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Pique Resilience Project - young detransitioned women sharing their personal stories

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BettyDuMonde · 13/02/2019 12:47

I found this really moving - not so much their words, but the strength they are finding through each other.

Woman to woman friendship is incredible (and far more empowering than itchy knickers).

Video 1 ‘Detransition Q&A’ m.youtube.com/watch?v=kxVmSGTgNxI

Video 2 ‘What Do Detransitioned Women Think of Social Media’ m.youtube.com/watch?v=o5A2n-EAli0

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OvaHere · 15/02/2019 11:04

Just watched the second video. Very insightful and evidential of how much of this ideology is driven by social contagion and the lack of real life grounding experiences.

It makes a lot of sense that the key to reclaiming themselves was discovering other passions, real life hard work and friendships that were based in real world interests.

Putting to one side for a minute all the useful, enjoyable things about being online it's quite hard to watch that video and not have at least a slight sense of the internet being a massive mistake.

BettyDuMonde · 15/02/2019 13:01

The first one has had 21k views - pretty impressive for a new YouTube account!

I hope they will do more videos and become widely watched.

I’ve been thinking about the ‘mother’s can’t win’ stuff that came up on this thread and it occurs to me that actually, the mothers did win, if you take the long view.
All of these young women have come out of their trans identifying experience with their familial relationships intact - none have ended up estranged from their parents, which I think most of us will agree, would be the worst possible outcome.

So their mothers did win eventually, but they didn’t have to defeat their daughters in the process ❤️

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SisterWendyBuckett · 15/02/2019 14:45

So their mothers did win eventually, but they didn’t have to defeat their daughters in the process ❤️

The trans ideology seeks to divide mother from daughter. That's the aim. The target is the female line - the biological, physical and emotional link from mother to daughter.

I try not to see it as a battle between mother and daughter - because neither can 'win'. Both can only lose, regardless of the eventual outcome.

Trans ideology absolutely wants us to believe that the mother is trying to 'defeat' the daughter, trying to deny her child's right to be free from any and every expression of femaleness.

And of course it's likely that the mother will be cut off if she attempts to hold on to the boundaries of truth. No matter how lovingly she tries to do this.

The ultimate aim is the killing off - psychically - of the mother. And we can extend that to all females who challenge the orthodoxy.

This is the framework that the trans identified young adult has to operate in - or risk not being accepted as truly trans.

Lolasaurous · 20/02/2019 02:08

So did all these women who previously identified as trans men, begin by identifying as non-binary?

I called myself non-binary at one time, for a while, when I thought it just meant that you reject gender stereotypes. I called myself non-binary but always still called myself a woman even though I didn't really like that word, 'girl ' was ok though, and female, and didn't even cross my mind to change pro-nouns. I didn't realise that people calling themselves "non-binary" actually don't think they are women or men, don't want to be referred to as women or men, and even reject that they are female or male. Have I got this right because that's what it seems like now? Change their pro-nouns for some reason, and I see them policing women like some trans women and trans men and their 'allies' do, about what they are allowed to say and do about themselves. Like "don't talk or have placards about your biology (on a women's march,or indeed anywhere) it's exclusionary and transphobic!", "don't reduce people to their biology" then in the next breath "call yourselves menstruators, not women! you're being exclusionary and transphobic!", Also not 'allowed to use the word female either as again non-binary don't want that, as well as trans men and trans women. Our existence upsets everyone basically. I recently found out some people calling themselves non-binary even seek hormone treatment and some surgeries. Including children, in some countries. Not to go all the way not make themselves transition to the opposite gender/sex, but to I don't know... To alter themselves in some way, to become a mix, something 'inbetween ' or to feel 'their outer expresses their inner' I don't know...??

My experience is people on Tumblr negatively influencing, conditioning, obsessing, brainwashing, misrepresenting, miseducating, posting false info, manipulating, re-moulding (or moulding in the case of children) people's worldviews (and views about themselves) and language to revolve around and fit the trans ideology, rules to stick to, telling people what to do, what to say, and how to get what they want, outlandish dangerous "how-to" ideas, how/where to get meds off the net without a doc, giving scripts having list of arguments and responses to use, bullying of those straying from groupthink, co-ercing, finding new ways to be oppressed, lies, uninformed, unhealthy cult -like brainwashing echo chamber...
I also think there is definitely a personality type that gets a thrill out of this.

*In another thread that I can't find now, about someone calling themselves non-binary I looked at the list they wrote about their personality characteristics, their likes and dislikes and abilities and why this makes them "non-binary ", I copied and pasted as I was writing a response, I would post it here but I don't know if it's been deleted for some reason but... wtf... was that serious?

