@RatRolyPoly
I want to respond to you directly because i completely understand what you're saying.
I play roller derby. I advocated for total trans inclusion not long ago. I get the arguments you're making, but I'm seeing the other side too, and I'm hoping I can bridge the gap of understanding.
Firstly, I want to bring up the women's AFL league we have here in Australia. AFL is our national sport, and up until this year it was 100% men only. I grew up with women who were great athletes and loved to play that sport but they all stopped playing in their teens because there was nowhere for them to go. Even if they were good enough to play against the men, they weren't allowed. So this year we FINALLY, after over 100 years and my entire life span, we got a place for women to play AFL.
Right away, a transwoman demanded that he be allowed to play on that team. It appears that he will be on a team next year.
I think you can understand why I'm pissed off about that, right? There is JUST NOW a set number of spots for women to play sport at the highest level and immediately those spots are being given to men. I do understand and sympathize with the difficulties transwomen face, but nothing has kept this person form playing in the mens league. Nothing kept him (before or after transition) from working up to playing at the top level. It is not OK for womens places to be given to men. For every transwoman who plays on a high-level womens team, there is a woman being left out. That is outrageous. it is an outrage that women should be asked to continue to sit on the sidelines and watch men play yet again, this time in the name of inclusion.
In the context of roller derby, it is the only contact sport I know of where women dominate. They are not sideshows or the lesser competition that takes place before the men get on with the 'real' competition. It was developed by women, for women, and is owned by the players. Most leagues and teams are female only, some are co-ed, and a few are male only. I play in a co-ed league. This is all good and fine. It serves an important social aspect too, in my experience many of the women who join are young mothers who are trying to find an identity for themselves again, or women who are not good at traditional sports and don't consider themselves 'athletic', or women who never really associate with groups of women, and the all-female nature of the teams often does serve an important social support purpose that you can't find anywhere else and which is changed by adding men to it.
I know a transwoman roller derby player and I consider her a friend. She helped to train me and my team (I am using 'her' here out of respect and because I only ever knew her post-transition, though I acknowledge that she is a male and therefore is a man). In my experience she was very aware of the fact that many players were uncomfortable playing against/with her and while she argued her case she didn't try to force women to play against her or assume that they would be comfortable with it. I remember a time when she was coaching us and we were each taking turns to perform this maneuver through the pack (the rest of the group) while she stood on the side coaching. It was at the end of the session when a person called out that she should have a go through as well, and she hesitated until everyone joined in with 'go on, have a go, come on!'
Generally, as roller derby is grass-roots and DIY each league/team makes their own rules with absolute autonomy, some leagues do not accept transwomen, some do, some do with conditions. Again, this is fine. At the grass roots level there isn't a limit on the number of players so transwomen do not take sports away from women and in some cases may actually help (remote leagues often struggle to find enough players to field a team). I advocated for trans inclusion on the basis that I was not prepared to do any sort of actual genetic testing or checking, nor was i prepared to gamble with accusing people of being male based on their level of 'butchness', and honestly our door was not being beaten down by transwomen (or women, for that matter) wanting to join anyway. I still wanted to keep the focus on women but if a few males who identify as trans slipped in I really couldn't see a harm in that.
However this all comes to a head during tournaments where teams compete against each other. It came up at a tournament I attended but didn't play in. As I understand it, this trans person was put forward to possibly play on one of the womens teams which allow transwomen players (the high level tournament is only for women's teams as there are not enough mens or co-ed teams for a big competition), however a few of the other teams said that they would forfeit is the trans person was allowed to play. From their point of view, they had survivors of domestic violence on their teams. Women who had fought long and hard to regain their sense of autonomy and right to their boundaries and roller derby helped them to do that. Those survivors were not willing to be physically hit by a male, even in the context of a sport, and I think we can all agree that their team excluding them and playing on without them would be a terrible thing to do. But at the same time, why should the team have to forfeit at all? They joined a women's team, in a women's sport, that women built, and are playing in a tournament for women. Why should they be made to face the choices of either:
- denying all their players the chance to compete (which they trained for years for),
- forcing survivors of domestic abuse into physical encounters against males, or
- excluding those survivors from the competition and continuing without them.
All are pretty crappy options.
What would you suggest in this scenario?
What happened was that the transwoman was asked not to play in the main tournament but was allowed to play in the side games. These we're very casual games that were thrown together of players who didn't know eachother very well and were totally optional. There were games of men vs women (women won), old women vs young women (oldies won, i believe), northern states vs southern states, tall women vs short women (short women won), lesbians vs newlywed straight women (lesbians kicked ass). One game was played in the wrong direction. One game was played with different rules. Some games were co-ed. The transwoman was allowed to enter the female teams in this section of the game. It was all pretty fine and more or less seemed to be working except that there was one person who ended up on the opposite team to the transwoman and they had a history. This women had opposed changing their local leagues rules to allow the transperson to play, and the transperson felt personally hurt by that. Whether that is justified or not, I can't say.
What I do know if that after the final whistle to end the game went, the transperson lined up the women and hit her into the spectator seating.
Now, at the time, i thought this wasn't THAT big of a deal. Yes, they should't have done that, but there was no injury and being knocked into the crowd is pretty common in the game, and it was a legally delivered hit except for the fact that it happened after the end of the game.
I now see that this was an example of male violence. In 10 years playing the sport I've never known another women to do that. I've seen dislocated jaws, black eyes, any number of broken legs and wrists, but I've never seen a single woman deliberately try to hit another women after the game ended.
I recognize now that in truth what happened was that this male saw a chance to hurt a woman who had hurt them, a chance they might never get again, and they took it. And even if this transperson wasn't consciously aware of this, it was a threat to other women; "I can do this to you in front of everyone."
The transwoman was banned from competing in the event after that but i don't know that it had a significant impact on gender rules in general.
The thing that gets me is that a few people took the attitude that the teams wanting to keep the transwoman out were making a big deal out of nothing, or should make the choice for themselves and just leave the tournament instead of trying to exclude transwomen, but they turned out to be completely right. So for this as well as a few other reasons i will no longer advocate for trans inclusion in sport. I advocate for co-ed teams in addition to womens teams, so that transwomen can play against people like myself who don't mind playing against male people.
(I don't in any way defend or condone what the transwoman did. It was assault. And you might be wondering why I will still call her a friend or 'she'. To my knowledge this was an isolated incident and a deeply regretted one. It is however a fantastic example of the need for continued sex segregation even when males have 'fully' transitioned.)