By proper BDSM I refer to Doms who know what the hell they are doing, noone being hurt, everyone being safe, limits always being respected, and safe, sane and consensual always.
Choking can be a type of breath play. But breath play is much more than choking. And isn't going to give someone a stroke or kill them. It has been described to me as the exchange of breaths so you are almost breathing for each other. Or something. Didnt pay much attention as Not my thing.
I am sorry re The @ thing. I thought That is how you were meant to highlight someone. But obviously, I won't do it.
I am now definitely out of this thread. Not because of the questions or subject matter, that is fine. But the underlying tone of snark, that some posters are addressing those of us who engage in BDSM in, throughout the thread, has become wearing.
Personally, my motivation for ezplaining is so that anyone, who is being hurt under the auspices of BDSM, knows that they are being assaulted and it is not ok. To encourage women to come forward.
I cannot do that at a cost to myself, though, of being snarked at and having posters trying tedious "aha! Gotcha" points throughout the thread. If posters were more interested in genuinely discussing than trying to score points to fit their own preconceived ideas, then I would stay.
I must admit, I fail to see why some posters have joined the discussion, when it is clear that there is nothing they feel they don't already know.
Anyway, thanks for the parts of the discussion that were interesting. The thread has been a fab example of how to get those into BDSM to tire and get to a point where they cant be arsed to say "not in my name" because of how they are spoken to. NOT the content of how they are spoken to. The TONE purely.