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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Priti Patel

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VeganFeminism · 12/06/2020 14:23

I'm not sure if feminism is the right place for this, but, at the same time, I think that the treatment of Priti Patel has a lot to do with her sex, so...

Firstly, i'm not really a fan of Patel's politics. Whilst I am politically homeless, I am not a Tory.

However, I find the treatment of Priti Patel to be quite unique, and not in a good way. A few months ago, there were countless stories about her being a "bully". I'm not sure if she is or not, but i do know hat her male counterparts rarely get the same insults thrown at them.

Yesterday, she received a letter from several Labour members (twitter.com/pritipatel/status/1271075607955288064). The letter criticises the way that Patel has discussed her experiences of racism in the UK. It asks her to reflect on her words and impact. I found this letter incredibly patronising. Again, I doubt it would have been sent to her if she were male.

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mungrymutt · 12/06/2020 19:02

GCAcademic has already touched on it but there's seems to be an ongoing movement not to include people of Indian origin in the BAME grouping,

I find this really odd because it was my understanding that terrorism/islamophobia had caused an increase in abuse. Ime lots of people don't distinguish between Indian & Pakistani people when hurling racial abuse at them.

Daca · 12/06/2020 19:04

I thought the open letter to PP from the Labour MPs was pathetic. Writing a public letter in which you tell someone to go away and ‘reflect’ is patronising and unproductive. Why can’t they request a private meeting and discuss the issues?
Newfound respect for PP.

Freespeecher · 12/06/2020 19:05

I mean I don't claim it makes any sense, but I think there's at least some evidence of it (though I am referring to it in the political sense as opposed to general unpleasasntness in the street etc).

mungrymutt · 12/06/2020 19:08

oh sorry @Freespeecher I didn't mean my post to question you just question the idea.

mungrymutt · 12/06/2020 19:12
  • It's worth pointing out that many people of Indian and East African heritage who are in the Conservative party are from families who could not get jobs when they moved here and so had no choice but to set up their own businesses which became very successful. It was interesting to read the posts about Labour criticism aimed at of people who have the 'wrong' politics because there are some parallels with anti semitism. Many Corbynistas took the view that Jewish people who were economically comfortable could not experience discrimination. There was a similar incident with Kemi Badenoch who was told last week that she was not allowed to think Britain was one of the best countries in which to be from a minority ethnic group. Of course there is too much racism here but she is entitled to speak from her experience as a person of Nigerian heritage**

I'm so confused by labour at the moment particularly after they lost their traditional areas to the Tories.

Elsiebear90 · 12/06/2020 19:13

Surely a better example of this is Theresa May? Priti Patel is vile, almost as bad as Dominic Cummings, only she faces much more abuse for it and he seems to get away Scot free. However, Theresa May was treated appallingly, gets destroyed for her “atrocious” Brexit deal, yet when Boris Johnson copies about 95% of it and it’s revealed the country would be even worse off with his changes it’s a stroke of genius apparently.

TheProdigalKittensReturn · 12/06/2020 19:22

I'm not sure why people can't disagree with Priti Patel's politics (which I do) without recognizing that the way she's being treated both in the media and by other politicians is heavily influenced by both sexism and racism. Nor indeed do I understand why people who would generally consider themselves to be aware of both sexism and racism would have expected otherwise.

It's really not on to decry either of those things in general but then make exceptions when you dislike the target, not only because it's wrong in general but because the splash damage inevitably hits people other than the intended target.

TheProdigalKittensReturn · 12/06/2020 19:23

While recognizing, I mean.

NonnyMouse1337 · 12/06/2020 19:33

Migrants and minorities who seem to have made a success of themselves do appear to be disliked by the Left in general. It doesn't fit in with the poor, downtrodden and oppressed narrative. I find people from those backgrounds also tend to find the Conservatives more appealing politically due to the angle of hard work, personal responsibility, making something of yourself in spite of the odds, importance of family and respect for law, order and fairness etc that are familiar themes in traditional Conservatism.

The simplistic narrative of white = privileged and not white = oppressed doesn't work in their case, hence the insults.

