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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Labour have committed to single sex spaces

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flumpetto · 22/09/2021 14:00

Excluding trans

This is a step in the right direction at long last....

www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/keir-starmer-trans-women-labour-b1924832.html

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CharlieParley · 24/09/2021 20:30

I just shared that and this was the reply:

"Bodies with vaginas"

Where? In their pockets?

TrainedByCats · 24/09/2021 20:31

Funny we seem to have ben derailed from discussing whether Labour policies do actually protect women’s rights to discussing how a particular male person feels about women’s rights

Said male person’s insistence that we accede to their wants illustrates perfectly how we cannot hold our noses and vote Labour next election however badly we want a different government. We’re hanging on with our fingernails to some of our rights at the moment.

Labour would have us silenced, dehumanised and driven out of public spaces as they continue to centre the almighty penis owner

ArtemesiaK · 24/09/2021 20:34

I'm old, really old. I have never met a transperson. Neither has my DH, in spite of him working in the centre of London for 50 years, going to pubs and clubs, etc. But in the past week, on holiday on the Yorkshire coast, we think we've spotted three. One was just, obviously, a man in a dress. One was a yellow haired boy wearing necklaces (non-binary?). One was a bloke in t-shirt and jeans with long hair and breasts. I just wondered where they'd all been for most of my life... Also, why I have to change my definition of myself to accommodate them....

littlbrowndog · 24/09/2021 20:37

Honestly WTAF we are just fucking nothing. They would never dare do this to men

Labour have committed to single sex spaces
TinaBarrow · 24/09/2021 20:42

until the Labour Party acknowledge what women actually are - the female reproductive sex class, no more, no less - and that there are situations where my female sex matters and times when it really doesn't - they will never again have my vote.

This. And any other Party for that matter. Except the Tories, and they'll never have my vote no matter what they do.

MonsignorMirth · 24/09/2021 20:43

@CharlieParley

I just shared that and this was the reply:

"Bodies with vaginas"

Where? In their pockets?

Who said that, Nicole Appleton?

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(according to terrible gossip sites...)

RufustheBadgeringReindeer · 24/09/2021 20:48

It's clear that despite the large number of posters in this place who have privately agreed with me

On an anonymous name changing forum i think its pretty gutless that posters who agree with you obviously don’t want to support you on the thread

Large numbers of them or not

RufustheBadgeringReindeer · 24/09/2021 20:51

And of course people would use third spaces

Id be more than happy in a mixed sex bog

I just believe that there should be a female bog as well

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 24/09/2021 20:56

Also The Lancet…

#Bodieswithvaginasinmedine is my favourite holiday

Labour have committed to single sex spaces
ArabellaScott · 24/09/2021 22:42

@Jaysmith71

One of the many reasons the Nazis (spoiler alert) lost the war was their refusal to mobilise their female population for munitions work or auxilliary military roles, preferring to rely on inefficient slave labour, and even there they were only interested in male slave labour for weapons production.

They did promote and honour exceptional women like Leni Riefenstahl and Hanna Reitsch, but never put them in one of those nice Hugo Boss uniforms.

Grin
ButterflyHatched · 25/09/2021 00:25

@RedDogsBeg

If you really, really want to have a conversation on the finer points of definition then I'll indulge - but I can't see how it isn't going to be profoundly unconstructive.

No I really don't want to have a conversation on the finer points of definition, the only definition that matters is one based on sex which is immutable and unchangeable.

What I would really like is to hear your proposals Butterfly on what happens to the women who cannot or will not be able to access single sex spaces and services if said services include males, irrespective of how that male presents or whether or not that male thinks he passes as a woman? You've said no to third spaces which can and will be used by those women whose have no reservations about sharing with males so would not be 'outing' for transwomen, so what is your solution?

I think the answer is contained within the question - I think you've very succinctly captured the key point of nuance to the entire matter with the word or and the implications it holds, and why both the EA2010 is as it is currently alongside why efforts to alter it are (thankfully) doomed to failure for the forseeable.

Cannot
or
Will Not

Needs must be met. Single-sex space provisions are necessary and should be made, where need is identified.

