Hecate great post.
This illustrates, again, how when small lies are enabled as 'kindness' the push just goes further and further. Eventually the point has to come where the answer is 'no', this cannot be enabled any further. And the further it has been allowed to go, the harder it is to put down the boundary and the bigger the anger in response. Boundaries. Good relationships and good, well functioning social situations have them.
Mutual good experience is a part of a successful social situation (hence the need for boundaries.) It's also what makes for successful inclusion. When the experience of one side is satisfaction at the expense and unhappiness (and in this case danger of injury and worse) at the other, it's not mutually satisfying. Would you tell a woman to stay in any relationship where they gave everything, and got nothing but the shitty end of the stick because it was their job to make the other person happy? To ensure their needs and feelings were cared for? To constantly understand how hard it is for them and compensate them accordingly?
If you're in this kind of a relationship with someone, and it's healthy, you're either a professional being paid for it (with boundaries), or you're their mum. Non reciprocal, unequal relationships where there is no mutual respect, care, understanding, are not good ones.
There comes a point where this moves past looking like a total lack of awareness of the issues for female people in this situation, an alarming lack of empathy or basic social reciprocation skills, or merely viewing female humans as props in the lives of more important humans, (which is bad enough,). It becomes extreme to the point you start to wonder, is the desire here to see female people actively subjugate themselves, be seen enduring the humiliation and overturning of their consent in sharing a changing room in the presence of the one who has more power and influence, and present themselves for the risk of injury? Is there a seeking to meet some need by seeing women do this for them?
And how ethical is it to permit women to be forced to do this for a male person? Because there's no doubt in anyone's mind as to who is in the group that gets to demand and emote and pressure, and who is only allowed to plead their case here, if they do it very, very nicely. It's wholly sex based thinking. We might as well be honest about it.
Pretending the unpleasant bits of reality don't exist don't make them go away. Most small children have figured that one out.