NonnyMouse1337 · 12/06/2020 19:45

There was a similar incident with Kemi Badenoch who was told last week that she was not allowed to think Britain was one of the best countries in which to be from a minority ethnic group.

I'm not surprised. I've lived in Kuwait and India, and I think Scotland is the least sexist and racist place to be compared to them and I'm glad I live in the UK. Clearly I need to be re-educated. Smile

BelleHathor · 12/06/2020 19:50

This video made me laugh regarding the white privilege narrative
m.youtube.com/watch?v=juQLifY4l_0

2Rebecca · 12/06/2020 20:59

The left is rather bizarre in its view that all non white people have to be poor and suffering under capitalism. It ignores the fact that Harvard set up a selection process to downgrade Asians because they were exceeding their ethnic "quota" and outperforming white youths, and young people from China and nearby countries moving to the UK do really well academically and in competitions like the BBC's Young Musician competition.
Trevor Phillips was taken to task for wanting to look at why certain groups do so badly and wasn't wanting to write it all off as white racism as he saw some non white groups were thriving.

1forsorrow · 12/06/2020 21:01

Oh no, I went to look at the link and got a horrible advert for cleaning wax out of your ear. It wasn't pleasant.

CaraDune · 12/06/2020 21:16

Even though I can't stand a lot of what Priti Patel has done and said (death penalty - albeit back-tracked, trying to carry out off-the-books negotiations in Israel without the knowledge of her officials or her senior minister, the Foreign Secretary, standing by the whole "hostile environment" crap, etc. etc.), yes, I absolutely think she's on the receiving end of both sexism and racism.

The "yes you're from an ethnic minority, but you're doing being a member of that ethnic minority the wrong way" is very reminiscent of the sort of people who try to tell me I'm doing feminism wrong, or even worse, doing woman-ing wrong.

(Total aside, but @1forsorrow do not ever go to sporners' corner on this site! Shock)

Floatyboat · 12/06/2020 21:34

Normally can't stand Patel (seems to revel in the law and order type vibe) but very sympathetic with her this time.

Politician told her she doesn't understand protests against racism, she says she understands racism very well and gives succinct but powerful account of her experiences. 30 politicians write her a letter saying she's wrong. It is the left wing thought police and they do this to women and people of colour more than white men. Obvious parallels to Trevor Phillips and JKR.

TheProdigalKittensReturn · 12/06/2020 21:42

The idea that Indian people should all have the same beliefs is as absurd as the idea that women should all have the same beliefs. Doesn't it call come down to othering people by refusing to see them as individuals in a way? It isn't any more acceptable when coming from people who're theoretically on my side politically (in this case that patronizing letter Patel got from some Labour members), if anything it just makes me feel like I can't trust them to take me seriously if and when I disagree with them either (which has indeed turned out to be the case).

NonnyMouse1337 · 12/06/2020 22:17

[quote BelleHathor]This video made me laugh regarding the white privilege narrative
m.youtube.com/watch?v=juQLifY4l_0[/quote]
Omg what a burn!!!!!!!! 😂😂😂

Jamclag · 12/06/2020 22:36

I agree with the general consensus. I detest Patel's politics, as well as her delivery, but she is a victim of both sexism and racism. Left or Right women don't escape this shit.

Regarding the interesting phenomenon of immigrants whose families have experienced hardship and discrimination, who then go on to support anti-immigration policies once successful, I think joining 'the establishment' is a protection strategy. Supporting/advocating these policies won't help others from similar backgrounds but on an individualistic level it solidifies their own status/belonging within the group. If you can't beat them...

Needmoresleep · 13/06/2020 09:46

For anyone who is interested in her background
www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8416055/PRITI-PATEL-reveals-outrage-boarding-Churchill-contempt-rioters-thuggery.html

Daughter of a Norfolk grocery shop owner.

Thatcher was the daughter of a Grantham grocery shop owner.

The Tories have always had their non public school representatives, thank goodness. These are more likely to be conviction politicians, wanting to change things, rather than politics being one of several professions you might feel entitled to join. Question is are women entitled to have convictions that others don’t share? And are BAME people allowed to have beliefs that appear to reflect the UK environment they grew up in, rather than their ethnic origins.