We want a society that is not heavily based on "gender definitions" as this person said . What you do is break down "gender definitions" aka gender stereotypes by saying fuck your "gender definitions" , women can be all of this and more, and so can men. Not by saying you're not a woman anymore.

Most people do not fit the stereotypes in some way or another. I don't. That doesn't change the fact that my sex is female and I'm a woman. I actually thought we were successfully breaking gender stereotypes, then all this gender nonsense started to be pushed heavily out of nowhere, pretending to be progressive, but actually it is going backwards for people who simply don't fit in the highly stereotypical and restrictive gender boxes put on us from birth because of our sex, due to societal conditioning.

People calling themselves non-binary thinking they are working against gender stereotypes or gender 'definitions ' as that other post said. - nah. You're not working against anything really, you're upholding the idea that man and woman are those "gender definitions", because you're saying that because you're a mix of those " gender definitions " that you're no longer a woman because apparently women can't be some of those things, and you're saying you're not a man, because apparently men can't be some of those things. That's the message you are giving. You are upholding these definitions/stereotypes. And by the way who told them they are "gender definitions" that's what they are not, they are gender stereotypes and gender roles that we are conditioned to conform to.
And it's like there is some sort of shame felt about the word "woman" and what is associated to it, so they abandon the word, instead of changing what "woman" stands for.
Feeling masculine around a BBQ, when flipping a burger, my gosh how many hours they've spent contemplating and obsessing on this to the minute detail of how they feel when flipping a burger? And what does "feeling masculine" mean hmmm? This is very much upholding "gender definitions" / gender stereotypes. But somehow they think are doing the opposite.*

R0wantrees · 25/02/2019 13:23

Telegraph interview with James Caspian

'Why are we so scared to admit many people regret changing their gender?'
(extract)
This week – as has been the case on some 50 previous occasions since he first made headlines for attempting to conduct research into people who had regretted changing their gender – James Caspian received a poignant email.

Confidentiality is paramount to Caspian, a trained psychotherapist, and so he is careful on which details he discloses. The note was written by a British woman who transitioned to a man after being sexually abused as a child. It was only much later, the correspondent informed him, that they realised it was a terrible mistake. The decision to transition was an attempt to escape the trauma of the abuse. But at the time, no professional who assisted in the process had attempted to delve into the reasons why.

His correspondent stressed there were others, too, in a similar situation whose voices needed to be heard. ‘This is a massive wheel that needs to start rolling,’ the letter said.

Next week marks 59-year-old Caspian’s latest attempt to do just that. On Tuesday, his barrister will conduct an oral hearing at the Royal Courts of Justice in his latest bid to secure a judicial review into a decision by Bath Spa University to ban a proposed piece of research on people reversing their gender reassignment surgery and transition." (continues)

www.telegraph.co.uk/men/thinking-man/scared-admit-many-people-regret-changing-gender/

R0wantrees · 25/02/2019 13:30

recent thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3470038-A-detransitioner-gives-powerful-and-devastating-warning-against-medical-transition

powerful speech and testimony,
'Rene Jax at Gender Identity Forum in Manchester, New Hampshire'

www.youtube.com/watch?v=lN0sT6bHjR8

Rene Jax has not 'de-transitioned' & explains why at the end of the speech.

Also worth watching Patrick's recent videos, he's very eloquent:
'Detransition (in English) - My reasons and the risks of transitioning'
www.youtube.com/watch?v=zDMts05-xyA

'Detransition (in English) - Why gender-affirming therapy is dangerous!'
www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=919&v=51ymDtHByGE

Important interview with a woman with undiagnosed ptsd as a consequence of being sexually abused as a child who had 'transgender affirming' medical interventions prescribed wrongly:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3414138-Im-not-meant-to-be-a-bloke-Woman-who-changed-gender-to-become-man-called-Lee-says-sex-swap-was-a-huge-mistake?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3466053-A-realistic-account-of-transitioning

2016 OP AskBasil wote:

"Women who thought they were trans and have now de-transitioned
Their voices are not being heard in the rush to prove how enlightened and unbigoted we all are; but when I heard them, I found them heart-breaking, inspiring and salutory. Here's two of them I've come across recently:

Crash- an open letter to Julia Serrano

I've posted these links because it's important that the voices of women (and men) who went through with transition and regret it, are not drowned out by the fuckwittery of well- meaning liberals who are on course to put thousands of children through what these women went through, in the name of tolerance and everyone just being happy. Of course everyone just wants everyone to be happy. But pretending that the solution to body dysmorphia is huge doses of irreversible hormones and surgery, is not a recipe for happiness."

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/2705564-Women-who-thought-they-were-trans-and-have-now-de-transitioned

BettyDuMonde · 25/02/2019 13:31

Benjamin Boyce has interviewed two of the women from Pique Resilience.

