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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Jordan Peterson

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Wilsonwilson · 15/03/2021 02:10

What do people make of him? Watched the triggernometry interview with him yesterday. I have previously seen bits and bobs of his but not taken much notice. In the interview he pointed out that out that his greatest criticism has been because he was lecturing people whilst being a benzo addict, tbh this was my criticism.

I don't know, to me he just seems disingenuous somehow, could be my bias like he says.

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Doona · 20/03/2021 10:42

Although I will also add, that if all men did follow JPs rules for life, the world would be a much better place for women. And surely, as feminists, this is what we want. Isn't it?

Peterson's rules say nothing about sexual inequality in political representation, income or property ownership - or do they? I couldn't care less whether men hold their shoulders back or pet cats or any of the rest of it.

Triffiddealer · 20/03/2021 10:53

I agree with lots of things he says and vehemently disagree with lots of others. Personal responsibility / free speech I'm pretty much with him - his views on women much less so. However, sadly I think he's more pro-women that lots of the leftist men I used to think were on our side.

I guess I don't find him particularly offensive - but I do think he is very damaged (most psychologists are fairly open about that) - he has spoken a lot about being a 'wimp' as a younger man and how he has 'rectified' that - I'd be quite interested to know about his relationship with his father!

Gurufloof · 20/03/2021 11:00

@SorryPleaseTryAgain

Just out of curiosity, I have two questions for those of you who say that you love Jordan Peterson, that he talks so much sense etc.
  1. Where you active feminists prior to becoming gender critical?
  1. Did you seek out this board for it's gender critical views or it's feminist views?

I am genuinely trying to understand.

What do you think you will understand with the answers to those questions?

I've been a feminist since a young age and now I'm old.

I came to this board to see if anyone else could see the stupidity of allowing men who say they are women into women only spaces.
I found them.

Erkrie · 20/03/2021 11:04

Peterson's rules say nothing about sexual inequality in political representation, income or property ownership - or do they? I couldn't care less whether men hold their shoulders back or pet cats or any of the rest of it.

Having a set of rules for males to follow in order to become responsible and decent human beings is a good thing. It's not just about cats and shoulders back for goodness sake. And no his rules don't talk direct about sexual inequality. I'm sure you can already see they dont. Although he does discuss those topics in many of his lectures. You may or may not agree with all of his opinions or his views on that. And that is fine.
To dismiss someone because they haven't covered something that you think should be covered in his rules is a bit odd though. But it seems to be the way of thinking these days for some, you either have to agree with everything someone says or none of it. Or dismiss them because of the what about this thing. No middle ground. It is possible to take the best ideas from a number of different sources and also reject the ideas you don't align with.

LibertyMole · 20/03/2021 11:13

‘Just out of curiosity, I have two questions for those of you who say that you love Jordan Peterson, that he talks so much sense etc.

  1. Where you active feminists prior to becoming gender critical?
  1. Did you seek out this board for it's gender critical views or it's feminist views?

I am genuinely trying to understand.’

I have been discussing feminism on MN since before there was a FWR board. I am old, and until recently almost all feminism was critical of gender stereotyping and restrictive roles, so I don’t really see a difference between being a feminist and being gender critical.

But I would consider myself primarily a feminist. I would prioritise reducing violence against women over reducing gender stereotyping. Is that what you mean? I certainly work with women who are very pro gender roles but want to reduce maternal deaths and violence against women.

LibertyMole · 20/03/2021 11:14

I find 12 Rules for Life changed my life for the better. I have just started on the new book.

Defmy · 20/03/2021 11:25

He didn't have a drug addiction as such. They were prescribed and he took the prescribed quantity. They then caused awful side effects and withdrawal effects when he tried to stop them. It happens.

Doona · 20/03/2021 11:30

To dismiss someone because they haven't covered something that you think should be covered in his rules is a bit odd though.

This is the feminist board so I'm assuming we are discussing his views is the context of feminism. The idea that if men were more noble then women would do better seems very regressive to me. For centuries we've had the idea that men can vote on behalf of women, represent women, act in women's interests. Feminism is not about hoping men will behave better, in my opinion!

