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Posie putting her money where her mouth is. Lets do this.

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Fallingirl · 27/05/2021 21:39

Posie is planning to re-build the women’s sector, starting with crowd funding for a women-only refuge.

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PurgatoryOfPotholes · 30/05/2021 18:16

But why should she open a café? [bewildered] Is it the blonde hair? Do you think she's Peggy Mitchell?

Is her time or effort yours to command? She wants to fundraise for extra refuges.

Congressdingo · 30/05/2021 18:20

[quote buggerbuggery]@Congressdingo It sounds lovely. It is also naive.[/quote]
Do you think that's a slur or something?

At least I am willing to put my money and my home to good use to help women.

Matters not one iota if we are naive, we will be helping.

I personally am invested in the time straight after the woman has left, others are willing to do the legwork for onwards.

Datun · 30/05/2021 18:20

I'll never understand it. I certainly don't understand how people can't see what it looks like when they slag her off.

She wants to open a refuge for God's sake. A woman only refuge. For adult human females.

She's a do-er.

Referring to herself, her update says:

If not you, then who?

If not now, then when?

She's also said, that if she bites off more than she can chew, she will donate the money to another female only refuge.

This is all good. It is!

HecatesCatsInFancyHats · 30/05/2021 18:30

This is all good. It is!

💯

LangClegsInSpace · 30/05/2021 18:35

TBF Congressdingo, that is a bit naive and the results may not be at all helpful.

I'm sure Posie is well aware that this project will need a legal structure as well as suitable staff and all appropriate safeguards.

PatsArrow · 30/05/2021 18:37

This thread reads as one MASSIVE tantrum.

AlfonsoTheMango · 30/05/2021 18:41

By whom?

WheeshtYerMansplaining · 30/05/2021 18:42

I think it's very odd that there are posters on here whose criticism of PP has veered into the territory of telling the women who are erring towards sympathy with PP's objectives that they don't understand commissioning and regulation.

Procurement, commissioning and regulatory frameworks were once my job. Prior to that I was an academic who designed research programmes.

It's astonishingly patronising.

And yet so tediously familiar.

SapphosRock · 30/05/2021 18:58

Sapphos, regarding things Posie said years ago about abuse happening if you allow it; Raising funds to start a refuge for abused women is the biggest, clearest, most emphatic way of making amends for that.

Why are you making excuses for her? She hasn't said that's her motivation.

What if abuse happened to women IN her refuge? Would it be the service users' fault for allowing it to happen? Would Posie take any responsibility?

How can she set up a women's refuge with a straight face when she blames women for the abuse they have suffered?!

In addition, my experiences of domestic violence happened in a same sex relationship so a refuge being female only doesn't 100% guarantee safety.

HecatesCatsInFancyHats · 30/05/2021 19:06

In addition, my experiences of domestic violence happened in a same sex relationship so a refuge being female only doesn't 100% guarantee safety.

Sapphos are you advocating for mixed sex refuges now?

SapphosRock · 30/05/2021 19:12

No absolutely not. I'm advocating for single sex refuges run by women who actually understand domestic abuse.

For me, not blaming the service users for their abuse is a non negotiable requirement for the owner of a women's refuge.

Erikrie · 30/05/2021 19:19

SapphosRock

So many questions. Just message Posie. She'd no doubt be more than happy to answer them where she can ☺️

MurderSheTypedSortOf · 30/05/2021 19:32

Sapphos I don’t trust that you are an adult human female based on what you have written in this thread.

Erikrie · 30/05/2021 19:43

Well all the negativity here has encouraged me to double what I'd normally donate. All for a good cause ☺️

buggerbuggery · 30/05/2021 19:46

So now it is going to have a legal structure. I wonder what those posters earlier on the thread who have given money and say it is better not to have a legal structure think?
And no if you are a non-profit in England you need to be a charity, CIC or co-op unless your income is under £5k annually. If you know an organisation that has a higher income than that and is neither of those then it is operating illegally.

PurgatoryOfPotholes · 30/05/2021 19:46

People will find this a good read. www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2020/02/feminism-mens-rights-activism-cancel-culture/607057/

SapphosRock · 30/05/2021 19:57

@MurderSheTypedSortOf

Sapphos I don’t trust that you are an adult human female based on what you have written in this thread.
That old chestnut? 😂
Stopthisnow · 30/05/2021 19:59

SapphosRock You are trying to make this personal, which it is not for most women, it shouldn’t matter who is proposing this idea if the idea itself is a good one.

The attached example of her victim blaming women who have been abused is worth sharing again. Is this really the best candidate to set up a women's refuge?

Unfortunately, many people hold similar views to the screen shot you posted, the answer is for more consciousness raising to address those misconceptions. Posie has already acknowledged her limitations and won’t be running the refuge. Erin Pizzey who opened the first women’s refuge had some views that many feminists would completely reject, but she still did good by establishing the first shelter.

