Where did you source this information. He was also 23 (a very long time ago). I too, when younger used male toilets when the ladies was full. I wouldn't do it now (too smelly) but when I was younger I didn't care so much.
I do worry about those of you who can’t grasp the fact that there’s no symmetry between the sexes when it comes to these situations.
Is a young woman in the gents any kind of a threat to the men there? Obviously not.
If anyone’s running any kind of risk, it’s the young woman.
Is an adult man a potential threat to teenage girls in the women’s toilets? Yes, of course he is. Have you heard of #metoo and Everyone’s Invited, by any chance? Seen any of the stats on the ubiquity of male sexual harassment and assault EVERYWHERE?
If you are in that tiny minority of women who’ve never experienced any form of it, have you never spoken/listened to any other women on the subject? Are you aware of basic biological realities that mean it’s within the ability of most men to overpower a woman or girl if they so choose, and not within the ability of most women or girls to effectively defend themselves against a determined, predatory man?
Or are you one of those reality deniers who think that women could fend off a man twice their size and weight if they just tried a bit harder?
None of which is to say that EI is a predator. But the fact is he’s very, very obviously male, and to those girls at that time he was an unknown quantity, so his presence in the women’s toilets would have been unnerving for those girls in a way your presence in the men’s toilets would never have been for the men in there.
Because they don’t live with the knowledge of being physically relatively vulnerable to the opposite sex. Whereas women do. The vast majority of women factor this vulnerability into the plans they make when out and about alone. Men don’t experience physical vulnerability relative to women in the same way at all.
I can’t believe this stuff has to be spelled out, or even said at all. Are we also going to have to write long theses proving that water is wet, that people cannot survive without food and water, that it’s light in the daytime and dark at night, before anyone will accept the validity of those concepts?
Oh, and he wasn’t using the women’s toilets because the men’s were full. He was appropriating a women only space for himself because he felt entitled to. Because he could. Because it felt good to him. It was what he wanted to do. Not out of any need and a structurally unequal lack of male toilet provision - because that particular structural inequality, like so many others, doesn’t impact men: it only impacts women.