PrincessConsuelaVaginaHammock · 13/06/2020 09:50

PP is who she is. People voted for her. Why did they vote for her. That is the question that needs to be asked?

In her constituency, whoever the Conservative candidate was would be elected. Witham is a spectacularly safe seat. There are dozens, if not hundreds of seats in the UK where the electorate would probably choose a goldfish if it wore the preferred rosette, and those results never tell us anything much about the successful candidate.

Needmoresleep · 13/06/2020 10:05

But she has also made headway in a parliamentary Conservative party, many of whom were elected to very marginal seats. They must think she is what their voters want.

(I would add that she seemed to be a surprise choice for many Conservatives. The Tories have always had their right wing but few make it through to the front benches.)

PrincessConsuelaVaginaHammock · 13/06/2020 10:20

I don't know why the party chose her over whoever the alternatives would've been for that seat, but I was responding to the point about why people voted for her. Any candidate winning a very safe seat doesn't really tell us much about them in our political system, when that same candidate would struggle to avoid losing the deposit if run in one of the constituencies where a rival party has a 20k majority.

Needmoresleep · 13/06/2020 10:36

I was referring to the whole democratic process. There will have been a whole bunch of Oxford Old Etonians lining up for Priti's safe seat. And plenty on the party wanting to be Home Secretary.

She is there because they think she will appeal to Tory voters including the Red Wall voters who feel ignored by Labour. Some of those will be BAME.

Part of the reaction to her is because she's a woman, but part is probably because she is a threat. As she is an outlier, not one of Boris' boys, the hope will be that she can be toppled.

BovaryX · 13/06/2020 10:46

Priti Patel makes the point that assuming everyone who is not white has identical political opinions is in itself racist. She speaks about the UK as a country of freedom and opportunity when her family was expelled from Uganda. This causes such cognitive dissonance in those who can't comprehend that it's possible for people from BAME backgrounds to have different political views and to view the UK positively, that she is accused of not having an Indian heritage at all. It's illuminating that some of those happy to give a pass to the racist abuse of Priti Patel are middle class, white Guardian readers. Who consider themselves 'progressive.'

^they are trying to silence me because I don't conform to their version of what it is to be an ethnic minority,' she seethes. 'They think they have a licence to speak for everybody from an ethnic minority community.'That is not the case. It is simply not the case. We're all different. We're all individuals. What they are saying is racist in itself, and I don't think we should lose sight of that.'
'They' are the 31 MPs — 'Left of Left of the Labour Party more associated with Jeremy Corbyn,' says Priti — who have sent a vile letter accusing her of 'gaslighting' others from minority communities after she spoke about her own experience of racism earlier this week^

1forsorrow · 13/06/2020 11:29

Assuming all BAME people will have the same political opinion is a bit like assuming all BAME people will have the same experience of racism.

Michelle Obama was likened to a gorilla by some in the USA, I don't think that is as likely to happen to an Indian woman as it is to a black woman. Young Indian woman are often considered very beautiful by the standards of white society, black woman often get ridiculed for their features e.g. my daughter (mixed race) was called nigger nose at school, a beautician told her that she had very big lips (ha very popular now but not so much 20 years ago) long straight glossy hair is something many of us would love, Afro hair isn't so popular. Many black/mixed race women (and some men) change these features to fit the conventional model, hasn't Meghan Markel had her nose done and she straightens her hair. Of course lots of black and mixed race women are very attractive but isn't it sad that so many feel the need to have to fit the "white" stereotype of beauty by changing these things.

Indian friends have told me there is definitely a colour prejudice in much of Indian society, Priti Patel did well by that standard as she is fair skinned, apparently much favoured in Indian society and my friends have told me it will be something that is commented on when a baby is born or when a marriage is being considered e.g. a girl/boy being told to consider that their prospective partner is dark and think of the children.

Priti Patel was also lucky to grow up in a family that did well financially, they owned a chain of shops.

Indian and East African Asians generally attain more at school, tend to be better off financially, are less likely to be profiled by police. So no I don't think Priti Patel can tell black women about the prejudice they experience. Her experience is hers but it is likely to be different.