When your daughter's friend is trans.

[Sirranon]

I've lurked on here for a while, reading the gender critical stuff. But I've not seen this addressed.

How do people think is best to handle it wisely when DDs best friend is trans. Would you use or not use the requested pronouns? Are there any good resources I can give to DD to persuade her her friend is potentially on a bad path. 🙁

DD has fully bought into all this and is providing support and encouragement.

I've just found out her friend is binding and I'm horrified. Even though I know it's not my daughter or my business.

Would you tell the parents if you became aware of the child self-harming in other ways?

I would, and I would want my child's friend's parent to tell me as well.
TBH, given the way that some friends who have children at/near this age (one has a stepchild that is actively using a binder) talk about binders "they aren't harmful, thousands of people use them and they are just fine" I'd check they know about the damage caused. The papers on this are by the trans lobby so it's not like they are people with an anti-binder axe to grind.

@Tallwhitepine

What if she was your daughter OP?

Would you like people to cheer her down the path to poorly researched treatments which will make her a life long medical patient? Which will sterilize her? Likely shorten her life? Which will not change her sex anyway?

Quite.