''lovestruck student who was given a wrong number by a mystery girl''

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How is 'persistent pest who won't take no for an answer and scared his victim into giving a false name, address and phone number'' a romantic story?
The only good thing is that many of the comments (even in the Sun) aren't buying it.

He is a third year psychology student. He is going to be working with vulnerable people. Should one of his tutors take him to one side and have a chat?

www.cambridge-news.co.uk/news/uk-world-news/student-hand-writes-100-letters-18794615

Well hopefully "Amy" will avoid the coffee shop "Wired" in Nottingham where he works and perhaps someone from the University might have a word with him. Amy is well within her rights to contact Notts Police about his misogyny as they are very supportive in dealing with that apparently.

Here's the link,I think said bloke is studying at the same uni?! 😮

www.nottingham.ac.uk/vision/misogyny-matters

"But actually, telling them you're not interested doesn't work.... And a lot of the time, neither does pretending to be a lesbian..."

Nor being a lesbian. I was at an academic summer school once as a student, and despite being a totally out dyke, some bloke kept following me. The other blokes I was hanging out with (male-dominated subject), laughed about it a bit. Eventually creepy bloke asked if I was a strict lesbian and would I ever consider.......I said I would rather eat my own vomit......

Freaked me out for much of the summer school, rather than concentrating on the subject matter, or finding interesting conversations during breaks and making contacts, I was just continually trying to avoid Mr (trying to be Dr) Creepy.

It really does not matter what you say or do to say NO, you weigh as nothing compared to their wishes.

I found it DID work. It was just incredibly awkward. LIke it was ''rude'' not to find your boss attractive if he came on to you. Or ''rude'' not to have any interest in somebody random who expressed interest in you a potential 'interest'.
In my experience being blunt that you'd no interest in them and not hiding behind the usual shield of ''oh we work together'' or ''it's not appropriate because you're married'' or whatever did work, but as many women also instinctively sense, it's a risk. It's an injury to a man's ego and that is a danger to women.

I find you unattractive is the quickest way to get rid of creep but it is also the most risky way to reject a dangerous creep.

Women are walking this tightrope.

Looked for the 'story' and found it here. I hope girls are savvy about giving their true identity to randoms and Margaret or whoever is off the radar of this hunt. If I was the girl, I'd be having a talk with the police.

One of the comments says 'I hope you find your Amy'.

www.ladbible.com/news/uk-man-writes-more-than-100-letters-to-woman-who-gave-him-wrong-number-20200820

I house shared with this guy at uni. He seemed ok at first. Then we realised he had taken our friends number from our phone book and asked her to an event (she thought we were coming too and we knew). And he boasted about seeing this beautiful girl in town, following her home, then returning to her door with a bouquet of flowers. People were saying how romantic! I said how creepy. Then he lost it one day about us having the light on in the day (bills) and shouted at us and punched the door. Me and my other housemate had to move out, we were too scared to stay.

In Gavin de Becker's The Gift of Fear he talks about how the media/movies have encouraged the idea of persistence as a rewarding strategy for men

Reminded me of this

www.cracked.com/blog/how-men-are-trained-to-think-sexual-assault-no-big-deal/

Ugh. Normalising this kind of behaviour as 'romantic' just gaslights women

@ScrapThatThen

Blimey. Just goes to show all the “he comes across as creepy” is borne out by reality. I hope he never catches up with poor “Amy”.