Spartacus I’ve lost track of the Tavi process, but Sandyford is even worse than you might imagine in that you can also self refer or your school can refer you etc. They say it can be “useful” to see your GP first, but there’s no requirement.
Anyway, on topic, I’m of similar thinking to Melia. From what I can tell, the TW/TM who seem most comfortable with themselves are the ones who accept biological reality and assuming my DD carries on with her desire to be seen as a boy, I think it is my job to make sure she is grounded in as much reality as possible. So what might make her uncomfortable right now longer term as she matures, I think her mental health will be better if we don’t go down the “triggers” route and try to hide RL from her.