I've always found men on the left to be misogynists I'm afraid.
I remember the outpouring over Jo Cox's husband (obviously huge sympathy) however, I did see on MN at that time people not seeing him for who/what he is and bestowing him with virtues that were clearly absent, in my view.
IMO and going by the people I've met, I've noticed it's men that are either socially inept and find it's a short hand way to say "here's my credentials, I'm a kind guy" or they're the vain sort that like to play a hero/rescuer to women whilst also seeing them as either madonna/whore type thing. Neither is about seeing women as real people with their own separate identity/needs etc.
Alternatively, and most common is that they're out and out misogynists and it's a way of getting to tell others exactly what/where/who to do/stand/say/think.
I know lots will say men on the left are not like that and don't fit the above criteria - however, Emperor's new clothes and all that - if everyone is told that to be "nice" means vote Labour then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy where some of the decent males get swept along too.
That's where we then get some of the "nicer" men thinking they also have to believe transwomen are women.
A man telling women they know better than us what being born female is all about - it's not left or right issue at all. It is the desire to use one's own critical thinking and not be told to believe the party line, that's in short supply on the left sadly.
The country always needs a strong left, but this left is going so far round the circle I think it winds up back at far right - I don't see much difference - telling people what to think and holding witch trials if they don't speak group thinking - seems really quite far right to me - Hitler would be proud of them.
It is infantile and there has always been a group think mentality on left which is dangerous and is coming home to roost over the identity politics issue. Lots on the left I've liked but always voted conservative and want middle ground of that.
James O'Brien is a case in point. Loves the sound of his own voice telling people that he's a hero to women and really cares about them and everything else. Shorthand way of saying "I'm a great guy". However, listen to what he says and how he talks over women saying trans rights are different to women's rights and you'll see my description above is spot on.