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Can we talk about the mental impact of being told the definition of woman is changing?

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UglyCathKidstonBag · 04/07/2018 14:32

I’d like to hear specifically from women who feel their mental health has been in any way impacted by being told the definition of “woman” has or will change so that it either excludes them or includes men. Has anyone felt their mental health has been impacted by the “erasure” of woman.

I have long term therapy as part of treatment for PTSD and GAD both of which are centred around abuse from various men in my life. I had been able to control both to a manageable state thanks to this treatment until the past 3-6 months.
I am now unable to use places such as gyms, swimming pools, changing rooms and similar settings because of my fear of being in intimate spaces with unknown male bodied people. This is now starting to have a knock on impact for my work.

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Justhadathought · 19/10/2018 10:20

I find the whole business profoundly disturbing. It is like watching the world being actively groomed by a sinister force, parading as a progressive idea - and no-one is speaking out about it. A total collusion of silence. Scary times!

And the thing is as a human race we've been here before multiple times - where people just buy into a corrupt and damaging ideology, rather then question it, or even question themselves.

I'm always astounded at how so many seemingly intelligent people can be so hood-winked and blind-sided by utter bullshit.

It just makes me more set and more determined, however; even though on a personal level I am very disturbed by it all.

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Horace23 · 19/10/2018 11:15

I mainly lurk because I find the whole thing too depressing and it has a massive impact on my mental health. Just wanted to say a huge thank you to the postters who have done so much on here. I have filled out the consultation, emailed my mp and spread word via email to trusted friends. Feeling powerless has also not helped so it is an impossible position. Legally mandated lies!

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idontlikepinkandimstillfemale · 19/10/2018 12:31

Growing up in a family with a violent father and a narcissistic mother, I have a lot of deep mental scars to do with others abusing me and then denying my reality. I feel like I am in a waking nightmare at the moment, being told I am privileged for the thing that has always held me back in life and made me the victim of the violent and sexual crimes of male perpetrators. It feels very much like the relationship abuse doled out by partners who say they'll kill themselves if you leave them. I have never been into Twitter much, but I went on there a few days ago and the extent of the abuse from TRA, mainly using emotional blackmail, gaslighting, insults and a top-trumps of who suffers the most was so abusive I couldn't get to sleep until 4.30. I feel that if all this goes ahead, we are looking at the medicalisation of a new condition, a rebranding of the Victorian female 'hysteria', as women react to the invasion of their own identity.

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idontlikepinkandimstillfemale · 19/10/2018 12:57

...and just in case any of this is seen as an over-reaction, I went on Twitter for ONE DAY, got into discussions (or tried) with some TRA's where I was as polite as possible, and found myself blocked by LM (who I have never had the slightest inclination of having any kind of interaction with, and another user who I blocked kept making new addresses to insult me, then capture my tweets and put them on his page with 'transphobe' insults all over them! ONE DAY. This is abuse, plain and simple.

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Swearymum83 · 19/10/2018 12:57

Yes, as a sexual assault victim and victim of dv I am deeply, DEEPLY saddened and disturbed by current events around women's rights and our right to name ourselves. I also have two daughters and I fear for their future where they will not be able to escape sexually perverted men.. ever.

I am still in shock that any of this has gained traction. It feels so surreal.

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