Aibu that the reputation of fwr being 'unsafe'

[TheSlayer]

I've been a member of Mumsnet for about a year now. Came on Sen and got lots of good, though straightforward advice. I've had no one sugar coated D's Sen and played it down as 'all babies are different'. No lack of empathy there though.
I post on fwr and have had things get heated, but generally the debate is polite. With the exception of a few regulars even the dissenting voices were civil.
However, every single time I post on aibu I get absolute venom. For really innocent posts.

So it usually goes.
Aibu- oranges and lemons say the bells of at. Clements.
Yabvu - I don't like that song. I don't have time.
Yabvu- have you thought about all the people who live in London and have to put up with that song.
Yabvu- what about pears op. Bigot.
It's St. Clements op. Educate yourself.

I mean, don't bite my head off, but I actually think it's a lot more civilized in this neck of the woods.

The level intellect on this board is pretty high, I'd say! Not including myself I learn loads though.

Shhh, Slayer, you'll be ruining our reputation. Most fearsome round here. Horrible.

Pretty much sums up why I stick around here and don't venture into AIBU that much, but we are the mean girls over here and must stay in our lane hidden corner with cobwebs so other social media platforms can pretend we don't exist or people get upset. Very, very upset.

@ArabellaScott

Shhh, Slayer, you'll be ruining our reputation. Most fearsome round here. Horrible.

@McDuffy

The level intellect on this board is pretty high, I'd say! Not including myself I learn loads though.

I agree, I consider FWR to be quite high brow.

I often wonder who the names and faces behind the usernames are (and what their qualifications and experiences are).

I do learn a lot here. And I don't claim intellectual superiority. But people are rarely mean here. Heated, yes. Mean, no.
I just think it's funny fwr has this reputation but aibu is absolutely mean.
I have severe depression and twice it's sent me over the edge here.
Can we have a groceries, babies, pets, life etc. Section of fwr where I can ask a non feminist related question without getting my head bitten off by the aibu meanies?
I need to not go over there. It's so aggressive.

Only sadists post in AIBU.

'high brow' in the sense that you read stuff that makes your eyebrows go ?

for the depression, Slayer. Maybe best avoiding some of the more confrontational boards. I think 'Chat' is supposed to be gentler. Not sure about the pet boards

Thanks for the and the chat tip.
To be honest I just need to scuttle back to the corners of fwr and Sen.

AIBU is fight club.

Maybe HQ should put up a pop up warning whenever newbies try to post in AIBU to warn them that they may like to choose another topic.

I like an AIBU bun fight, but some poor posters don't seem to know what they're getting themselves into.

God, AIBU can be brutal. Some replies to completely inoffensive OP's make me wince!

I don't blame you for avoiding it, even watching someone else take an absolute hammering is draining, can't imagine what it's like being on the receiving end.

Hope you're doing good at the moment?

And the pet boards are lovely, especially Litter tray. As long as you're not a breeder or trying to buy an expensive pet.

I first came to Mumsnet through AIBU, people were posting links to crazy threads, and it is brutal but refreshing at the same time. I learned some great sweary phrases, found women incredibly supportive of those who need it, and ended up here in the polite but firm bit.

I absolutely agree. I find AIBU entertaining, but geez people can be downright nasty in there at times.

I have rescue rabbits, bit they're taking a backseat to Ds ATM. 🙂
I'm having a bit of a hard time coping with Ds diagnosis, but plodding on. My depression is related to it so it's difficult.
I do use Mumsnet as a bit of an escape and do need to cut down, but I often find myself drawn here during naps and things.

A disclaimer would be a great idea. I've honestly been made to feel like I'm worse than a nazi mass murderer over on aibu. (I'm not, although that'd be a good aibu)

The polite but firm bit

@MsFogi

Only sadists post in AIBU.

or masochists

I wouldn't go near AIBU, it's vicious over there

I highly recommend style and beauty too ~just don't post about Roman Originals~ and the Christmas bargain threads are my happy place

I'm afraid I have zero style so definitely wouldn't fit in there.
The nineties called and want their wardrobe back, but they said I can keep the Disney clobber 😂

My first ever MN post was a reply on AIBU.

Fortunately I covered all bases by saying “yes, no, perhaps sometimes”.

It’s cool here

Just that cool as fuck

To be fair, FWR is unsafe if you find facts that disagree with your ideology to be literal violence...

@TheSlayer

I'm afraid I have zero style so definitely wouldn't fit in there. The nineties called and want their wardrobe back, but they said I can keep the Disney clobber 😂

90s fashion is back, you're good to go

@TheSlayer

I have rescue rabbits, bit they're taking a backseat to Ds ATM. 🙂 I'm having a bit of a hard time coping with Ds diagnosis, but plodding on. My depression is related to it so it's difficult. I do use Mumsnet as a bit of an escape and do need to cut down, but I often find myself drawn here during naps and things.

A disclaimer would be a great idea. I've honestly been made to feel like I'm worse than a nazi mass murderer over on aibu. (I'm not, although that'd be a good aibu)

Well if you must insist on having a loo brush in your house 😂

Only joking, yes FWR is mostly very respectful and kind. AIBU is just people enjoying making others feel like shit x

I was also doing a little lurking on another part of the site where a regular (one of the few I've actually had be mean here) was slagging this board off left, right and centre.
I'd have defended it but I could see that would have been pile on suicide.
They did say we must hate Meghan Markle as one of the more trivial points. I actually quite like her (but not the latest babyname, sorry!)

They did say we must hate Meghan Markle as one of the more trivial points.

Whaaaaat???