Porn culture and the rise in anaesthetics for women's orifices

[OrchidInTheSun]

Sorry to be crude. But nowadays you can buy a whole range of anaesthetic creams, gels and sprays so that you don't feel the Osijek of being gang banged or fisted or fucked hard analog or gag when you've had a cock shoved down your throat.

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Tell me again how porn is liberating

Osijek? Is that even a word? PAIN. And anally. And god I wish I weren't typing that again

Bloody hell. That is horrid

Ha. I was about to google Osijek

I saw this thread on twitter. Beyond shocked. The fact that there is this range of products and a market suggest how widespread the demand is. It's sickening and so worrying for our daughters.

That is horrendous. Why don't men want women to enjoy sex?!

Fucking hell.

IStillMissBlockbuster
I have a theory.
Men's pride on sexual achievement has gone from: "yay I managed to have sex", to "yay I managed to satisfy her and be a good lover (so I can get more sex, either with her or someone else)" to "I don't believe in orgasms any more because they fake them in porn" to "I don't believe in pain or discomfort any more because look what the porn girls can do" to "I can't come unless it's prolapse/snuff/rape porn and even then I spend hours edging, I can never have normal sex again".
The use of porn is overwhelming. It literally bombards the senses with novelty. It's why death grip is a thing, and ED in healthy young men. How can any woman compete with millions of shapeshifting images, any face, any race, any age, any size, any act, any time, and all for FREE?
Add that to the current fashion for impermanent quasi-relationships, no stigma whatsoever for abandoning your kids and a hook-up culture that means someone, somewhere online will have sex with you even if it's not who you would have chosen normally.
If you're sharp-eyed you'll have noticed that even the start of the journey was focussed on self. The alternative to selfish sex (alone or with an unfortunate partner) is intimacy, and intimacy is scary, unreliable and not easily available.
Just my 2p

I remember the days when men boasted about giving women orgasms. I'm glad not to be a teenager now.

Its a sex aid to delay premature ejaculation. Looking at the reviews it looks like people have been buying it to relieve tatoo pain.

Just vile. It's like things have gone back 100 years, lie back and think of England 'cos it's all about the guy getting his rocks off.
I worry for my DD and women everywhere. What I would have classed extreme (anal, fisting etc) when I was a teenager in the 90s is now seen as normal and mainstream. There is a whole generation being influenced by online porn who seem to think that it's normal to hurt women during sex.
Just disgusting.

God that is horrific. Anyone who defends porn needs to have a good look at themselves

Umm. These are made for men. To numb the penis to help aid premature ejaculation.

They're also used a lot by gay men for anal sex

That's two posters who haven't read the attached thread then

Why do gay men need to numb their anus when their g-spot is up there? Coercive sex? Multiple partners? Chemsex?
Not for regular use.
And this is not "delay cream" when it's sold to allow easier fisting and to suppress gagging...

Bloody hell

Its a sex aid to delay premature ejaculation.

No it's not. How does being fisted cause premature ejaculation?

These are to numb the recipient of painful abuse.

A lot of these activities are performed by both men and women. If they choose to have S&M or anal sex or give blow jobs then we can t police the bedroom. It’s freedom of choice, and that includes to buy these products. People will experiment. Some of the activities make me feel nauseous but everyone is different and should have the freedom to enjoy what they enjoy.

If the receptive partner were enjoying it they wouldn't need the numbing cream...

But surely this can also be sold to men, who are into anal play and sex? It's not just women who may feel they need anal numbing before sexual contact. This is wrong full stop. And numbing spray for your throat should only be used because you have tonsillitis and swallowing hurts.

The day I need anaesthetic for sex is when I give up.

It's not sex it's abuse.

If women are enjoying pain, they don't need anaesthetic do they?

zippey
Disingenuous argument. They might be useful for cleaning crayon off emulsion too but that's not the use that is being discussed.
I'm exercising my freedom of choice to discuss trends in sexual behaviour driven by free and easily available hardcore porn, and how that feeds into coercive interpersonal relationships between men and women. Some of the conversation may make you feel nauseous but everyone is different, right?

so fucking grim

what the fuck happened to mutual pleasure?

And this is how John Broadhurst convinced a jury that Natalie Connolly really wanted him to put a trigger spray bottle in her vagina.

If someone reads "deep throat spray" and insists that the product in questions is designed to help gay men have anal sex then one has to question how honestly they're being, either with themselves or with others.