I think most Mumsnetters actually don't get involved in any of the conversation around trans on here. I am one of those Mumsnetters! Until now anyway!
I am here mainly for the Style and Beauty board and the Baby Names board. Sometimes I get dragged into the weight problem chats, but I try to avoid those too, as a vocal minority of Mumsnetters are fatphobic cunts.
Anyway, as to your question; I am happy to use pronouns he / she / they or whatever the person would like. I personally don't identify with any gender, but I'm a natal woman, (cis, if you must), as I was born with a vagina, uterus etc. I've given birth, had periods, breastfed and so on.
What has bothered me about the wider conversation, outside Mumsnet, is the notion that a trans woman can self identify as a woman and walk straight into female only spaces. Do I think all trans women are evil rapists, just because some of them choose not to undergo the full surgery and still have a penis etc? NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!! I'm not a nutcase. Obviously, I don't think that and if I meet a transwoman in normal day to day life, I chat to her as a woman, as far as that's even a thing.
Do I think someone who identified (publicly at least) as a man yesterday and identifies as a woman today, should be able to access changing rooms with women and little girls in there? No, sorry, I don't. It's because I've had bad experiences with penis owners, (not necessarily men, obviously). And the problem was indeed, their penis. So it does make me a little jumpy if I'm butt naked and unexpectedly there's someone with me, in a female only space with their penis on full show. Maybe this is a 'me' problem and I just shouldn't use public changing rooms? Who knows what the wider population thinks? I know what MN thinks, so nobody needs to tell me from here. But interested in what op thinks. Genuinely interested. Not wishing to goad.
I also find it irritating that women are the ones having to accommodate trans, while men don't. Trans men use female prisons (it wouldn't be safe to have them in with cis men). Transwomen also use female prisons. So cis women have to accommodate. Cis men don't seem to have to accommodate, and they are clearly the problem (sorry menz) if both transwomen and trans men feel unsafe being housed with them.
Womens health it is sometime suggested should be changed to be more inclusive....oh what was it "health for people who get pregnant and bleed" 🤢. But I didn't see anyone saying mens health should be changed to "people who have penises and ejaculate". Or maybe I missed it.
It annoys me that womens issues panels now have people who lived lives as highly privileged men, (although they were trans women all along). But nobody knew that, so they were treated by others, with the same level of privilege that white, wealthy men tend to receive. Now they are experts on issues facing women, having lived openly as women for only a short time...? Are they? I know when we consider intersectionality, they are under privileged because they are trans, and if they joined a panel for trans rights I'd think "yes, of course, you know more about that". But they have lived with the privilege afforded to men, for a long time already. Seems a bit much for them to now have a voice on a panel for issues affecting a historically oppressed section of society, (women I mean...or is it people with uteri?), on the face of it.
Just my thoughts. I very rarely voice them on here.
I do think refusing to use someone's pronouns is shitty. I do think transpeople are discriminated against generally and do face a number of dangers just for living their lives and that is unacceptable. Trans rights are human rights - yes, absolutely. But, women (cis), also are human and have rights. So, there is a balance and a conversation to be had, without people screaming TERF or cis scum at anyone who wants to have that conversation.