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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Help me with a 'Witty Reply' to shut DP down.

51 replies

SongforSal · 24/11/2018 20:05

Firstly. Dp is very intelligent in certain areas. However, he is awkward socially, and has a horrible tendency to play 'Devils Advocate', which often results in rather inflammatory debates.

Today I saw red.

DP: What are you listening to?

Me: It's an old programme about the legalised sex workers in the red light district up north. I really feel for them being in a vicious cycle of having to take drugs to to what they do, and the dependency on drugs to drive them to sell themselves.

DP: you MEANT to say 'Vicious Circle'. NOT 'Cycle'.

Me; Vicious Cycle is a noun. It is the same thing. Did you hear what I said about these women?

DP: You said the wrong word. But whatever. I don't want to piss of a feminist.

Me; What has Feminism got to do with anything?

DP; You said the wrong word. But whatever. Don't blame me for the actions of all men.

Me; What are you actually talking about?

DP; If you are going to put a point across. Use the right word. Every one knows it is called a vicious circle...NOT cycle.

Annnnnyway.........DP has a way of not actually listening, whilst also being very inflammatory. My words clearly aren't working. How can I shut him down so he actually listens?

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chronicplainjane · 24/11/2018 20:07

LTB

Sausagefingers9 · 24/11/2018 20:08

I’m guessing you wanted this to be lighthearted but wow, that would tire me out! Is he always like this?

I think my witty reply would be “shut the fuck up dp”

WombOfOnesOwn · 24/11/2018 20:09

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Virtuous_circle_and_vicious_circle

Apparently wikipedia doesn't think "everybody knows" and includes the alternate version right in the first sentence.

HollowTalk · 24/11/2018 20:10

Stupid bastard. He would bore the life out of me.

RagingWhoreBag · 24/11/2018 20:11

It doesn’t sound like he has a huge amount of respect for you, or empathy for the plight of these women. Nothing you can say will open his eyes or make him care, if his biggest concern in this instance is letting you know you’re wrong and running down feminists. I’d give up talking to him about anything you really care about Sad

BackWhenIWas4 · 24/11/2018 20:11

Why does your response need to be witty?

pallisers · 24/11/2018 20:13

I'd tell him thanks for the NAMALT advice but I try hard every day to not presume all men are like him - pedantic aggressive bores.

REally what are you getting out of this. He sounds boring and exhausting.

FourFoxCakes · 24/11/2018 20:13

Tell his petty nickelfuckery and barracks-room lawyery won’t wash with you.

Ginazon · 24/11/2018 20:15

Well he’s a dick isn’t he?

I don’t think a witty reply is going to help you here.

EvaHarknessRose · 24/11/2018 20:15

‘Whatever, I don’t want to piss off a pedant’.

Insomnibrat · 24/11/2018 20:15

I can think of a word for your DH which is entirely appropriate in context and also begins with 'C'.

Wash his Father unusually harsh on him as a boy?

CookPassBabtridge · 24/11/2018 20:16

God he's awful. So exhausting and like someone said, he doesn't respect you.

Ereshkigal · 24/11/2018 20:16

I think my witty reply would be “shut the fuck up dp”

Mine too.

SongforSal · 24/11/2018 20:17

Yes....He is always like this!!!!!!

It absolutely exasperates me. We have been together a very long time, since 17 and 36 now. LTB is tempting at times over the crap he comes out with.

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Justmuddlingalong · 24/11/2018 20:18

Christ. Life with him sounds exhausting. No witty remarks needed, a pitying glance should be enough.

IStandWithPosie · 24/11/2018 20:18

Tbh I’d refuse to engage with someone like that unless it was entirely on my terms.

Runnynosehunny · 24/11/2018 20:18

WTF dh? Get over here and I will demonstrate what a vicious cycle is with my foot and your arse.

sackrifice · 24/11/2018 20:18

'yes you are so right, that is the most important thing about the legaliaed abuse and rape of women and girls. Well done'.

powershowerforanhour · 24/11/2018 20:19

Pedantry is crashingly dull and unsexy.

Thebluedog · 24/11/2018 20:19

So rather than having an intelligent conversation about sex workers, he’d rather try and belittle you by completely missing the point (on purpose I think) and picking up on something minor. He sounds really insecure to me, either that or he’s not capable of actually holding an intelligent conversation with you. You probably intimidate him, so he has to try and belittle you and others, by wrapping it in the Devil’s advocate excuse .

Penguinsetpandas · 24/11/2018 20:19

I'd make him listen to the whole of the Vicious Cycle album by Leonard Skynard
www.bing.com/videos/search?q=vicious+cycle+skynard&view=detail&mid=5BC14FF6A830F9CB11A55BC14FF6A830F9CB11A5&FORM=VIRE

deepwatersolo · 24/11/2018 20:22

I‘d ask him to unambigously prove that cycle is not an equally valid alternative.

PositiveVibez · 24/11/2018 20:35

I would say 'fuck off you knobhead'

He sounds like an arsehole sorry. Could I fuck put up with that pettiness in everyday life.

SgtFredColon · 24/11/2018 20:38

leonard skynard Grin

Penguinsetpandas · 24/11/2018 20:43

Yes I renamed them Colon CBA looking up their name Grin