Woman gets written up by HR for having menstrual products in her car

[AngryAttackKittens]

Turns out that the coworker who complained was a transwoman. The complaining part is sadly not a surprise, since we already know that some transwomen think women are being female at them out of spite, but the fact that HR actually took the complaint seriously and wrote the letter writer up for having personal care items in a bag in her car rather than explaining to the complainer that the complaint was unreasonable is not exactly a great sign in terms of how workplaces are handling complaints relating to trans issues.

www.askamanager.org/2018/04/i-got-in-trouble-because-my-coworker-saw-maxi-pads-in-my-car-and-more.html

Seems unlikely to be true since the same items are in full view in supermarkets!

Why was I deleted for saying I thought it was a made up story? I wasn't saying the OP was lying, I was saying that the article posted to which purports to be a letter sent to the sounded made up.

Unless it is from a country where such things are kept from public view?

Sorry - not having a go at the poster - just the subject.

I can believe this because I have met some useless HR in my time - in very small firms. In my last job the part time HR person was awful. But if she took this further, it would not stand up.

No idea, Silver, I certainly didn't and wouldn't report people for disagreeing with me. It's Juells I'm a bit with for the hostility given that I assume she sees me around as often as I see her around and therefore ought to know that I'm not in the habit of doing whatever it is that she thinks I'm doing here.

Ooh no, I didn't think it was you Angry. As I say, I don't doubt you, it's the letter/email that's been "sent in" that seems too ludicrous. I'm sure the blogger accepts things in good faith too.

It would be useful for the sake of debate if the blogger were to provide more detail - type of workplace, context of complainant seeing the "offending items", what HR's justification was etc.

If it's true, there has to be an awful lot more to the story IMO.

Thanks for posting OP, and yeah it is interesting.

Seems odd that a woman would have sanitary products strewn all over her car (inside) though.

But it wouldn't surprise me if a trans woman had complained about something, as some of them (as you said) seem very annoyed at female-born women being better at being women than them.

They are not all like that. But some are yeah...

Why was I deleted for saying I thought it was a made up story?

I think you may have remonstrated with the poster using the slur word and MNHQ have removed all references?

Even if the letter isn’t real. Which we have no reason to believe it isn’t, but let’s pretend it’s not. The comments are, and the comment section is a total mess.
There’s people saying that women shouldn’t say ‘biological women’, calling people out for saying transitioned (when there’s no need to transition at all because a trans woman has always been a woman), people saying that women are oppressed because of their gender and not because of their biology (tell that to the girls in the third world who can’t access education as they don’t have appropriate toilets for menstruation), people saying that cis is just a word and even though trans people are allowed to quibble about the space between trans and woman, cis women should just accept any label given to them.

It’s a mess.

Nope, no slurs here!

I'm confused.
The person claims to have received a letter. There is nothing about transwomen mentioned.
The twitter thread doesn't mention transwomen.

And you've used this to have a go at transwomen and an apparent idea that transwomen are upset because women have periods and we can't have them.

I think this thread shows how some posters are determined to use any possible story to attack transwomen in any way possible.

yetanothertranswoman Please RTFT. It’s a bit of an odd one I agree, but the person who wrote the letter did say it was a trans woman who complained.

Seems odd that a woman would have sanitary products strewn all over her car (inside) though

They were in a bag. Not strewn all over.

In individual wrapped sachets, in packaging, in a bag, in her car.

And you've used this to have a go at transwomen and an apparent idea that transwomen are upset because women have periods and we can't have them

The person who published this confirms way down the page that the complainant was trans.

Please RTFT. It’s a bit of an odd one I agree, but the person who wrote the letter did say it was a trans woman who complained.

I went to the source of the article.

I call bullshit on the whole thing.

My interest is, well, how are HR supposed to handle unreasonable complaints coming from trans people? Generally speaking extra weight should be given to complaints coming from people in legally protected categories, though it never seems to work that way when it's a woman complaining about sexual harassment or other workplace discrimination. But how do they handle situations where the person is in what's considered to be a vulnerable group but their complaint is fundamentally just not a reasonable one? Regardless of whether this particular situation is legit (the blog in general is, but obviously she can't screen and verify every letter she gets) it's an issue that's going to come up, and I suspect that women are going to end up on the being expected to walk on eggshells end.

The person who published this confirms way down the page that the complainant was trans

And it's a perfect letter that just sucks people into believing it.

I have sanitary towels at the moment in the side pocket of the passenger seat in my car. Not because I don't think you can change sex. But because I stuffed them there yesterday because I have a heavy period and may have needed to change when going out shopping. This is perfectly normal behaviour.

And it's a perfect letter that just sucks people into believing it.

In this new world order who knows what to believe?

it's an issue that's going to come up

Not really. Transwomen are reminded constantly everytime we go to the toilet. There's the containers in the toilet reminding us.

So no, it's not an issue. We have to get over it.

In this new world order who knows what to believe
Well that's true. It's so easy to say something in a blog post that can be seen as believable.

Who knows what is true anymore

I went to the source of the article.

What source? Where?

Wait, yet, are you saying that you think the by all indications pretty pro-trans blogger made this up for unspecified nefarious purposes? Blog's been around for a while, she answers all kinds of "weird thing happened in workplace, what do I do?" letters.

The comments are, and the comment section is a total mess.

The comment section is like an alternative universe!

The comment section is like an alternative universe!

And yet still there's the usual angry man who is angry because he assumes the whole thing is "misandry", because those guys are the herpes of the internet.