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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Letter in the Times - Plea To The Trans Lobby from group of transsexuals

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PimmsnLemonade · 08/12/2018 00:23

www.thetimes.co.uk/edition/comment/times-letters-reasons-for-private-schools-oxbridge-success-sqjb6kkgt

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cantgetridofthekids · 16/12/2018 21:26

Thanks for the preceding answer. Are you able to define yourself by what you do stand for?

A quiet life without the modern transgender bullshit dealing with my GD whatever way I can.

I want continued medicalisation, the current GRC process to largely remain, additional psychological and psychiatric support to make transition only ever a last resort and to scrap the promotion of TG identity to children.

mirandayardley · 16/12/2018 21:32

*A quiet life without the modern transgender bullshit dealing with my GD whatever way I can.

I want continued medicalisation, the current GRC process to largely remain, additional psychological and psychiatric support to make transition only ever a last resort and to scrap the promotion of TG identity to children.*

Do you perceive a rights conflict with women when biological males are given rights ‘as women’? If so, how do you think best we may work to resolve this?

KayM2 · 16/12/2018 21:43

Earlier on I posted a post that was largely centred on the actions and words of Miranda Yardely. Who was one of the main people behind the recent , excellent, Times letter.

Sadly, in order to make clear that MY's stance is on the distant margins of trans/ transgender/ transsexual issues, it seemed logically necessary to speculate as to motivations.

So I asked the MNHQ to delete my post, not because I regretted the sentiments , but because it is not kind to speculate about someone else's inner world on a forum, even though everyone's " inner world view" drives their thoughts an actions.

Anyone who saw my post will be well aware of my argument that the ideas that MY espouses do not represent informed opinion. By which I mean those of specializing psychiatrists and most long term most op transsexual men and women.

PencilsInSpace · 16/12/2018 21:44

99% of the time I use disabled spaces.

This isn't the answer either though, is it?

Just like women fought for our spaces, disabled people fought extremely hard for their spaces, in order to be able to participate in public life (and there is still a way to go).

What is stopping trans people campaigning for your own spaces? Serious question.

cantgetridofthekids · 16/12/2018 21:49

Do you perceive a rights conflict with women when biological males are given rights ‘as women’? If so, how do you think best we may work to resolve this?

In the vast majority of cases those who identify as female under a transgender flag are clearly appropriating and the situation should never have got that far. When no hormonal intervention or surgery is involved then biological fact says that person is male.

As far as I am concerned the starting point for where we are now should only be for those medically and appropriately diagnosed.

Where I struggle is with the very small percentage who having exhausted all other avenues of treatment do require transition in order to function in life.

I do not believe TWAW but the assumption is that if a transsexual woman isn't a woman then the only alternative is they must be a man. Of course I can never be a woman but I also know I will never be a man either. And theres the problem and I don't think there can ever be a solution.

Part of me thinks that long term the solution is a reeduction of gender stereotypes starting with children. Do the complete opposite of what is happening now....teach children that there is no such thing as a gendered activity. Sex stays binary and gender gets scrapped completely. If society didn't recognise gender only sex then you can't have a gender in conflict with a birth sex !

mirandayardley · 16/12/2018 21:49

Earlier on I posted a post that was largely centred on the actions and words of Miranda Yardely

What exactly have I said you disagree with?

mirandayardley · 16/12/2018 21:51

I also know I will never be a man either

What does it mean to you to ‘be a man’?

cantgetridofthekids · 16/12/2018 21:51

Just like women fought for our spaces, disabled people fought extremely hard for their spaces

I would clarify that I have a blue badge and am disabled (and no it's not gender dysphoria) so I do have a right to use disabled spaces.

cantgetridofthekids · 16/12/2018 21:55

*I also know I will never be a man either

What does it mean to you to ‘be a man’?*

The short answer is that I will never come close to being what society would expect of someone being biologically male. Society says that the interests I have, the way I act and apparently the way I think would be expected of someone who was biologically female.

Gender stereotyping is the biggest problem we face. Indeed if as much effort was put into getting rid of gender stereotypes rather than reinforce them and labelling people all over the place as transgender we would be in a far far better place.

KayM2 · 16/12/2018 21:56

Miranda; as usual you have some well rehearsed one liners; here's my one liners in answer.

Yes we are different to the TRAs.

Yes, we show we are different to the TRAs in everything we do and say, including signing Times letters condemning the TRA actions .

No, we do not subscribe to YOUR own view of how we should "show we are different".

Your views on these matters are unworkable , held by a tiny minority**and totally outside what is asked of us by common sense and UK and European Law.

** A tiny minority which is always going to be eroded by people peeling off as they become more integrated., more merged in, more acceptable in appearance.

PencilsInSpace · 16/12/2018 22:09

Anyone who saw my post will be well aware of my argument that the ideas that MY espouses do not represent informed opinion. By which I mean those of specializing psychiatrists and most long term most op transsexual men and women.

Informed opinion on what Kay? What a woman is? What rights women should be prepared to give up? Why would psychiatrists and post op TS be the experts on that? What about the women and girls?

This is the feminist topic on a parenting forum. The only reason we're discussing trans issues at all is because they're having a huge detrimental impact on our rights and on our children's health and wellbeing. Beyond that we really aren't all that fascinated.

Miranda is a great ally to women (cheers Miranda Wine) and that's all I care about.

