Do we really want to live in a world where we hide away the socially disabled, impulsive, tactless, difficult people?
If you work in the public facing and public service sector quite a high proportion of your most vulnerable clients most in need will be the ones who spit and swear and are drunk or high or confused or delirious, have challenges with social skills, have challenges with emotional control and behaviour expectations, who will threaten to kill you or rape you if annoyed, (gosh this list is reminding me of something can't think what it is), and if you work in prisons or classrooms or as a police officer, getting hit, bitten, kicked and worse isn't unknown either.
There are boundaries, there are approaches to manage it, but dealing with those people and doing it well is part of the job. These are the neediest clients, this is the work you're paid to engage with. If you're going to have the vapours because someone said something that hurt your feelings then frankly being in policing isn't going to end well for you. And I wonder how many non trans police officers get this kind of sympathy and reaction when they're spat at, kicked, sworn at and insulted, or have this apparent total lack of comprehension of what neurodiversity means in practical terms.