“Giving away” at weddings - anyone done something different?

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Coming under some (kindly meant) pressure to have my dad give me away at my wedding. I won’t be doing that for obvious reasons but I’m trying to think of alternatives - come up the aisle alone? Both parents? Me and DP swing in on trapezes? Just wondering how other feminists have handled it.

My dad walked me down the aisle. My husband had his dad as best man and both mum's signed the register. No 'giving away' speech but I felt I didn't want dad to miss out as he raised me just as much as mum.

I’m going to walk down with our daughters.

I know couples who have both come down the aisle - separately but each with their parents. Would your DP do that?

Id love you to swing in on a trapeze

But as that might not be practical either on your own or with both parents

Husband and I walked in together. If your dad wants to part of the ceremony, there are plenty of roles available (eg as witness on the marriage cert, etc).

My sister and husband walked in together as they were both 40s and first marriage. That was a small church wedding. It was a nice symbol of "start as you mean to go on".

I’d like DP and I to walk in together, I think it’d be cool. He isn’t as keen though

DH and I walked down the aisle together with dd.

Seemed appropriate as we already felt like a family.

My husband and I met in a back room just before the ceremony, then walked in and down the aisle together. It was lovely.

I love the previously mentioned idea of each being walked down by both parents.

X post, nice to hear people have walked in together! I agree it’s got a lovely symbolism and it seems daft to pretend that our parents are arranging our union

You go in together, or one waits at the altar and the other does the grand entrance. No one needs 'walking up the aisle' unless you need physical help or are wearing some really bad shoes.

Wondering about us each coming down one side aisle with our parents (are they called aisles? Side bits in a church) and then meeting in the middle

@murbblurb

You go in together, or one waits at the altar and the other does the grand entrance. No one needs 'walking up the aisle' unless you need physical help or are wearing some really bad shoes.

Lol I know, much as I adore my dad I get around without his physical support all the time

dh and I walked in together.

as much as I love my dad, I'm not his to give away.

Me and DH walked in together (registry office).

and def no give away speech!

The giving away part is actual a verbal part (who brings this woman ...) rather than the walking down the aisle. So my dad still walked with me down the aisle, which was clearly a highlight of his life if you look at the beaming photos, but then left me with DH just like the bridesmaid, rather than hanging around to "hand me over". I also had the prayers adjusted so there were no references to us having children since I was vehemently against that too.

We had our kids 'give us away'
We all walked down together and kids were asked by the registrar if they gave their blessing and they all said 'we do'.

@ThomasPenman

We had our kids 'give us away' We all walked down together and kids were asked by the registrar if they gave their blessing and they all said 'we do'.

This is blooming adorable

DP and I walked in together.
It just made the most sense to us.

Registry Office wedding! No bridesmaids, no Best Man, no giving away, just two witnesses and a smallish number of guests. Nearly 40 years later, no regrets.

When I got married to ExH in a register office I think we just walked in together from the registrar's office.

Oh thanks @FluffMagnet I didn’t realise that as it feels all of a piece. Needless to say won’t be having that bit of the ceremony

DH and I walked down the aisle together. Equal partners approaching our marriage

DH and I walked in together.
And that was 25 years ago.