How is pole designed to titillate men any more than aerial hoop, aerial silks, or trapeze is? They've all been sexualised at some point: trapeze stripping from 1901 (sfw, full Edwardian petticoats), aerial silk striptease (nsfw, knickers and pasties, also how does she not get epic silk burn from that windmill drop?), aerial hoop (nsfw, bra and knickers) Pole has its roots in male-dominated 12 century indian mallakhamb, male-dominated chinese circus pole, and circus sideshow dancing, it's only been fenale-dominated and associated with stripping in the last fifty years. Yes, I wear a crop top and shorts for pole, but that's because clothes slide on metal, I need bare skin and a lot of rosin to stick to the pole. Other than the clothing, the core skills of strength, flexibility, coordination, and control are the same.
I could argue that javelin competitions sanitise throwing spears at your enemies, that fencing is a sanitised form of lethal sword fighting, that archery is a sanitised fighting skill, and that we therefore shouldn't do those things. I don't, because I recognise the difference in context and intent between a weapon skills contest and a battle.