..... and how come this is the only issue on which being kind to someone you feel sorry for is a considered criteria?
I was desperate and really ready to do my black belt test the day Covid lock down was announced. So I have not been able to do my black belt test. It would be kind just to give me my black belt but actually, no, I have to test for it - like everyone else - and that will be at the next opportunity which won't be for a long time.
When I was at school I wanted to be in the netball team, they didn't pick me, I was sad about it - but they didn't care about all my hurt feelings.
What about actors, musicians, dancers who spend their professional lives auditioning for parts they don't get? Would the kind thing be to let every actor have the part they want? No - a lot of people have to deal with the disappointment of not getting the parts they want, or the places on teams they want, or the qualifications they want.... I cried when I failed my driving test, but they still didn't pass me to be kind.
Why is this the only area where we have to let people have what they want to be kind?