Really fucking annoyed by another entitled man

[Justreallyannoyed]

I’m a midwife. I answered the phone in a busy clinic today to an irate man. Apparently he’s applied online to volunteer in the maternity department and NOT HEARD ANYTHING. It’s NOT GOOD ENOUGH. He’s phoned THREE TIMES and no one is getting back to him. I explained that we don’t deal with volunteers ourselves and all the placements are dealt with by the volunteer office. This was OUTRAGEOUS apparently and he’s been passed FROM PILLAR TO POST and he just wants to know when he can come in to the Maternity Department and start volunteering!

I gave him the number of the volunteer office but I stupidly didn’t get his name. He was horrible and rude and our current volunteering vacancies are on the postnatal ward. What kind of man muscles his way in to the postnatal ward???? Especially when he has no expertise or experience to offer at all. The hall of him being furious because we aren’t being quick enough at facilitating his unfettered access to postnatal women and babies…..

Anyway I actually got a horrible creeped out feeling from him so I am going to call the volunteer office tomorrow and discuss. But just another entitled man throwing his weight around. Yuck.

This boils my blood, as do the 'you are all meanies and man-haters, never mind about the concerns of women, what about about the ruffled feelings of the men?' handmaidens who invariably pipe up on threads like this.

This isn't a red flag. It's a Carter siren with flashing red lights and bells on it. And the problem isn't that he's male. It's the fact that belongs to that particular variety of male species which shouts women down, talks over them, gets upset and uptight when they don't capitulate to their immediate demands, and, most worryingly of all, conveys an aggressive instance, smacking very much of desperation, to be on that ward with immobile and vulnerable women and babies RIGHT NOW. Why? Is the world is going to end because an application takes time to go through the process? What's the need for the urgent hurry?

This isn't misandry. It's a straightforward safeguarding concern. And any woman with her wits about her or the smallest experience or comprehension of these matters can see it coming from a mile away.

Before someone pops along with the wild deviation from the point that is NAMALT, statistically, it's woman who are at risk of harm from men and not the other way round. That's not a matter of personal opinion, but unassailable fact. So screw your 'what about the men?' defence, or immediate assumption that it's male volunteers per se who are being objected to here rather than the worrying behaviour of this male in particular.

This shit is getting seriously wearisome on this site.

I would have hung up on the creep

Can you track his phone number on the calls log? I would contact your colleagues who deal with volunteers to warn them regardless and pass on the number if you manage to get hold of it. Even if you can't track his number It is likely they don't get many men who want to volunteer on a maternity ward and they should be able to narrow who that idiot is so they can reject his application. He sounds creepy as hell.