R0wantrees · 16/12/2018 22:10

So I asked the MNHQ to delete my post, not because I regretted the sentiments , but because it is not kind to speculate about someone else's inner world on a forum, even though everyone's " inner world view" drives their thoughts an actions.

Anyone who saw my post will be well aware of my argument that the ideas that MY espouses do not represent informed opinion. By which I mean those of specializing psychiatrists and most long term most op transsexual men and women.

Kay this is an innacurate summary though I understand you would want to delete it, it wasn't civil or in the spirit of the board.

PencilsInSpace · 16/12/2018 22:11

I would clarify that I have a blue badge and am disabled (and no it's not gender dysphoria) so I do have a right to use disabled spaces.

Fair enough if you need to use disabled spaces because you are disabled.

I'd still like to know what is stopping trans people campaigning for your own spaces.

cantgetridofthekids · 16/12/2018 22:16

I'd still like to know what is stopping trans people campaigning for your own spaces

If we get back to only considering transsexual people we are only talking a few thousand people. If we said 10,000 and given the population of the UK is 60million then that's 1 in 600 people. Is that really practical for such a minority ?

LangCleg · 16/12/2018 22:21

Kay this is an innacurate summary though I understand you would want to delete it, it wasn't civil or in the spirit of the board.

It is indeed. Kay - for once in your life, tell the bloody truth. You posted an extreme and vile personal attack and had it withdrawn before it could be deleted. I kept a record of it. I will not have you minimising it now.

LangCleg · 16/12/2018 22:24

If we get back to only considering transsexual people we are only talking a few thousand people. If we said 10,000 and given the population of the UK is 60million then that's 1 in 600 people. Is that really practical for such a minority ?

Don't know. Don't care. I strongly believe that males who do not think women's consent applies to them should be anywhere near women's spaces. I couldn't give a flying fuck about diagnoses or surgeries. I differentiate between males on behaviour and sense of entitlement.

LangCleg · 16/12/2018 22:24

not be anywhere near

Soz.

SpartacusAutisticusAHF · 16/12/2018 22:26

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PencilsInSpace · 16/12/2018 22:35

I have no idea whether such a campaign would be successful, I'm just continuously astonished that nobody's even tried.

Probably it would depend on what you campaigned for.

We've just been asked whether we should let anybody who wants one get a GRC and hence a new birth certificate. Government estimates of the trans popultation in the consultation document were 200,000 to 500,000. I've heard higher estimates. No clear definition has been given of what trans means in 2018.

You could campaign for spaces specifically for those with a GRC or just those who have had surgery, or just those with a diagnosis or whatever - that probably wouldn't work.

You could campaign for additional mixed spaces for any trans person plus anybody else who is happy to share. That would stand a much greater chance of success.

This is not women's problem, it's yours.

mirandayardley · 16/12/2018 22:45

Your views on these matters are unworkable , held by a tiny minorityand totally outside what is asked of us by common sense and UK and European Law.

A tiny minority which is always going to be eroded by people peeling off as they become more integrated., more merged in, more acceptable in appearance.

So you come here, taunt women about how you use women’s spaces and have no intention of rethinking this, say one thing then clear as day pretend it didn’t happen, attack myself and others with non-specific accusations of being mean, and post some stuff like the above which has been photocopied from page 23 of ‘The TRA Handbook 2018’.

Ereshkigal · 16/12/2018 23:00

You could campaign for additional mixed spaces for any trans person plus anybody else who is happy to share. That would stand a much greater chance of success.

YY.

KayM2 · 16/12/2018 23:33

Miranda; I see you are still keen on using inflammatory exaggeration.;

I have stated , for example map, a fact, ie that I am entitled to use the women' loos. I would be committing no crime if I did not have a GRC and female birth certificate, but I have, and I am entitled to use those loos under UK law. But you describe me saying that, , and saying that it is practical terms impossible to " get the trans people out of the loos" , as " taunting". I'm stating facts.

So these threads are further encouraged to go down the road to cloud cuckoo land, in " campaigning for " third spaces" . This just will not happen because:
(a) there is not the money, and
( b) there is not sufficient demand and
(c) there are no votes in it.

The things you say on these matters , Miranda, may curry favour in the eyes of some on such as this thread, they cut no ice with transsexual people ,or with government.

KayM2 · 16/12/2018 23:37

Miranda; I think you may have made a mistake; you have stated that a quote of what I said in my earlier post is photocopied from "page 23" of some manual. I say mistake; it looks like a deliberate attempt to smear me.

mirandayardley · 16/12/2018 23:40

Miranda; I think you may have made a mistake; you have stated that a quote of what I said in my earlier post is photocopied from "page 23" of some manual. I say mistake; it looks like a deliberate attempt to smear me.

It’s a joke.

Lighten up, fellah.

BubonicTheHedgehag · 16/12/2018 23:43

KayM2said, and I quote:

Because it is not going to happen is it? I am not going to go back to using the gents. We are breaking no law in the ladies, even if we have no GRC. Our GRC says we are female under the law " for all practical purposes". We are not going away. We have always been there., we will always been here.

So - women, just shut up! KayM2 says, "What I say will be!!!" When women are saying No to men in women's single-sex spaces - KayM2 refuses to acknowledge us and our refusal.

Wow.

Yeah, but no thanks - you're no ally to women, are you? You told us to shut up and accept men in women's single-sex spaces.

Way to go.