Would you change your sex?

[LunaPlena]

I mean if there were any magic that made it possible. Like you ask your fairy godmother and you wake up tomorrow being a real man.

I thought about this yesterday for the first time in a while. I went to walk to the woods alone (never done it before) and instead of enjoy it I felt scared. How not to? I've been groped, aggresively catcalled, followed, grabbed by the neck and so on, at least hundred of times. And this happened in plain daylight with other people around (streets, concerts, buses...), how am I going to feel safe alone in a place where nobody is going to hear me if I scream?

The point is, I felt frustrated, I felt like I'm in an invisible jail that society can not (or don't want to) see and I can't escape. I tried to look for solutions: Should I carry a weapon? No, that's dangerous. Should I cut my hair and dress like a man? No, I don't even look like one. And then I thought this, if it were really possible to change, I would do it.

I want to be a man and escape so many jails, the make up, the waxing, the uncomfortable clothes, the sexualising, the shit partners, the abuse and the fear. And all this mental burden that is always there like a heavy rock.

So have you ever felt like this or it's just me being odd/weak/crazy?

The grass is always greener on the side of nature.

Exactly, if you run away from your problems you'll just find a new set. Part of life is dealing with the issues that life has thrown at you. If you can't find away to manage the problems you have through being a woman, you probably won't be able to deal with the problems life gives you as man. And being a trans person present a whole new set of problems. Better to accept the life you have been given, build resilience and problem solve.

Girls thinking they can identify out of being a women are unlikely to find an easier ride as a transman. Transmen still get raped, but also have to deal with male aggression and violence but with weaker smaller women's bodies.

Honestly, I might. I am feeling very disconnected from myfemale body right now. I hate my boobs. I'd make a decent man - love strength training, all that testosterone would come in handy.

No boobs bobbing up and down when you run

Seriously? You wouldn’t miss your boobs? Would you really prefer to look down and see a flat hairy chest - for ever?

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

I wouldn’t - I am happy being female.

And I know this will sound exceedingly lazy, but I got to be the stay-at-home parent, and have never gone back to work - and I like my lifestyle - a bit of domesticity, reading, doing crafts - and if I was a man, I might have to go back to work.

Good on you.

No, because then I wouldn’t be me. I’d be a fundamentally different person. But I like who I am.

I've always said I'd love a shot of having a penis for a day. Just to see what all the fuss is about.

@AzraiL

No, I wouldn't change into a man. Instead, I'd make every man become female for a while so that they understood what it entails.

Wouldn't it just be cupping boobs constantly instead of balls? Check they're still attached.

@thinkingaboutLangCleg

Why not do some martial arts training such as krav maga, so you feel confident you can floor any attacker and get yourself safely away?

if only. Unless you reach the highest level (and how many hours a day do you want to spend training?), you're very unlikely to floor an able-bodied male attacker, unless he is very drunk. He also has the advantage of choosing the time and place to attack you.

Martial arts may build your strength and co-ordination. But they only give you a small advantage over an untrained woman, and probably none over a male attacker.

What Krav Maga might give is experience of being “attacked” in training to try and lessen the freeze response that floors most first time victims (please note I am not making any judgments here about whether there is a “correct” response etc etc, just describing Krav theory).

Eg. In one exercise You are asked to stand in the middle of a room, close your eyes and five or six people surround you. They run towards you at random and someone shouts as they get within striking distance which is when you are to open your eyes, then they mime the attack and you try to defend yourself with the defensive moves. They recommend you are as explosive, loud and sudden as possible. This is all about forcing your mind to get used to the suddenness of being attacked out of the blue so that it isn’t new to you if it happens. I found this liberating although I can imagine it would be terrifying for some.

(Ultimately though the advice is to strike and RLF. Or not be there in the first place.)

This is all about forcing your mind to get used to the suddenness of being attacked out of the blue so that it isn’t new to you if it happens. I found this liberating although I can imagine it would be terrifying for some.

That sounds like it might be of some limited use. The idea that any woman is about to ‘floor’ a male attacker is still crazy talk, though. As pp said, the only answer is to run like fuck (and hope help is forthcoming).

X-post.

There is no illusion of that. Not even for the men in the class. The theory is to be as explosive as possible, seek perhaps to distract or momentarily disable eg kick to groin, elbow jab to throat or solar plexus etc and then flee. Hence always be aware of escape routes, sources of help etc etc. Avoid dark alleys etc - and as I say, same advice even to some pretty fit ex military male types. Fighting a last resort.

Argh, I don't think I could handle that! I've had friends who did martial arts stuff but froze when mugged. My DP advised me to go for eyes and balls, as hard as possible. And RLF.

In most martial arts you don’t actually strike your training partner “hard”, I believe ? Apparently that’s why it is then all ”incorrect” muscle memory? Another common problem is that traditional martial arts train you to be respectful of the partner and to stop and acknowledge them after a “bout” which interferes with the need to RLF in real life, as again your brain and body are fighting that instinct to bow or somehow shake hands or whatever it is you are expected to do.

And of course most martial arts sports prohibit striking eyes, balls etc so again you have to fight that instinct not to “go there”...

No. I love being female. I could probably love being male too, if I were to wake up as one, tbh. But I’d rather stay as I am. Maybe I just enjoy being human!

No! And I'm another who wanted to be a boy when I was little, and I've always been a "tomboy" in some ways, but I look at men and despite the disadvantages I'd rather be a woman. I like my female body and the incredible things it's done.

As AlbusSirius says, getting older as a woman is great - for so many women, it gets better as you go along, and I don't think that's so true for men. Women tend to emerge separations in later life and end up happier. We get stronger and wiser and realise that not giving a shit is a great gift.

Also despite being straight and liking sex with men, I hate the thought of having a male genitals, urgh! Just dangling about like that.

Although I could go for the occasional transformation option which would be useful for particular situations - but I'd transform back asap.

I like being a woman so wouldn’t swap even if it were a choice but I suspect the ‘grass is greener’ comments are true. You swap your ‘cages’ for a set of different ones.

Seems to me it’s a lot easier to be a woman who likes traditionally male things than vice versa. So women have more choice of interests /clothing etc etc...

No, I find men's bodies gross.