Dittany - where is she now?

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Just reading a reference to dittany on another thread & was struck by the feeling that in the current climate she's sorely missed (by me, maybe others too). Did anyone know her IRL? I often wonder where she went, what she's doing now with her feminism. I'd love her to make a triumphant return!

I only lurked back in 'her day' and found her posts challenging (in a good way - made me stop & think & question my own in built ideas, prejudices, and a lifetime of female socialisation - I was a crap feminist, of the 'it's all been done, I don't have anything left to do but enjoy the freedoms already fought for) type. I'm still a million miles behind others but I'm trying to do better

So to you dittany, wherever you are now & thanks for jolting me out of my ignorant feminist slumber

Dittany was before my time. I've just done an advanced search to see what I was missing and I see that her posts are all withdrawn at her own request. That's sad.

she was pretty much hounded off MN for her 'scare mongering' and 'bigotry' re trans

I didn't know that. I remember her though.

LRD was quite irritating.

Dittany radfemmed me, for sure. Over and fucking over.

When she disappeared from my radar it was under rather a sour note I am sorry to say. But tbh, that was as much her making as mine. She made demands I was not prepared to fulfil

It doesn't change what she did for me though and for that I will never forget her

It was nothing to do with the trans debate

She changed sex and is called Brian now. I think she lives in hull...

LRD was the absolute oposite of irritating

LEM

Dittany was on the ball about trans issues before the big push by trans activists began.

She had a very condescending tone, AF - with a lot of different posters. A kind of assumed superiority - it struck me over and over.

She probably had her good points too.

I don't agree, Katherine. She is still around, btw and has always been pretty self deprecating but still assertive.

Perfect combination, IMO

Having a brain blank. Who was LRD?

I was reading an old thread recently, started by an AGP man who wanted to talk about his female alter-ego and how much "the girls" enjoyed his company that he was invited on a hen do. Most people were supportive, then someone came in to say, actually, this is offensive to women and this is why. Some of the original supporters had their eyes opened, but the AGP fella was frustrated that his thread got derailed by feminist logic. I think that was Ofred. She was great - patient, clear, well explained reasoning.

I don't think I was around for Dittany, which sounds like a pity.

@WhenWillIFeelNormal was also amazing and opened up so many women's eyes on the Relationships board to how men were using them; not as overtly feminist as Dittany but just as sorely missed.

Way before the 'trans threads' started, Dittany was on the case. I learnt so much from her and none of it was comfortable.

She left under a bit of a cloud though, it's not as simple as saying she was hounded out, although there was definitely a lot of that going on as well.

I wish she hadn't deleted all her posts. They were dynamite.

I remember the very sentence Dittany said to me which made me realise what a huge dose of internalised misogyny I was carrying around.

I remember the AGP post too. He was one of the least self aware people I’ve ever encountered.

Would you mind sharing posie? Obviously not if it's personal to you.

I also wish that her posts were still here. Be really interesting to read them back.

I think my first ever post on Mumsnet was me saying that I agreed with Dittany.

I think she was having a ding-dong with scottishmummy about something or other.

Ah, the old days. I've namechanged since then.

Dittany sounds interesting. I hope she reappears at some point.

Dittany Anyfucker and solidgoldbrass helped me open my eyes and see what a horrific abusive marriage I was in. I posted many times under many different names detailing what was going on and those three were on almost every thread patiently explaining how bad it was and telling me categorically that I had to leave him. No one had ever said it was ok to leave before, it was all "relationships take work" and "that's just how men are" and "men have needs" and so on and on.

I'm a Rad Fem now mostly because of Dittany, I noticed her so much because of her being on my many threads in relationships so it made me take notice if I saw her elsewhere. I'd never been exposed to those ideas before and it all just clicked and made perfect sense. It was a fucking shame the way she was berated by so many and driven off here.

Also, Beachcomber is still around and posting occasionally.

That's another poster with great insight. Writes brilliantly.

Also, Beachcomber is still around and posting occasionally.

That's another poster with great insight. Writes brilliantly.

Sorry about the double post.

Beachcomber is awesome

How was she hounded off MN? It's a lot more anonymous now I know back in the day things were more personal so if things got heated it must have been hurtful.