So far, I haven't read anything that recommends Peterson to me as a feminist thought leader and so yes I do dismiss him in the context of feminism. But I would like some new feminist ideas, for sure, so if I'm wrong, great! So far nobody has really explained how his ideas are useful for feminists though, although a lot of people seem to rate him positively in vague terms (interesting, intelligent etc)

ceilingsand · 20/03/2021 11:34

I think he's a right wing nut job, beloved of conspiracy theorists.

LibertyMole · 20/03/2021 11:34

Treat yourself like you are someone you are responsible for helping is great feminist advice because women are pressured into putting their needs last, and so many young women engage in self harm.

Erkrie · 20/03/2021 11:35

This is the feminist board so I'm assuming we are discussing his views is the context of feminism. The idea that if men were more noble then women would do better seems very regressive to me. For centuries we've had the idea that men can vote on behalf of women, represent women, act in women's interests. Feminism is not about hoping men will behave better, in my opinion!

The behaviour of men clearly an issue for Feminists. Thus if someone is actively trying to tackle the behaviour of men, then that does impact on women. Thus, it has every place on this board.

BabyItsAWildWorld · 20/03/2021 12:13

For me he has stimulated and opened up thinking and understanding of history, psychology and philosophy in a way no one else has ever done. And I've read a lot of psychology and philosophy over the years.

I listen to him mostly rather than read him.

There are concepts his talks about which I'm only now beginning to understand after several years of listening to him. Such as the biological nature of values.

I think he is utterly briliant and extraordinary, and like no-one else in the public sphere currently.

His guidance is for individuals, so a group analysis using feminism is not going to work. His principles could help every individual women, but they are not aimed at group based interventions. (Which he is wary of on all counts as a social scientist due to the multi variance factors of all problems, and unless we can truly understand the problem why would we think we can enact policies to address them?)

This is where I think Cathy Newman and feminists go wrong with him. They posit an argument that discreapancies in outcomes for women must all be accounted for through the sexist culture of the patriarchy. He resposnds, no, there is also substantial evdience for biological differences and reproductive roles leading to different choices. So yes there will be sexism, historically there has certainly been oppresion but we (in the West) have consistently moved towards overcoming this in our laws and culture, but that is not the only factor, and if we pretend it is and only focus on that it does not support all the individual women as they make choices in thier lives.

I think feminism has badly let woemn down in the dogmatic refusal to enage in the multi factorial nature of the diffrent outrcomes and roles of men and women, and the insistence on sexism and oppression as the only reasons that can be considered.

To the poster above who asked about if we were feminists and gender critical on here:

Yes I'm a feminist. I'm interested in the issues that effect women and girls but I don't ascribe all the reasons for this to just sexism and hatred of women.

And I'm not gender criticla in the way it's used on these boards, as I think there is a lot of evdience that there are some behavioural and personality differences between men and women (statistically not individually) that cannot be explained just by socialistion.
And that doesn't worry me. Or suprise me.

What does worry me is when that fact is used to constrain individual choice or opportunity, or when it is used to define people, or override the concept and language of biological sex.

And when doing the above has negative impact on women and girls.

mibbelucieachwell · 21/03/2021 13:55

I'm surprised he gets away with ascribing so much to biological differences. My understanding is that the brains of new born babies don't show sex based differences but due to the plasticity of infant brains, socialisation subsequently creates differences between the brains of boys and girls.

I wonder if JP has seen the studies that measure levels of oxytocin in new dads who engage in a lot of close contact with their babies? It turns out that men have an increase in oxytocin similar to new mums. It may not be that women are biologically more adapted than men to be carers, except in so far as only women can carry, deliver and breastfeed babies.

My experience of men citing evolution is that they're usually trying to excuse bad behaviour. Apparently men can't possibly be expected to multitask because they've evolved to concentrate intently on hunting, blah blah. It's frankly ridiculous.

