@JanMeyer that's a really good point wrt ASD, actually! I stand corrected. I use ASD on here - I don't use it in speech - because it's briefer, really. My brother uses Aspergers, so grammatical or not, I will do so because he prefers it. Neither of mine have Aspergers dx because they're too young - they just have a diagnosis of ASD, and we use autistic.
ASD kids who have parents able to scaffold them/navigate the education system on their behalf are bound to do better than those who are carers for their parents before they are even 20.
Absolutely agree. The thing that is most upsetting of all about the current shitshow of SEN provision is that the 'lucky' parents are the ones able to borrow enough cash to fight through the system, and who know that they need to do so. And that's a minority. So are the parents able to pull their kids out to home ed, as an alternative. The rest of the kids - the majority - are just abysmally failed. But some autistic kids still know this, because their challenges lie in other areas. Not all kids are alike, and they do not need to be for this to be a grossly disproportionate response. That's the key issue here.
There's a real danger in always assuming the scenario that supports your position, in that those reading who do not support that position can dismiss us on that basis. I don't want to give ground by making unfounded assumptions, when the facts are already strong. This young man may not have known what he was doing was offensive, but would there have been a sentencing report? And if so, wouldn't that have been argued in mitigation? Yet there's no reference to that (which doesn't mean it didn't happen, but should mean we don't claim it as a fact, either).