Detroit

[DetroitOtherday]

Hello?

I can't afford to rent. Right now I'm lucky enough to have money to camp safely.

Camping should be easier after labor day.

I spoke to a homeless woman. She had been bitten by a dog and wanted a band-aid. She was far too injured for a band aid to fix. I offered food, but she wanted booze, not food, sadly.

On the wildlife front, I'm being freaked out by a wood rat. Yuck.

Love the relics album too though my favourite Pink Floyd album is Darkside of the Moon probably because i still mourn the loss of Syd Barrat.
I really hope you win your fair share of the assets and can start the next phase of your life with some comforts.

I love Syd. Dark globe, baby lemonade ..I miss Syd too.

I hope I can get my fair share, but not holding out too much hope. Can't afford a good attorney unless I have a settlement, can't get a settlement unless I get a better attorney.

I'm looking for something to do, an intentional community, perhaps.

I asked a person not to let their dog shit in my campspace, feet from where I was eating. Got verbally abused

Decided to leave.

Nowhere to go

I'm sitting in my truck crying

Apparently if I was a mother they pity my children

My child who I lost I think loved me.

Not going to have electric or signal
I'll be back later in week

Hi Detroit

I haven't spoken to you before, but I think you're amazing and dealing with everything so brilliantly. I'm so sorry you're dealing with wankers like that on top of everything else.

It isn't you - it's them. They're selfish and inconsiderate. I'm in the UK but I wish you were closer so I could offer you a place to stay.

Hope you find somewhere safer Detroit. I nearly wrote ‘unbelievable’ that the attorney thinks that no money/no pension share is fair. But then I thought that unfairness is part of the system.

I think we get a distorted view in the UK because we hear about Hollywood style splits with community property rules. Then again, we also have examples here of men hiding matrimonial assets.

Hope the music and freedom (and knowing we are here for you) sustain you.

Detroit

A propos hedgehogs: I recently listened to an utterly brilliant Youtube by the British Tory politician Rory Stewart. I'd never heard of him before (not being British) but his knowledge -- in Parliament no less! of hedgehogs was breathtaking and his presentation superb.

Found the speech, with trasncript!

speakola.com/ideas/rory-stewart-hedgehog-2015

A random paragraph, but the whole thing is worh reading/listening to (I prefer reading):

The hedgehog provides a bigger lesson for us in our environment—first, a lesson in scientific humility. The hedgehog has of course been studied for over 2,000 years. The first scientific reference to the hedgehog is in Aristotle; he is picked up again by Isidore of Seville in the 8th century and again by Buffon in the 18th century, and these are reminders of the ways in which we get hedgehogs wrong. Aristotle points out that the hedgehog carries apples on his spine into his nest. Isidore of Seville argues that the hedgehog travels with grapes embedded on his spine. Buffon believes these things might have been food for the winter, but as we know today the hedgehog, hibernating as he does, is not a creature that needs to take food into his nest for the winter.

Good morning, Detroit.

Just leaving a message that you'll hopefully see on your return.

I was gardening in the allotment (for vegetables) yesterday. Our village's patches are on the edge of woods and I was thinking of you.

Last weekend I went to a sort of eco retreat in the wilderness and woods of Northern Ireland, far, far away form civilisation, and I thought of you. Several of the participants brought tents and slept out in the wild.

It's wonderful to do this for a weekend (I didn't; I went home as I'm not fit for tents with my bad hip, and I live close enough!) but for the long term must be distressing. Especially if you have no choice, and others have forced you into that life.

Detroit*, another voice adding to the chorus of support for you. I only wish I could do something practical.

My neighbour was woken by sinister heavy breathing and a sort of clunking outside in the garden. Finally got the courage to check it out.

Was hedgehogs mating who'd got stuck in a large ceramic pot. The echo was phenomenal.

Just adding a message for you to pick up later in the week. Wishing you all the best.

Re. mating noises, mating tortoises are bloomin' noisy 'cos their shells clunk together. And surprisingly nippy when they're feeling amorous.

Stay strong Detroit. Sending you positive vibes x

I had the temerity to ask a young mother not to enourage her son to piss directly into my campsite, yards from where I was eating my meal.

From that she assertained I had never been a mother and if I had she pitied my children.

Then started screaming drunkenly in my face.

Drunk entitled rednecks

Last camp was very out of the way in the forest, but quiet.

I'm looking for something at least with water spigots.

My sisters here mean the world to me

Here you buy Justice. Attorneys in my state are not allowed to take divorce cases on contingency basis. Meaning I can't pay them when I get my settlement. They need paying up front, with a retainer plus huge per hour rate.

If I could afford a Hollywood attorney ild be inviting you all for a party across the pond.

As it is, he is sitting on my pension, my house and my assets.

It is unbelievable. Unfortunately it's also true.

I might have found a camp spot with a few creature comforts. I'll drive up and see if it looks like party central.
If it does, I'll go back to the wild but quiet site.

I'm trying to come to terms with this as a long term possibility.

Driving music today, Viva El amor, the pretenders...

I wonder if someone could help me find how to set up a blog, where I could speak freely? Any recommendations?

I got a spot in a safer place, doesn't look like party central, has no hot water, but cold spigots and electric points to charge devices.

I really don't feel at all well. Very dizzy.

I am trying to decide where to go if this is going to be life. Winter could be bad.

I cannot, really cannot share with men, penis haverers. I can't do it. Ild be a wreck.

Having got away, I'm pretty much traumatized in the extreme. Marital rape over extended periods of time, violent abuse. I cannot cope with men.

I won't make apologies for it.

I'm definitely on the move after labor day. Not sure where yet.

I'll try set up the blog. I'm still feeling very unsafe.

Divorce plans are shelved for now. Ild rather take no divorce than settle for nothing. I don't have to see him, or be near him.

I can't head to any cold weather states over winter, so I'm limited.

How are you, stop?

Hi Detroit. Just wanted you to know I've been thinking of you. I really hope and pray you can find somewhere for a rest and some peace. No idea what a spigot is but guessing it's a kind of tap? Here in the UK the seasons all seem such a mess and its beginning to feel autumnal already. But it's still very warm, just the trees turning colour . Hope it's beautiful where you are.

I don't think I can put photos into posts yet, but will try set up that blog.

Turns out wood rats are kinda cool.

I appreciate the sane company and kind thoughts. The world had gone crazy.

A spigot is a water faucet, a tap. No water is tough. Every drop has to be thought about, from drinking to washing. No electricity isn't the end of the world. No cell phone signal could be dangerous I guess.

It's pretty, but full of drunk partying campers, so pretty obnoxious. This spot is quieter, but no showers. Nice river, might even go fishing.

I'm good Detroit - same old stuff around here. My sweet girl (dog) is in remission from cancer and my goofy old boy (dog - we call him Chris Farley sometimes as when he gets running he makes this face that well only a Chris Farley description suffices!) just got cleared to stop his thyroid meds.

I've been thinking a lot about you getting a dog... I think you have some logistics to work out but I think you should do it. My dogs help keep me sane (having a sentient being to love and talk to is so important). I'd be happy to send some Chewy.com orders your way for dog food etc. - so if you decide to take the leap let me know and I can help sort out what location is best for you to retrieve deliveries.

Hello Detroit. Chanced upon this thread. What an amazing, funny, resourceful woman you are. But how bloody hard to be in that situation, even with cool wood rats. Like so many others, I wish you were closer so that I could do something practical. Failing that, just sending virtual hugs and the hope for a safe sanctuary.