Chiara

m.youtube.com/watch?v=-fCOVjhZ3VI

Dagny

m.youtube.com/watch?v=6o1_QDB9VZM

And PR have released their first podcast (so audio only but still accessible via YouTube). Binding and Cosmetic Changes:

m.youtube.com/watch?v=bQT0a8cmt7A

And they now have a website: www.piqueresproject.com

I will definitely be making a financial contribution to this project - it’s an incredibly important contribution to the topic, especially in regards to the well-being of the current generation of young women and teenage girls.

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SisterWendyBuckett · 25/02/2019 13:48

Thanks for the links Betty.

Yes - will donate too.

R0wantrees · 25/02/2019 14:10

Important identification of UK NHS failings resulting in lack of care and awareness of people who 'detransition'

twitter.com/EmilyRobins_n/status/1099410275638349824

Pique Resilience Project  - young detransitioned women sharing their personal stories
NeurotrashWarrior · 27/02/2019 13:45

I've just found the heartbreaking twitter account of a detransitioned woman in the us:

threadreaderapp.com/thread/1097931883533488128.html

NeurotrashWarrior · 27/02/2019 14:49

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once you start thinking of your experiences through the lens of understanding yourself as transgender, it becomes really hard to think of other solutions to your problems. the specter of detransition is both terrifying and shameful, and feels like an unacceptable state

it's only when the crushing reality of how much transition has taken from you and how little it has given back really sinks in, weeks or months or years later, that you might start to realize that it's not worth it

at least that was my experience! call me a transtrender if you must but unfortunately there are zero safeguards to prevent someone having a mental health crisis, someone with deep internalized homophobia, someone who struggles with an eating disorder from transitioning.

a lot of people are making choices in pain and those people deserve to have better resources to navigate their options. conventional wisdom in the trans community (a la "transition or you will die") blinds you to the many paths forward when you are dealing with gender dysphoria

3timeslucky · 28/02/2019 15:56

Thanks for posting this. I am blown away at the peer trend aspect of it ... they could have been talking about all them and their friends being into a particular pop group or pop culture. But they were "into" identifying as trans.

Vixxxy · 28/02/2019 16:06

The trendy aspect of it is horrifying. generally, trends are harmless. I was caught up in the 'goth' trend at school which is rather embarrassing looking back but..it did no harm. But this, it literally ruins peoples bodies and lives, once they 'come out' of it so to speak. The most scary thing for me I think, is that if I had been born just a bit later, I know I would have been caught up in it. I fucking hated being female, especially around puberty when grown men seemed to think it was fine to touch me up in the streets and the boys at school stopped treating me as 'one of them' and instead appeared to view me as a sex object. I would have done anything to make that stop. Puberty blockers, would have seemed like magic to me back then. To be quite honest, I never really felt comfortable being female until I had my kids, only then did I appreciate the wondrous thing that is female biology.

MsMcWoodle · 01/03/2019 08:10

Hi - just started a thread. Will ask for it to be removed. My main point was that as detransitioners don't seem to be getting any support, surely Mermaids, Stonewall etc should be putting some of their riches towards this.

NeurotrashWarrior · 01/03/2019 12:19

Excellent point MsMc. It's only one way traffic?

NeurotrashWarrior · 01/03/2019 12:19

I think that's worth of a separate threat tbh.

NeurotrashWarrior · 01/03/2019 12:20

Esp stonewall as I'm sure some will realise they were gay rather than trans.

Italiangreyhound · 15/03/2019 17:29

BettyDuMonde thank you for this thread.

EweSurname · 15/03/2019 18:43

This interview with another detransitioner, Ben, is incredible insightful.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=QAMar22S0ck&t=3956s

R0wantrees · 15/03/2019 18:52

One of the young women from Pique Project is speaking about the harm done to her by the transgender movement.

www.facebook.com/WLRNews4Women/

This is at the launch of Declaration of Women's Sex-Based Rights in New York.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3526970-Declaration-on-womens-sex-based-rights

R0wantrees · 16/03/2019 08:48

This interview with another detransitioner, Ben, is incredible insightful

Thanks for sharing this, I completely agree. Ben's description of the power dynamics/imbalance between older males and young females in the trans community is really significant.
The abuse and coersion very important to identify

Ben (GNC Centric) is worth following. She's very insightful and direct.
www.youtube.com/c/gnc-centric

twitter.com/gnc_centric

NeurotrashWarrior · 16/03/2019 09:14

Literally just coming on to post the film I see Ewe has posted.

All of it in a nutshell; this is such an important perspective.

If there's one film to watch it's that one.

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