The struggles of getting a haircut as a non-binary person

[Awning10]

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I cut my own hair because my autism makes the staring into a mirror and making small talk for an hour really uncomfortable and quite often brings on a (really fun) meltdown. Maybe I should write a shit poem about it and perform it in a whiney voice, pausing in odd places over sad sad music. With some angry swears at the end for extra jollies.

Just buy some clippers love. Or go to a salon and just "fucking" tell them what you want.

Couldn't make it to the end.

Once again, I see a privileged, middle-class, and rather self-absorbed young person who is desperate to claim some sort of oppression.

Short haircuts on women have been utterly unremarkable for decades, and finding a hairdresser to perform them a complete non-event.

To be fair to the individual in the video I found it hard to get hairdressers to cut my hair as short as I like, and in the style I like. That's nothing to do with being non-binary though, it's to do with being a woman in a gendered world that expects long hair, or at the very least a feathery pixie cut. It's also annoying that women get charged more. Again nothing about being non binary.

How did we get to this, where people think that if they like short hair they can't actually be a proper woman and have to declare as non binary?

We had ridiculous and often GNC haircuts. We enjoyed them. We did them ourselves. We didn't go around feeling oppressed as the mainstream hairdressers didn't understand our style. We didn't expect them to, that's the whole point of counter culture.

This (and the rest of your post tbh!) The whole point was to be anti main stream . Undercuts were done with a bic in the school loos. Re dyed jeans only from a sex pest at Camden Market.

It’s interesting. My mum (65) has had very short hair my entire life. As do lots of her friends and some of her sisters. Growing up I recall lots of close cropped styles on my friends’ Mums. My grandmother (92) has also always had short hair and loads of her friends did and do. Maybe it’s just where I live but women with “man” short hair is very common in older generations.

Oh, the suffering!!!

That nearly made me cry it's so very very sad. Does anyone know if there's a crowdfunder I could donate to?

The thing that made me a bit puzzled is that hairdressers are being represented as these bastions of gender stereotypicality.

I could weep for our youth. Can we start sending music videos from the 80s into schools? Will someone please show them Top Of The Pops circa 1983! Someone page Annie Lennox!!!!

having tried to discuss this with a 20 something recently, I ain't going to try again, not alone! They can be vicious when trying to defend their perspective! That I was not even criticising her was lost in translation

Yikes Curiousaboutsamphire I was hoping that this might be more of a teenage phenomenon. Is nobody teaching critical thought to young people any more?!

It's a shame that the young woman in this video hasn't been given the tools to recognise sexism and be content with who she is. No labels required, her energy can safely be directed elsewhere. She's fine just as she is.

I've never seen an article on The Struggles of Being Nonbinary that didn't read like a parody.

I'm worried the video might be too high-cringe to endure, but I'll steel myself and try to stick through it. This is one of my favourite comedic genres.

The thing that made me a bit puzzled is that hairdressers are being represented as these bastions of gender stereotypicality.

ROFL. In a hipster barbers maybe - when I peeked in the expensive one to consider sending my son it was all beards and moustaches and waistcoats. The normal barber, with the queue round the corner on a Saturday morning, is staffed by men and women in black t-shirts and trousers. The most flamboyantly coiffed person being a bloke.

I'm sure most of these work-a-day barbers would cut anyone's hair for the relevant price (more expensive for long hair I noted when waiting for my eldest) - you're just going to get the standard cut - if you want something more unique, you're going to have to go to a hairdresser and pay more. Ridiculous to make a fuss about it when there's hair cutting places everywhere these days, to suit all pockets and requirements.

The problem is IN her head, not ON her head.

In my experience, Barbers and Hairdressers don't care who/what you are as long as you pay them.

I would volunteer to chop that barnet off

Oh, FFS.

As far as sex goes, we're binary. As far as gender goes, we're fluid.

We're all the same; you and your fucking hair are not special!

Well, at least it's united the Twitterverse. I can't see a single supportive comment. Not even a meme.

I have my head shaved down to a number zero. I'm a woman. I merely walk into the barbers, or hairdressers, and they say: "What would you like today?" and I say: "Number zero all over please". And they say "Right you are". And they do it.

I really wasn't aware that I should be making a drama of this and sharing it on Twitter. I am SO sorry for my tardiness

look at me! Look at me!

99% of barbers or hair stylists don't give an actual gold plated shiny shit who's hair they are cutting or what style they are cutting it in, it's a "do" like any one of other thousands they will do in their careers.

More than likely within a couple of days they won't even remember ever having met you never mind which cut you wanted unless you were a regular.

Must I forever be trundling down to the fiddle shrinkers by these piteous posts? Oh the humanity!

Kantastic

openbarbers.com

Here you go. Trans and NB friendly hair services.

It's like sinead o Connor and Marilyn et al didn't ever exist?!

I would love for my life to be so straightforward that I had that much time on my hands to spend all that effort getting worked up over something so utterly ridiculous and pointless.