The service has to be fit for purpose - if it can't achieve its stated goals, then it's useless. If the only way for that goal to be achieved is by exclusion - for example, with respect to the provision of rape crisis centres that are likely to support women for whom being in the presence of those who are percieved as male would be completely impossible - then it seems that exclusion of people who are percieved as male is regrettably the only option.

This part, right here, is the Cannot.

That's an obvious clear-cut case, right? Sorry Debs, you're percieved as male. This service isn't for you. Just wham a nice big F or M on it, using assigned sex at birth, done.

Only it isn't. Where do trans men go? Is it appropriate for them to attend? Is it always, axiomatically? When is it not appropriate for them to attend? What about non-binary people? Detransitioners? Intersex people? Even if you ban transgenderism, they still exist. As does any flavour of GNC woman who doesn't reliably 'pass' within the category that is subjectively read as female. Birth sex is not, and has never been, a one-size-fits-all silver bullet for this issue, and in today's world it is not fit for purpose.

So what then?

Maybe we need a test? Awesome. Do we get a person to do so? What if they, in practice, have different subjective responses to gender cues? Who wants to be the Gender Cops whose job is to tell people all day long that sorry, no pass means no pass? How do you train the Gender Cops, and make sure their decisions are consistent?

Maybe we need an AI, trained on a vast sample set, to be able to serve as a sorting hat?

Simple, automated, reliable, replicable - perfect, right? OK great. There's a social media network that actually has one of those. It analyses an image of your face and then either allows or disallows you to register. The tech already exists!

Several people in this thread have said they wouldn't be comfortable with any AMAB person, ever, being present in women's spaces.

Waaaaaait. It let me join, using a photo of myself taken that morning at my least flattering, at the least favourable angle I could find. It wouldn't let several of my trans guy buddies, but would let another. The transphobic sorting hat AI couldn't even get its transphobia straight.

So, what then?

You can't rely on visual cues and judgements; all personal assessments are subjective, and frankly, the idea of having a formal 'do you look male enough to be excluded?' process is astonishingly demeaning and offensive. It'll exclude plenty of people you define as women, who are likely to have need of these provisions. It's already horrendous enough that organisations like the TSA over in the states routinely scan traveller's genitals at airport security. Should we implement that here as well?

Any process that ultimately relies on notions of passability, no matter how cleverly worded they are, is broken, demeaning and I'd certainly consider any trans person who advocates for one to be acting like a bus-throwing piece of sh*t. It's just the same prejudices repeated in microcosm.

So we can't rely on recorded birth sex due to trans men, intersex people, non-binary people and gnc women; we can't rely on whether the sorting hat thinks you're a real girl as it'll include some people with a recorded male sex at birth who you want to exclude, and exclude some people with a recorded female sex at birth who you want to include. We could combine the two; first you have to show your sex passport, then you have to let the sorting hat decide if you're woman enough.

Sex passports? Appearance-based gatekeeping? Do you want to live in that world?

Thankfully, we have an Equality Act for that, and the conservatives haven't succeeded in getting rid of it yet, though they were crowing about being able to do so in the run up to Brexit.

In the magical utopia where we're all happily dancing along together, anyone can identify as whatever they want without judgement, all needs are met without pressure or prejudice, and blablablabla there's probably no longer a need for sex-based spaces.

That world obviously isn't ever going to happen. Oppression is real; social dynamics are depressingly real. What we'd be talking about there is a fundamental change in the nature of humanity.

Third spaces have come up a few times here as an obvious seeming solution. The women can use the women's services, the men can use the men's services, and all those weird people who creep us out can use the one in betwee- Uh, I mean, anyone who can tolerate being in the same space as trans people can use the trans one.

Therein lies the problem. The provision of a third space must be an addition; not a subtraction. An extra provision for everyone, including those who identify with neither of the existing options. And it's a great idea, if that's how it is handled.

But we aren't talking about inclusion. We're talking, explicitly, about exclusion.

Third spaces are in theory a great idea, but they fail on two key principles:

Firstly: All they actually do is kick the passing/filtering problem down the road. They don't in any way solve it, just introduce a new category to filter on. That filter problem is still present. Do you legally mandate intersex people use a third space? GNC women who don't reliably 'pass'? Trans and non binary people who experience and identify with some or all of womanhood? Detransitioners?

