So if a straight man was approached by a gay man I think they can easily say 'Sorry mate, I'm not interested', rather than saying 'Sorry mate, you've got a dick and balls and that's a real turn off for me', or if a straight woman was approached by a gay woman, she could say 'Sorry, I'm not interested' rather than shouting out 'God, no, I'm straight, your vulva is really unappealing to me"
So, suggestions.
That’s very creative on your part. I don’t know about you, but I suspect that lesbians and gay men tend to be very circumspect when approaching women and men they don’t already know to be also gay or bi. For very good reasons. A good number of straight men may not necessarily respond with words at all, if propositioned by a gay man, but may default straight to violence. It’s odd that you seem to be so unaware of the continuing phenomenon of “queer bashing” that you wouldn’t realise this.
Which is why lesbian and gay bars (and, for gay men particularly, other known cruising sites) have always been so important. These days dating apps perform an equivalent function.
For lesbians in particular, the benefit of a theoretically lesbian only space, real or virtual, is not just knowing that the women she meets there will also be lesbians, so potentially interested in her, but also the freedom from having to fend off the often incessant advances of male people.
You must have led an incredibly sheltered life if you think that women can easily knock back the advances of men without sometimes needing to be very blunt and assertive about it, without being in fear of the consequences of saying no to a male person who actually is so entitled that he doesn’t think women have a right to say no to him. Perhaps you’re unaware of the numbers of women who are assaulted or even killed every year because they had the temerity to say no to a violent, entitled, narcissistic man. It’s pretty grim, so maybe that’s why you choose to close your eyes to it.
Lesbian dating apps should be a refuge from all this. But they’re not. Women are being thrown off dating apps that should cater exclusively for them because they want to be able to state from tje get go they’re only interested in other biologically female people; they’re even being thrown off for repeatedly politely declining the advances of biologically male “lesbians”, as you say they should be perfectly entitled to do, because those male people then report them for “transphobia”, and that’s not allowed.
lesbianandgaynews.com/2021/02/lesbian-women-talk-about-meeting-transbians-on-women-only-dating-sites/
Women having boundaries isn’t allowed.
I’m also going to repost what you said upthread because it’s so shocking:
The final sentence "And that anyone attacking her for holding this position is being homophobic?" is problematic, as homophobia is not an inherent sentiment of someone who is unhappy that someone else might be discounting more people from dating options.
Let’s just look at that last bit again:
SOMEONE WHO IS UNHAPPY THAT SOMEONE ELSE MIGHT BE DISCOUNTING MORE PEOPLE FROM DATING OPTIONS.
Who are these “someones” who are entitled to be “unhappy” about “someone else’s” “dating options”??
WHO THE FUCK ARE THEY?
NO ONE is actually entitled to be unhappy about someone else’s dating options, absolutely not one single person on the whole planet.
But not in your world. In your world, there are some people who are entitled to this.
MEN who are UNHAPPY about WOMEN having sexual boundaries. That’s who. And you support and enable that RAPE CULTURE.
What the holy fucking fuck? I thought I was angry about this before but I’m fucking incandescent now.
This is the Feminism board. And you are coming here with THIS level of misogyny, of lesbophobia, of rape apologism.
You are someone who thinks that women having sexual boundaries isn’t acceptable. That is who you are, behind your mask of “trans rights”. And it’s so very, very ugly.