Gurufloof · 21/03/2021 14:26

This is the feminist board so I'm assuming we are discussing his views is the context of feminism. The idea that if men were more noble then women would do better seems very regressive to me

I wasn't particularly discussing his views with feminism in mind, but he has said some insightful things, one being only be friends with those who will be happy for you (I'm paraphrasing) which makes sense to me for women or men. Why not actually only have the people around you who have your best interests.

And if men did this and were happier as a result, then surely we women will benefit from that. And if women did this and were happier then fabulous, if nothing else people will be nicer to live around.

It's not like these are the rules after all, if one wishes to associate with people who wont be pleasant , nothing stopping them.

MaMaLa321 · 21/03/2021 16:25

He's a throwback to the previous century, when we appreciated interesting people, and didn't expect them to be paragons of virtue or conformism.

Yes to this.

I would be interested to know how many people who dislike him have engaged with his work directly, rather than at second hand.

MuggleStudiesResearchProject · 21/03/2021 16:56

From what I've seen and heard of him he seems to see everything in the world now as an evolutionary inevitability. Which I cannot get on board with, as society can and does change and is not consistent around the world. I also notice the way he presents some studies and evidence upholding a viewpoint, but then at the last moment swerves to a similar but logically unrelated conclusion that seems to follow on, but doesn't. He does seem to believe his logical leaps are true, and portrays them convincingly. It is only when you really stop and think that you can see what he's doing.

The person I know who is very into him is a proper misogynist (actual PUA), and repeats his views as if they were his own. It's very easy to pick flaws in his arguments, and see the misogynistic biases and the right wing/Christian roots.

He appeals to those who already share his views or who are not deeper critical thinkers from my experience. That's not to say none of his view points bear any weight (though the arguments he uses to support them often lack rigour), but as a package his followers have an almost cult-like feel. One man justifying his ideology by couching it in selected science. The more I hear and read his works the more I feel this to be true.

Erkrie · 21/03/2021 18:02

I think those who seek to put down his ideas, without actually spending the time and energy to really understand them, instead relying on opinions and snapshots, are those who lack deep critical thinking skills imo.

MaMaLa321 · 21/03/2021 18:04

I think those who seek to put down his ideas, without actually spending the time and energy to really understand them, instead relying on opinions and snapshots, are those who lack deep critical thinking skills imo.
yes to this, in spades.

Josette77 · 21/03/2021 18:16

I love him. He changed my life with his views and not only helped empower me but helped me leave an abusive marriage.

Gurufloof · 21/03/2021 18:34

I also notice the way he presents some studies and evidence upholding a viewpoint, but then at the last moment swerves to a similar but logically unrelated conclusion that seems to follow on, but doesn't

I've never seen him present any studies, are they on YouTube somewhere?

MuggleStudiesResearchProject · 21/03/2021 18:37

He doesn't exactly present studies as much as references outcomes or "known facts" and link them arbitrarily, poor phrasing on my part.

Gurufloof · 21/03/2021 18:50

@MuggleStudiesResearchProject

He doesn't exactly present studies as much as references outcomes or "known facts" and link them arbitrarily, poor phrasing on my part.
Ok give me a clue in which videos he does that. I've by no means watched them all and I've not got time to trawl through every one to find these events.
Livinginthecity · 21/03/2021 19:11

He is right that men have absconded from their responsibilities as fathers. This is because a single mother can now manage without them, either by earning her own living or subsidies from the State.

MuggleStudiesResearchProject · 21/03/2021 19:17

@gurufloof

I don't have the time to go searching right now, but lobsters are the perfect example of this. He uses them to justify our current hierarchies, which is an enormous and unjustifiable leap. It sounds like science because the lobster physiology is based on reproducible science, but linking it in the way he does just feels like grasping.

MuggleStudiesResearchProject · 21/03/2021 19:22

To those who say their lives have been changed because of him, what specifically do you mean? Which of his points? As he presents and endorses so many views, some basic common sense, some awful (antisemitic cultural Marxism for example) I'd love to know what exactly you're referring to.