Surrogacy again, why is the BBC selling this?

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I am in despair again, at the so-called beliefs of some men and women, that they have a right to having a baby. And convincing a woman with vulnerability to do it.
I'm linking the Daily Mail story as this is the first search result when looking under Google.

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-9351973/Single-mother-23-says-gay-couples-surrogate-gave-life-new-meaning.html

This lady is 23 and a single parent already.

If we had to guess, she is likely to be much more vulnerable than two men, in terms of the power dynamic between the parties, in terms of access to money (power), in terms of her own responsibility to care and raise the child she already has.

It sounds as though she was vulnerable, feeling low, possibly low self-esteem after her relationship ended and she became a single mother.
This is predatory.

All her self-worth is tied up in them thinking that she is helping them out, by giving them her egg and carrying the baby during pregnancy.
She has clearly been groomed into thinking she is giving the child back to the original parents.

It's also very convenient to have a home birth in these circumstances.
No hospital team to question what is going on.

The first skin on skin contact is also with one of the chaps. They couldn't even let her hold the baby as soon as it was born.
Honestly, this makes me cross. No empathy or knowledge about what it can do to a child to remove them from their mother at birth.

These new surrogacy laws the law commission is working on will only go to erode protections for so many women who will be vulnerable through their economic status or family circumstances.

I think the recent posts are about Emma, the 26 year old in the studio flat with her 2 year old son.

I agree but I do think that space might have been one reason why a 4th person for her wasn't practical. I imagine that Kevin and Aki considered themselves her birth partners but of course they were there for the baby and not specifically to support Emma. The midwife sort of was but not in the way you have your mum or partner with you.

I have been thinking about these woman a lot since I've watched the programmes and I do honestly worry for Emma. She has her mum and son but all the other women who were surrogate mothers had partners (although Caitlin's boyfriend broke up with her towards the end of her pregnancy so I feel for her too) . I feel that each of the women were vulnerable in their own way, no one more than another, but having a partner to help you physical during recovery and emotionally adjusting to the loss - and I do think do it as a loss - the programmes exposed quite a lot more than perhaps was intended.

I understand now why Sophie Beresiner, a commentator on surrogacy, why she considered it a 'missed opportunity' as it wasn't all happy and fluffy but demonstrated how the women involved, even the commissioning mothers, are vulnerable.

It would be good to see a follow up or hear from the women in about 6 months, when parental orders are signed, to see how they are doing. I think that would be very interesting. Particularly to see if the relationships between the surrogate mothers and commissioning parents have endured.