Secondly: If the Third Space is general-purpose inclusive, then it doesn't cover the established need for same-sex services. If the Third Space is the exclusionary trans ghetto where we send all the icky people who make us uncomfortable, then anyone going into it automatically makes themself into a target, because transphobia is still a problem in our society. It's not a solved problem. The entire idea of a general purpose exclusionary space just for trans people - that's institutionalised transphobia.

The reasonable, safe and fair provision of Third Spaces requires us to already be living in a world where prejudice is a solved problem. Where it isn't still dangerous, for both trans and non-trans people, to open themselves up to suspicion, hostility and fear. We definitely aren't living in the world where a third space is a safe option yet.

What are we left with, then?

Cannot, or Will Not.

We have to, sensitively, on a case-by-case basis, negotiate this kind of subject as a culture. We've -always- had to, as using birth sex is not, and has never been a reliable marker - we've just been all the usual flavours of shit about it and ridden roughshod over things in the past. The need is clearly even greater now.

Cannot is already covered by the EA2010: The exceptions specifically exist to cover need for exclusion where it is objectively justified. I'm hugely sympathetic to the difficulties in practically enforcing the criteria for exclusion, and think they really do have to be defined on the individual level when viewed through the filter of harm mitigation.

Transphobia, however, is not objectively justified. Transphobia is not cannot. It is will not.

It's what the desperately hard-won GRA and EA2010 specifically protect against, and I'm damn glad we have them.

somethinginoffensive · 25/09/2021 00:33

Only it isn't. Where do trans men go? Is it appropriate for them to attend? Is it always, axiomatically? When is it not appropriate for them to attend? What about non-binary people? Detransitioners? Intersex people? Even if you ban transgenderism, they still exist. As does any flavour of GNC woman who doesn't reliably 'pass' within the category that is subjectively read as female. Birth sex is not, and has never been, a one-size-fits-all silver bullet for this issue, and in today's world it is not fit for purpose.

This is such nonsense. I always see this argument from males who want to be in women's spaces.

How about you agree to use unisex or male spaces and let women decide how they cope with gender non-conforming women?

I can tell who how women cope with no men present. It's just fine.

NiceGerbil · 25/09/2021 00:48

I went through all the passing etc earlier and at length.

NiceGerbil · 25/09/2021 00:54

'In the olden days yes tw did use women's stuff in some circs.
Tw then meant GRC (small numbers), those without a GRC who were presenting as a woman etc full time. Pretty much.

If they 100% passed and behaved totally normally then well obv no one would know.

And I mean I don't know obv but I would put money on the number of tw who totally pass in real life being really not many.

However I've been in bogs etc in places that were not you know a free for all night club or something. Department stores etc. And with a tw in the queue who IME at least. Would be generally giving an air of feeling a bit anxious and trying to be as invisible as possible. And all the women clocked, quick automatic assessment. Seems fine. Politely ignore.

However if a person who was clocked as male came in (more likely in pubs clubs) the women could say this is the ladies. Not leaving? Staff bouncers can be told.
If male and in clothes generally for women. Quiet? Blind eye. Behaving in a. Well. Male way? Off you go.

So tw got a pass assuming no weird behaviour. And we were able to get stroppy at any males generally deemed get out.

NOW we are told challenging is bigoted. Could be a hate crime. TWAW. Internal ID is unrelated to presentation. And anyway women can have short hair and wear suits etc it's sexist to say otherwise.

And because of that ALL BETS ARE OFF.

it was ok before for everyone.

This current situation has fucked things up for women AND transsexuals.'

Waitwhat23 · 25/09/2021 00:58

The women can use the women's services, the men can use the men's services, and all those weird people who creep us out can use the one in betwee- Uh, I mean, anyone who can tolerate being in the same space as trans people can use the trans one.

I keep seeing comments from you Butterfly about this place being 'hostile' and 'unfriendly' and then I read things like this. The utter dismissal of women who need single sex spaces (for a variety of reasons, including trauma, religion, privacy concerns etc etc etc) - basically handwaved away
in a passive aggressive comment that they are ridiculous and/or intolerant.

