Dark and stormies all round! Bluestocking piss up

[QuentinSummers]

A friendly place for feminist or general chit chat. Welcome all!

Someone asked me about a service I run yesterday (women only) - how that works with self id females? Really really hope we can stay under the radar...... And so upset that we have to do this to maintain the service 😢

Acorn

Totally understand your reticence - if it’s just a general member of the public query, maybe a ‘we act in accordance with all equality laws and cannot discuss individuals for privacy reasons’ type answer will keep the wolves from the door while the whole sorry mess plays out in courts and parliament and we have an updated legal position to work with?

Yes, that is a good line, I will remember it. Not quite appropriate for situation yesterday, but I don't want to explain any more about it here, as it is too public. Just wanted to, well, not rant exactly, feel sad with others who will get it!

It's been a funny old week of ups and downs, but I wanted to share an up with you.

My son, approaching 12, has been unable to find his PE kit, which is frustrating as the new term has started. I was fairly convinced it was in his bedroom, so I told him to go in there and devote some actual effort to finding it instead of flapping.

He gave it ten minutes, at which point I heard him cry out "Yaaas, queen!!!" before bursting into my room with the PE kit in his hand, raised high, with the other hand on his hip.

I may have the campest little boy ever.

bless.

Floral that is sweet

I got annoyed in H&M today as DS was filling in their customer survey thing and it asked ‘What gender identity best describes you?

Male/female/prefer not to say’

There was not a ‘none of these, I do not have a gender identity’ option.

I like to buy clothes cut for female bodies as they fit better. I do like flower prints but I also like gardening, actual digging and stuff. I can swing a pick axe and an axe and saw down tree branches.

It is the creep, creep, creep. Women’s clothes fit because of my female body! They have nothing to do with my gender identity as I do not have one!

Forgive explanation marks but this is nonsense, right? I cannot think of a way the question works.

Bumping. How is everyone? I've not been round much recently. Probably a good thing in light of the bannings

pleased to see you QUentin you were always one of my favourite posters. I wondered where you’d gone.

Awww thank you Real life has got in the way! Also I'm a bit transed out on the board tbh

I've started a thread in chat if anyone is interested .

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/3369413-This-is-wrong-right

hi
anyone want a coffee?

popped in so I could ask somewhere without being annoying

at the risk of sounding like the Dowager Countess, what is an "instamum" and why might such a person be living in a bubble?

Yes please to the coffee although the way things are panning out, we should all be on gin 24 / 7

An instamum is a woman who posts on instagram (repeatedly) / has a blog that covers her whole life as a parent (well the good bits that is).

G&T coming up...I have Hendricks and Bombay Sapphire in at the mo (makes me look an alcy, I'm really not.

thanks, that's what I thought. I'm always a bit puzzled when people who do stuff like that are taken so seriously. It's just making money through advertising I thought? Or if no ads, a hobby that someone enjoys.

DukeOfSussex - that must be the most successful 'if anyone is interested . ' ever!

For some unaccountable reason I'd really like a naice glass of prosecco but will have to settle for decaff tea.

Name changed, I thought the pics had the possibility to go viral and really pleased with the links to the thread in the media and to give the gender critical stance a bit of airtime to people who think the concerns are only from terrible transphobes. It was 8th trending on the Indy 100 yesterday and it even happened to come across my dh's facebook feed I think it has been in every major UK online paper now. Even the Sun gave it a pun headline. Several Australian papers and even

www.huffingtonpost.fr/2018/09/21/elles-recoivent-un-cadeau-on-ne-peut-plus-sexiste-pour-leur-entree-a-luniversite_a_23534846/

But what I really want to know, is did I beat Penis beaker?

Well done, Dunker. And fab name change.

I have just stumbled upon a rare beast, a Graun column in which the men commenting BTL have actually given me some hope for the world (admittedly I haven't dared to click on "view more comments" in case the rosy glow gets dispelled).

Pamela Stephenson's column, young woman (university student) writing in to ask is she frigid or asexual because her few casual sexual encounters have left her feeling awkward and uncomfortable and unsatisfied.

Surprise no. 1 - PSC actually gives sane advice for once, namely, you may well just not be into casual sex, give yourself a bit of a break and take the pressure of, then wait and see - all may be well if you form a relationship with someone before having sex.

Surprise no. 2 - lots of men BLT saying "yes, I'm like this, don't see the point in sex unless I have an emotional relationship with someone, try not to worry, universities are full of a few people making a lot of noise about how brilliant their life of casual ONS is, and a lot of much quieter people just quietly enjoying LTR or getting on with being single."

Guardian in common sense shocker!

I may have to lie down for a while to recover.

You're brave venturing btl Fermats - I need gin to face that shit show these day but glad it was a positive experience!

On the subject of gin I have just discovered Gordon's Pink Gin, not a big fan of their regular stuff but pink kind is lush and obvs the correct kind of gin for a lady...

out for drinks with a newish friend last night

tried to raise the issue of the billboard at the Labour Party conference. He was a bit confused, but when I explained he said "I'm sure the intentions started out good - I mean, gay people in the army used to be a problem".

so tired of that analogy.

Well done dunker!

Quentin, it's not winter yet...hopefully....!

I had to stop using my old account. Issues with my phone being hacked. I think. But I didn't want to NC as I'm quite attached to Quentin and I hate it when I can't spot my friends after an NC

Also....It might not be winter but winter is definitely coming....

It is. Leaves are blowing abput and colour changing.

Did anyone hear the sequence about widows and food on Woman's Hour yesterday? It was fascinating.

I need to get back into the habit of listening to R4 now DD isn't studying in the room above the kitchen ... no, Isay, what was it about?

there's been some really warm afternoon sun in London, getting to about 20, 21 outside. I think the last of that is today though.

Quentin, I think having seasonal ID is a good. Maybe I should change to WomaninAutumnalColours