How would you feel about having a male midwide

[Lardlizard]

Just interested in the points of view

lass in UK you and baby remain under community midwife care until 10 days postnatal then health visitor takes over. This is very well established so does seem strange that you didn’t see them. How long ago did you give birth? If you remained in hospital for a week after birth (as was common previously) then there would probably be no reason for community midwife postnatally as most problems would have been addressed in hospital. For those of us who have 6 hour discharge I.e. home 6 hours after having baby then postnatal midwife visits are absolutely essential (various testing done by them too eg blood spot testing for baby)

When it came to it I only had my husband in the room so he had the experience of being there when his children were born. I just wanted the female midwives and pretty much forgot about him.

Yeah lass nowadays we get chucked out of hospital like hours after giving birth
The community midwives come round to check stuff every day

Christmas mouse you are just a disruptor. Obvious to all

I was 6 days in hospital with ds1....cos he wouldn't feed

2 days with dd after csection

And 1 day with ds2 after csection

Community midwives for all...though obviously it was slightly less for ds1

I think k you have actually made an argument out of nothing!

You have argued this way and that,changing tack and taking issue with pp in ways completely unrelated to this thread OP.

Previously it was issues with nursing, now this, different day same old same old.

I dont give a flying fuck what you do. I havent actually told you what to do.

Stop creating drama and, frankly, bollox, for reasons.

You just seem determined to keep derailing

Och the mouse is to be ignored. Blah blah blah. But actually saying nothing. Nada. Nothing

I would not want a male midwife. They are different to male Drs who see your intimate areas. Their role also includes a much more supportive role. So I do not think it is comparable to a male doctor.

Yeah lass nowadays we get chucked out of hospital like hours after giving birth
The community midwives come round to check stuff every day

I didn't have a community midwife either before or after the birth. I've no idea what Mortality is on about referring to all the things they do in your home. The only person who called round was the health visitor- and frankly she needn't have bothered for all the use she was.

I personally wouldn’t be bothered by a male midwife.
But, I would support a ban on Male midwives if it means that just one woman in the whole entire world doesn’t have to endure one if she is uncomfortable but doesn’t feel that she could speak up and say so.

I thought it was only where there were problems of some kind that the midwives kept visiting?

Went to the local doctor to see the community nurse pre birth

She came to my home after the birth

Just wanted to clear that bit up

I was in hospital 4 days after elective caesarean. No community midwife at any point either before or after birth.

I had a male midwife when I was in labour with DD. I didn't mind in the slightest.

I think it was quite unusual in those days for midwives to be male: this was 35 years ago.

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

I have always chosen male doctors over female.

Why would you choose male doctors over female ones, rather than choose the best dr?

No, I would not have wanted a male midwife.

I've given birth three times.

How would you know the best doctor? Usually people get the doctor on duty as per rota. I don’t think hospitals have the staff to always have a female O&G doctor available for those who wish it. I suppose if there is enough demand, people could change this - but would cost more in taxes.

But, I would support a ban on Male midwives if it means that just one woman in the whole entire world doesn’t have to endure one if she is uncomfortable but doesn’t feel that she could speak up and say so

This ^^ yes, that's what s underneath this.

I have always chosen male doctors over female
^ Sexism is alive and kicking

I know the best gps in my practice.And yes from going to the same clinic at the hospital many times, I know one dr who is awful and never listens to what you say, and another who seems excellent @nd up to date with the latest research.
Of course if you only go to the drs once in a blue moon you won't have a clue. But some of us are frequent flyers,

I don't understand how another woman can object to supporting other women in this

Lots of women put men first.

It is shocking how many women still hold up patriarchy

...but then its shocking how many women are still being abused, the figures don't budge over the years no matter what.

lass in UK you and baby remain under community midwife care until 10 days postnatal then health visitor takes over. This is very well established so does seem strange that you didn’t see them

I am in the UK. My son was born in 1990. I did not see a community midwife. I had no contact with any sort of midwife beyond the routine pre- natal appointments at the hospital.

I don't understand how another woman can object to supporting other women in this

What banning male midwives? Why should I support that? I support your right not to see one if you don't want to.