Why don't these women's needs matter?

youvegottenminuteslynn · 25/09/2021 01:11

If the Third Space is the exclusionary trans ghetto where we send all the icky people who make us uncomfortable

It's comments like this that reveal you aren't listening to women's actual issues. It's like you hear 'no' and tag on 'because it's icky' rather than listening to the genuine concerns of women about being excluded from the single sex spaces created to keep them safe and / or make their attendance possible. It's so fucking passive aggressive to keep reducing women's opinions to 'thinking trans people are icky'. It undermines your credibility entirely.

334bu · 25/09/2021 01:14

What about safeguarding Butterfly, as transwomen are just as dangerous to women as other males, how do we ensure women's safety, if single sex areas become mixed sex , as you advocate? Why should we let in your group of males when that could put us in danger?

Waitwhat23 · 25/09/2021 01:16

Also, third spaces might not be an ideal suggestion but are at least an attempt to try to offer a solution to suit the needs of everyone.

When the answer to third spaces is 'no' with no other suggestion of a possible solution (and case by case is obviously unworkable, particularly in the case of self ID), then what women are being told is 'put up and shut up'.

NiceGerbil · 25/09/2021 01:27

'respect to the provision of rape crisis centres that are likely to support women for whom being in the presence of those who are percieved as male would be completely impossible - then it seems that exclusion of people who are percieved as male is regrettably the only option.

This part, right here, is the Cannot.

That's an obvious clear-cut case, right? Sorry Debs, you're percieved as male. This service isn't for you. Just wham a nice big F or M on it, using assigned sex at birth, done.

Only it isn't. Where do trans men go? Is it appropriate for them to attend? Is it always, axiomatically? When is it not appropriate for them to attend? What about non-binary people? Detransitioners? Intersex people? Even if you ban transgenderism, they still exist. '

You've only considered your 'clear cut' example with your own pre determined conclusion.

And my clear cut conclusion is that you haven't really thought about your example at all.

And let's leave people with DSDs out of this they are nothing to do with trans and various of their orgs etc really want to be stopped being dragged into this.

  • Women and girls are the vast majority of victims of sex offences and the vast majority of attackers are men. That's female victims male attackers in New lingo.
  • The vast majority of centres were set up by women for women and understand the particular needs of women.
(Don't worry though, the old by women for women is being dismantled due to funding cuts and contracts being changed to ensure inclusion of men. Not transwomen. Men. Just to settle your mind. That's the direction and things seem to be moving fast. Also loads of centres are already trans inclusive for a variety of reasons. )
  • Generally different groups do not have all the same needs/ challenges-
For women there can be risk of pregnancy. They may have children with their rapist (rapist is their partner). This puts a lot of difficulties around what to do.
  • Men are generally bigger and stronger than women. They rape with their male organ- penis. Having been assaulted and violated with usually zero chance of doing anything about it, I mean it's incredibly harrowing. Some women just don't want to be in close quarters with men esp in a place where trying to process/ get to grips with what was done to them.
  • The dynamics between men and women in society are everywhere. From obvious to subtle. Women and girls get reminded of their place by men randomly when they're out and about. That is not a small thing.

And here's the major point you totally missed-

Anyone can be a victim of rape or serious sexual assault. Women. Also. Men. Transmen and transwomen. Gay men and lesbians. Bisexual people (and situation for men and women may be different). People with other gender identities or none.

These groups all have different needs.

For straight men rape is rarely reported. They never imagine it's something that could happen to them. They often feel it as a huge undermining of their masculinity. Who they are. Factors like that mean getting to grips with it and trying to heal has differences to the general approach that helps women. And I suspect the men would prefer to talk to a man.

Trans and non binary people have similar identity issues. Most people don't have surgery. For a trans man being raped vaginally / rapist attacked because perceived as female must be huge.
For a transwoman the discovery of a penis must often lead to a host of additional harm if assumed to be female. If assumed to be male then I would bet that many attacks are homo/ trans phobic. I read many transwomen are sex workers. Rape is very common. There's also the whole trans identity which is a very particular one and to effectively help that factor needs to be well understood.
The lgb community also often have particular aspects that need to be understood. And they may well prefer to speak with someone else who is LGB.