Jean Hatchet is calling her project an ‘atrocious self-promoting act’ on this very thread

I respect and like Jean and wish there wasn’t the animosity between her and Posie, they have history which is between them and I don’t wish to get involved in that, people can like and respect someone and still disagree with them at times.

She’s Tweeted that women who think they are men should be sterilised.

From memory Posie said she was criticising why women who say they are men then go on to have children, if they truly believe they are men. She was criticised at the time by many. More importantly it has no bearing on this issue.

She continues to casually misrepresent and generalise the struggles of Muslim women.

Where has she done this and how does this relate to starting up a refuge which she is not going to run?

The rest of your post highlights a difference of opinion between women fighting for women’s rights.

Surely the fact that she’s been banned from speaking at WPUK meetings tells us something

Although I appreciate WPUK for speaking up for women, there are solid feminist reasons to criticise some of their approaches, such as the fact they platform AGP men in their groups rather than their wives. Many of us also think they do not advocate for strong enough boundaries with men. So no it doesn’t really tell me anything except they have a disagreement with her.

Kathleen Stock and Julie Bindel refer to her as a ‘liability’

Stock has slated radical feminists and our analysis in her book, without really understanding our analysis, her rebuttal to it is ‘be kind’ to men and don’t ‘shame’ them, I disagree with her. It also seems odd that someone who is new to feminism and the genderism issue, is now being used to back up the argument that we should leave things to people who know better and have been involved longer, can you not see the contradiction there?

I respect Julie Bindel’s work and agree with her when she said in her review of Stock’s book that it reads like an outsider wrote it, although it was disappointing that instead of saying Stock got it wrong about radical feminism in her review of her book, she said Stock had gotten radical feminists mixed-up with American feminists. It seems to me Julie thinks feminists will get further by placating men who say they are women to some degree, instead of asserting and maintaining strong firm boundaries with them, I disagree with her on that.

What it really comes down to is feminists (and non-feminist) women who want to assert and maintain strong firm boundaries with men, disagree with those who want to negotiate those boundaries, either because they feel sorry for men, or because they think women will achieve more that way. You seem to be trying to use this difference of opinion as a way to discredit Posie personally, when in reality many radical feminists (and non feminist women) believe that women should enact and maintain strong firm boundaries with men, that is a feminist position that Posie aligns with.

The issue on this thread is not whether Posie is a ‘good’ person or whether other people dislike her, the issue is whether raising funds to start a new refuge or gain more publicity to the situation is a productive way to help the current problem. I personally think it is a good idea and haven’t yet heard a convincing argument for why it isn’t.

MurderSheTypedSortOf · 30/05/2021 20:02

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PatsArrow · 30/05/2021 20:03

[quote PurgatoryOfPotholes]People will find this a good read. www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2020/02/feminism-mens-rights-activism-cancel-culture/607057/[/quote]
Thanks for posting. I found it fascinating.

BattyOrange · 30/05/2021 20:05

And no if you are a non-profit in England you need to be a charity, CIC or co-op unless your income is under £5k annually.

Wrong way round I'm afraid buggerbuggery.
Not for profit orgs can only register with the Charity Commission if their income is at least £5000 per year. An org with less than this level of income can only seek to register under exceptional circumstances.

buggerbuggery · 30/05/2021 20:09

@BattyOrange that is what I said. Under £5k not registered as a charity, although you can be a co-op or CIC. Over £5k you have to legally be either a registered charity, co-op or CIC.
There are charities registered with an income under £5k, but that was before the rules changed.

SapphosRock · 30/05/2021 20:11

@Datun

I'll never understand it. I certainly don't understand how people can't see what it looks like when they slag her off.

She wants to open a refuge for God's sake. A woman only refuge. For adult human females.

She's a do-er.

Referring to herself, her update says:

If not you, then who?

If not now, then when?

She's also said, that if she bites off more than she can chew, she will donate the money to another female only refuge.

This is all good. It is!

Datun we agree on many things but I'll never understand why feminists defend her indefensible behaviour . I'll never understand how people don't realise how it looks when they make excuses for her.

If Dominic Cummings set up a pro European Union organisation and arranged a crowdfunder for people to donate to it should all remainders blindly support it no questions asked? He's doing a good thing for the EU so stop being so negative. Why does his Brexit history even matter? Everyone makes mistakes after all. He's Tweeting anti-EU things? Never mind, he's just outspoken. God people have such a vendetta against poor, brave Dominic Cummings.

That's how defenders of PP come across to me.

Erikrie · 30/05/2021 20:14

I'll never understand how people don't realise how it looks when they make excuses for her.

I guess you don't understand how you look either. Hint: It's not good. ☺️