you’d be happy for everyone to tell her she’s male, and it didn’t matter how she felt about it?
Well, that's what happens for everyone. Everyone is male or female regardless of how they feel about it.
How much it becomes a big deal rather depends on how much the individual tries to leverage a claim of not being male. Entering female sports is going to make a lot of people point out you're male, if you are.
Nothing to do with sport, or trans, but if you have a disorder which makes your sex ambiguous then it’s their body their choice.
Right, but in Semenya and Mboma's case, there is no ambiguity, is there? There may have been at birth, but not as an adult. They're unambiguously male, they just deny it.
This is not CAIS, which is clearly ambiguous - genetically male, but phenotypically female.
And the athletics people have been very clear that they are not trying to tell anyone "they're a man" or saying "how they should live". They're just making a sporting classification.