The struggles of getting a haircut as a non-binary person

[Awning10]

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I suppose it's fine if the person really is OK with dealing with things like that. But bottling up / denying can also lead to people self-medicating, alcoholism/addiction, depression, or being angry, controlling or violent, or ultimately suicide.

I do think we've swung too far in the other direction so there are now loads people around who can't tolerate the slightest difficulty.

I also think deciding to be "trans" itself is hugely linked to that. Don't feel comfortable in yourself, don't like yourself, hate your body – identifying as something other and special is like a ready-made offer to just stop being the self you got lumped with and have a "whole new you". With being praised (and platformed, even if you have nothing much to say) for being stunning and brave thrown in, and everyone from the medical profession to the media, schools and arts organisations encouraging you. Of course it won't work but it's not surprising people go for it.

Nobody actually cares. The safest thing is this is the battle they have chosen and literally no one gives a shit. Hey what cut you want, where you want. Most salons are unisex- but that's not good enough for the poet snowflake. Gotta find oppression everywhere you can...

I think the word snowflake is overused and sometimes lazily misused - but the video/poem really is the ultimate definition of it. In fact it's more like a satire of snowflakiness, it's so OTT.

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It's interesting about the decision-making. I've always known people like this, who couldn't bear to make a decision because of the losing out on one option, but I think there were fewer of them.

It's a state of mind that'sbeen having the piss taken of it since forever, I reckon. Was it Aesop who told the story of the donkey who starved to death between two piles of hay because it couldn't decide which to choose? and he was 2500 years ago.

tbf, I'd quite like to pay £10 for my haircut (shaved undercut and basic trim, due primarily to menopausal hot flushes) in a barbers instead of 60 quid in a salon. It is a bit sexist and unfair, to 1000s and 1000s of women. Lets fix that first.

Also, there are regularly men getting haircuts in my salon and the barbers I take my boys to have pictures of women getting haircuts in them.

I doubt its that hard to get a haircut in a barbers as a woman if you live anywhere near a big city.

You know, many of the women who actually smashed through the sex-divide are still alive: the first woman firefighter, the first woman plumber, the first woman jet pilot, the first woman neurosurgeon, etc etc.

This complaint about the sex-divide and sex-role stereotypes regarding something as easily obtained as a haircut, to use the terms of the woke, erases all the efforts and hardship those women engaged in to smash through very hard barriers in that sex-divide.

Again I ask: has this poet ever heard of the second wave, has she ever read any of their work?

The solution to sex-role stereotypes (ie gender) ISN’T declaring oneself not of either sex (since that is, fundamentally, a lie) — the solution is more and better actual feminism.

Her haircut is exactly the same as the haircut the lesbian daughter of friends of mine has had since she was 15.

And who lives in a Scottish city.

@BickerinBrattle I think the woke teens and20-somethings just cannot Be bothered to learn about women’s history and the history of feminism.

So they are hugely disrespectful to the struggles and battles fought FOR them so they can now arse about being non-binary. Because presumably good old lesbianism is just soooo last season.