I mean all that sort of stuff.

NiceGerbil · 25/09/2021 01:35

The clear cut solution is therefore to raise the profile of the need for additional services to cater to the needs of various groups. In order to ensure they get the most empathetic, sensitive help from those who understand them really well and who are best placed to meet specific needs.

All along women have said. Rape crisis orgs have been having funding cut and cut for years. Women are the majority of victims. They fundraise raise awareness etc to try to keep going. By women for women.

Orgs supporting trans people are numerous. There is a lot of commitment from govt and wealthy corporates at the moment. There is a lot of public support.

Use that voice and support to raise awareness and get funding to open specialist services that can give the best services to groups of victims that feel little is available. With the current climate of massive visibility and backing I believe things could move quickly.

Then everyone gets what they need. No conundrums or concessions that don't really work for anyone.

NiceGerbil · 25/09/2021 01:36

Can you tell me WHY the focus is so massively on opening single sex things up, especially the ones for women and girls.

Rather than using the voice and funding and support to create new things that will actually be better for trans people.

NiceGerbil · 25/09/2021 01:40

Third spaces is a nice idea and good when can be done- women need more bogs in particular.

However it's not a full solution esp in things funded by public sector (expensive) and for many public and private sector things not possible (space).

And anyway what's wanted is into all women's and girls things. Third spaces are not wanted and would not be used. I think they would end up being for men in practice, and still self ID males in with us.

CharlieParley · 25/09/2021 03:23

I don't get it ButterflyHatched. Most people don't behave like dicks and respect single-sex provisions. Why do you insist that transgender people would not? It's like you're trying to convince us that women's consent means sweet f-a to you.

And this utterly laughable idea that female transsexuals who have transitioned would gleefully frighten the rest of us with their manliness. Where do you get off painting them in such a terrible light?

The most basic principle is this:

Female-only provisions must only be used by female people.

AND

Not all female people must use female-only provisions.

Any female transsexuals who pass as male in need of a female-only provision will be accommodated by a female-only service in a way that ensures that female survivors of male violence who are triggered in the presence of males, and who may be triggered by female transsexuals who pass as male, will not be negatively affected. This is already possible, this is already being done.

And most of these services already accommodate male and female people, including those who identify as trans. Ensuring a female-only service at point of delivery for female people is neither difficult nor unfair to transgender people.

That's precisely what the EHRC Code of Practice asks providers to do - find ways to accommodate all who need the service without neglecting one group.

The only reason why this would be rejected is if this isn't about having your service-related needs met by the service in question but having your identity affirmed through forced teaming with unconsenting female service users.

Which is it, ButterflyHatched? Do you want service-related needs met so services work for all, or indulge affirmation desires through male inclusion in female-only provisions, thereby excluding some females?

Helleofabore · 25/09/2021 03:40

then it seems that exclusion of people who are percieved as male

‘perceived’? How about we go back to dealing with reality? if you ‘are’ male (using historical and medical facts) you are excluded. That also then deals with the female transitioners, non-binary people and today using modern medical techniques, those with VSDs. (People with VSDs are now reliably determined to be either male or female.)

As pp has mentioned, leave women to work out how to accommodate female transitioners. Feminism has always included them, will always include them, because they are part of the female sex class and have experienced sexist discrimination because of their sexed bodies since birth.

It seemed the rest of your post was a repeat of your others where you delve into how demeaning it all is for males, and simply don’t ever seem able to acknowledge and truly take on board the needs of females. That need for single sex spaces to remain just that, single sex. Not single sex plus anyone from the other sex that can successfully pass.

It always strikes me as very telling though that we used to have an honour based system for quite a number of these services. While there is a group of trans people who readily agree to maintain that, and do. Including using toilets allocated to their sex not their gender. It seems that others cannot be trusted to honour that system.

Helleofabore · 25/09/2021 03:42

Cross posted with Charlie who says it far better than I do.