Dittany - where is she now?

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Just reading a reference to dittany on another thread & was struck by the feeling that in the current climate she's sorely missed (by me, maybe others too). Did anyone know her IRL? I often wonder where she went, what she's doing now with her feminism. I'd love her to make a triumphant return!

I only lurked back in 'her day' and found her posts challenging (in a good way - made me stop & think & question my own in built ideas, prejudices, and a lifetime of female socialisation - I was a crap feminist, of the 'it's all been done, I don't have anything left to do but enjoy the freedoms already fought for) type. I'm still a million miles behind others but I'm trying to do better

So to you dittany, wherever you are now & thanks for jolting me out of my ignorant feminist slumber

Sorry, katherina. I never meant to be condescending, but I definitely know that the person I was when I was 25 and first posting here is quite different from me at 33, and I'd like to think I'm a bit less of a dickhead.

elephants, I just remember you were (I think) the first person ever to send me a message and I thought you were so nice. And I would never have left my ex-H (for the lesbianism, minus the feminist communes) without anyfucker. MN is a really lovely community.

lass, be fair.

You mean, she occasionally disagreed with you, and sometimes you didn't like that.

I remember you too Elephants 🙂

4 pages of lovely fawning and now here is Lass to piss on the thread. Always reliable.

Does anyone remember the epic argument between dittany and LRD about a (quite batshit) feminist historical documentary about witches on YouTube? LRD politely suggested the documentary wasn't 100% factually accurate while dittany argued that didn't matter because it was defending persecuted women. Went on for hundreds of posts.

Scottishmummy was no feminist icon. She was just mean.

Lass I have seen you about and notice you piss on the threads too. Delicately put you have interesting logic. But fuck it you keep us fresh.

Dittany was the first person to tell me how awful a relationship I was in.
I was posting in a hopeless way about it without any intention of leaving it, just thinking that the feminists on here would see my POV and needing some sympathy. She saw how awful it was and also pointed out something like: you do realise that feminism is not about being a support group for people in bad relationships? :) what so you think I should DO something about this then? :)

I want to know the sentence too, @therealposieparker. If you can share.

Lass, quite simply I have never seen you be nice to anybody

Try it some time. It won't kill you.

I wouldn't have mentioned you if I'd known you were still here, LRD.

the naming of boards, and all the whinging about "mean feminists", and all the hassle around that was utterly INSANE. MN has come on so much. the way they see all this as having a point was unthinkable back then - there was a sort of knee jerk establishment assumption that "radical feminists" were probably "extreme" and "trouble makers"; and the way they are standing up for free speech these days is a completely different modus operandi.

Is that meant to be better, KM ?

I don't mind. It's a fair cop, and I'm not terribly active on here, so why should you know?

Oh God yes! Thread after thread of posters moaning that the feminist board was too harsh and/or too intellectual.

I had a shitload of arguments with Dittany over trans. I think she was targeted in rl by MRAs, which is why she left - I don’t think it was real mn posters. Just trolling vicious vindictive MRAs. Not TRAs. It was pretty messy with FWR off the beaten track for posters safety. Lots of doxxing which was just called outing then. Horrific.

Much as I adorable Dittany/Delphyne I confess I do not like it that you talk about her when she is not here.
Just me being defensive, I suppose. Carry on.

I don't think I have ever seen you write a two line post before AF! Positively verbose tonight.

irene, I do remember that. But you know what I didn't know?

There was a real, professor-level historian of witchcraft on the thread, who posted a couple of times, rather politely, to suggest said batshit documentary was batshit.

She's an actual expert, and how she didn't out herself, I do not understand. She must have been pissing herself at all of us.

I am proud to count Buffy and LRD as friends. CaptainChaos too.

Lass - your recollection of Buffy does not match mine. At. All.

Well I suppose it's like talking about the dead/gone/moved away, AF. Musing on people you used to know once.

I loved Buffy’s posts, and always found her kind, patient and interesting.

LRD

I've learnt the hard way never to underestimate MN posters. There are experts on all sorts of things lurking all over the place.

I wasnt around back then

( though i wish i was...it all sounds very dramatic!!)

But i do like sitting there looking at some threads and thinking

'Oooh thebewilderness will be along with the rules'

'Right datun will sort them out!!'

And

' any minute....any minute.....any minute...lass!!!!'

Im honestly disappointed when people dont turn up when i expect them to