Detroit

[DetroitOtherday]

Hello?

Hi Detroit! I have been thinking of you since it is so very cold where I am and how you are hardy and far more resourceful and capable than I am.

The rice cooker is a brilliant idea. I'm glad you have a way you can get some hot food.

Stay safe Detroit.

Oh brilliant! Hello Detroit.
So good to know you are continuing to lurk, and that you are able to eat. Please do update when and if you feel able to.

Hey,Im trying to stay safe, the city is absolutely decending into lawlessness, Ild rather dodge bears than crackheads. The shelter has been absolutely awful at times due to other residents, solely the MEN. No surprises there, eh. Its why I was refusing to go into a mixed sex shelter. Im not really ok. Im trying to survive, but this is really very upsetting. I have started writing, Ive got a blog going, which fills up some time. No help has been forthcoming from legal quarters, no support or counselling. So...it is what it is. I miss the wildlife, the walks and my solitude! But still, there was not much choice, was there...

Sounds awful Detroit - I bet you do miss your previous life, hard though it was. But so pleased that you are writing. You have a real talent.

That's nice of you, OldStyle. Thank you. At least Im inside, Im not sure a pandemic outside in winter would have been a good idea...

Glad to see you are still hanging in there. I also think of you often, and hope you are as well as can be.

If you publish blogs, would you link to them? I am sure many of the women here would like to read them.

Just to say I too thought of you during our cold weather here (probably nothing compared to your winter).

Sorry that your environment is not easy to live with. I hope there is some small space you can go to safely to get away for a bit.

Do you feel a bit more hopeful with a new President, or does it not really change how things are for you.

If there is some way we can help from a distance let us know.

And yes if its appropriate please do send your blog link.

As long as its ok with mumsnet, Im happy to link.

Thank you for saying hello, its very kind of you to still be thinking of me.

I am a bit worried about the blog being linked to my mumsnet name and then outing my location, which is very clear from the blog! If anyone is interested, Im happy to send a link via PM to the blog. I dont know if things will ever be safe for me, its really not looking like it will be,

That sounds like a good solution Detroit. It would be awful if being on here made you less safe. Can you include me please?

Thank you!

Thinking of you Detroit. Keep safe

Hi Detroit, can you include me in your link to your blog please. Take care, thinking of you.

I promise Im being as careful as I can be. Its a bit difficult because all services are in a particularly dangerous part of the city, and the shelter is mixed sex. That said, the shelter providers really do their best, and are all very kind indeed. Truly lovely people. They make it as safe as it can possibly be in here.

Detroit.

Just caught up on your blog posts Detroit. Don't know what to say. Amazing writing, amazing woman.

Thank you for the link.

Ah, vaguely embarrassed now, but thank you, Oldstyle! Hope you are doing ok?

Yes thanks Detroit!

Your blog is astonishing. I can hardly believe you are still standing.

If you ever decide to charge for subscriptions you can sign me up.

Here's to you and your courage.

Im not courageous, Im just too dumb to know when to give up and possibly too ornery.

@DetroitInTheCity

I promise Im being as careful as I can be. Its a bit difficult because all services are in a particularly dangerous part of the city, and the shelter is mixed sex. That said, the shelter providers really do their best, and are all very kind indeed. Truly lovely people. They make it as safe as it can possibly be in here.

I was put on a male ward once in hospital for an emergency op and it was terrifying. I didn’t put in a complaint after because the nurses were doing their best to keep me safe and I didn’t want it to reflect on them.

I know your situation is more scary than mine was but I have an inkling what the shelter must be like and you have my sympathy and hope that spring brings better things

Stillawoman2, Im so sorry you were put through that experience. The last thing you need when you are vulnerable and in hospital is to be put on a mixed sex ward. I do hope you are fully recovered? I would not say my situation is any more frightening than that at all. The crux of the matter is women are being forced to share spaces where they should feel safe, with adult men, and so feeling safe and actually being safe is an impossibility. I really should have known better than to try and do this.
The shelter staff are incredibly kind, none of the issues are their fault, they HAVE to accept males. It doesnt make it any less scary when a man is having a temper tantrum banging and smashing on the wall next to my room, screaming and shouting aggressively out of control. Its somewhat better at the moment, but that can change with every new occupant. What Ill do after this, I do not know. I wish I had never attempted it to be frank, its been hell. I dont want to bore you all! Im ok, Im coping. I should not have to cope. There really should be some kind of life for me.

Yay, Detroit! I'm so glad to hear from you! I'm sorry about the shelter, but so glad you are warm and indoors, at least.

Hello Arabella! Yes warm and inside for now..and immensely stressed out! How are things with you?

Ahh, damn. I'm sorry.

All okay here, thanks - homeschooling, working, trying not to go round the bend. Waiting for spring.