These people are on a massive power trip.
Asking someone their previous name means you are transphobic? Really? Including when you're when doing a CRB check or checking a credit rating?
If a trans person says you are awful, you need your listen and change your behaviour... including when a man starts wanking at your 11 year old daughter in leisure centre (which has never happened just ask Stella Creasy) and gets away with it by saying "I am a woman. You're awful"
Yes we have a right to be angry. Women have a right to be angry that we're being gaslighted and manipulated.
People like this do not understand the definition of opressed.