New Transwidows website: Trans Widows Voices

[TinselAngel]

I'm really pleased to be able to finally launch this new website:

www.transwidowsvoices.org/

Some of you were kind enough to deploy your spades to enable its creation. All of the funding has been provided by feminists such as yourselves.

This is a site owned by trans widows where women will be able to tell their stories. There is a huge need for this to counter the one sided "stunning and brave" narrative that is the only story told by the media.

There are four stories on the site so far and more stories will be added as we receive them. We also hope there will be some exciting guest blogs.

I think I can risk speaking for all the trans widows here when I say, thank you so much to @MNHQ for continuing to have us and to and all FWR supporters for enabling us to get this far.

I'm very lucky that my web designer friend will work for me, for cheese 🧀, however given she reached the top of that mountain we're not supposed to talk about recently, it's good for her to have a focus for the rage!

What an unfriendly not friend you really are. This website is a badly needed beacon of light for those women otherwise silenced by the ghastly bullying trans narrative

Be off with you - back under your rock!

Thanks for bumping the thread though, not so friendly friend!

Ghastly in what sense? Are you objecting to the web design? Or is it ghastly to hear women's voices and experiences in your opinion?

Trip trap, trap trap...

People can't bear hearing how it really is. The trans lobby are terribly keen on lived experience, self-definition and the supreme importance of how trans people feel. Oh, and equality and fairness and respect. But none of that applies to others. Women in this position have been silenced for long enough, hence the website. Hard to swallow I know...

Seems to be hitting a nerve, doesn't it?

The trans lobby are terribly keen on lived experience, self-definition and the supreme importance of how trans people feel. Oh, and equality and fairness and respect. But none of that applies to others.

It doesn't even apply to people who are trans unless they are politically obedient to the lobby.

I see no one has yet actually had the guts to say they object to hurt female people sharing their lived experience. Or why.

Great job, looks lovely too. I think the 'leave now' button is a genius idea (and possibly a very helpful piece of advice!).

I hope it brings much needed relief to women feel alone and much needed understanding to anyone swayed by the 'brave and stunning' narrative.

Tinsel it does, doesn't it.

Thank you Tinsel, looks fabulous, you are a star! Your site provides a much needed resource for other women who are going thru this absolutely crazy situation.

A couple of new stories have gone on the site this week.

It's such a powerful site. The stories are compelling. And even if you have no experience of the issue, their veracity is so obviously genuine.

It's a game changer tinsel.

A couple of new stories have gone on the site this week.

for Autumn & Simone.

The patterns of abusive controlling behaviour are clear.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3452784-Coercive-Control-a-need-for-better-awareness

From Simone's Story: 'Identity Found'

“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars” - Khalil Gibran

Thanks for the update.

I found Simone’s story so distressing, I hope she and her child have found peace now.

The stories are sad but some of these blokes sounded unpleasant controlling and dysfunctional before they decided to transition and the transitioning just sounds like part of the reason the relationship broke down and the women would have been better without them whatever their gender identity.

Hopefully as our stories are shared more we will be able to identify if this is a pattern.

Well done. You are all bloody amazing.

@TinselAngel I may have some extra material on narcissism and narcissistic husbands for your resources section. One of my best female friends has a narcissistic husband, who has made her life a misery, and we researched some great websites and books a few years ago. I will post these here when I can dig them out.

How is cross dressing related to being trans? Like biological do that sometimes ive heard?

You may find this helpful:

fairplayforwomen.com/resources/key-facts/

Thx ill give it a read in a bit

Ok, here are the resources I mentioned on understanding, dealing with and recovering from a narcissistic partner. Hope some of these are helpful for your readers @TinselAngel

Online articles:

www.counselling-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/the-wounded-self-the-torture-of-narcissism

thenarcissisticlife.com/the-narcissist-and-emotional-abuse/

thenarcissisticlife.com/the-narcissist-blames-you/

thenarcissisticlife.com/the-narcissist-is-never-wrong/

thenarcissisticlife.com/living-with-a-narcissist-when-leaving-is-not-an-option/

melanietoniaevans.com/articles/narcissism-understood.htm

And a series of other probably relevant blog articles on the same author’s website:

blog.melanietoniaevans.com/

Books:

www.amazon.co.uk/Start-Here-Understanding-Navigating-Narcissistic/dp/0999593501?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

www.amazon.co.uk/Wizard-Oz-other-Narcissists-Relationship/dp/0972072837?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

www.amazon.co.uk/Stop-Caretaking-Borderline-Narcissist-Drama/dp/1442238321?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

www.amazon.co.uk/Everything-Guide-Narcissistic-Personality-Disorder-ebook/dp/B006HARCI0?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

www.amazon.co.uk/Why-Always-About-You-Narcissism/dp/0743214285?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

GCGayDad Could you also add the links to this resource thread please?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3452784-Coercive-Control-a-need-for-better-awareness