Honestly I think it's just female socialisation in action. It's fucking hard to stop your brain working like that, and many won't want to,
I agree. But I also think it gets worse when talking about transwomen.
If ginger had read something similar in the paper, a family man, say, who had subjected his wife (or women generally ) to threats and then finally waited for her and had to be restrained whilst spitting invective, calling her a fucking cunt. And we were describing him as a vile knobhead, or a bastard, I don't think ginger would turn a hair.