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Transactivism and the lesbian community

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iwantmycommunityback · 21/01/2018 18:05

I’ve been thinking a lot over the last few days in particular about transactivism and lesbians and thought I might try to put some of it into writing, partly to try to make sense of it and partly because I keep still seeing people refer to the ‘LGBT’ or ‘LGBTQ’ community and equating transactivism with lesbian and gay rights.

I think the most obvious impact of transactivism is on young lesbians being encouraged to identify as heterosexual transmen and to subject themselves to damaging medical treatment, the effects of which they will have to deal with for the rest of their lives. I think Janice Turner’s article in the Times already covers that issue very well: www.thetimes.co.uk/article/meet-alex-bertie-the-transgender-poster-boy-z88hgh8b8

One of the problems for young lesbians (in addition to the rise in lesbophobia particularly among the young) is that, when they reach out to ‘their’ community, eg join an LGBT group for support, what they get isn’t their community at all but something very hostile.

Gender critical feminists will be familiar with the idea of trans-identified males co-opting women’s identities, women’s rights, women’s spaces etc for their own ends but there are other forms of appropriation going on, particularly in the (former) LGBT ‘community’ (including transsexuals themselves having been co-opted by people who don’t have body dysphoria and who marginalise them as ‘truscum’) . For lesbians, in addition to the appropriation of womanhood, I think the two main additional identity appropriations that cause problems are:

Transbians

These are heterosexual biological males who identify as women and, therefore, as lesbians and have hijacked our community (support groups, social groups, bars, forums, you name it) and believe that lesbians should be open to having sex with someone with a penis if they ‘identify’ as a woman (see ‘the cotton ceiling’). This group has widened further e.g. including ‘transfeminine men’ and men who identify as a woman part-time (so get to walk through life as a heterosexual man but just ‘identify’ as a lesbian for a few hours to access a lesbian group or lesbian club night where they are of course the most oppressed person ever and must be centred at all times).

As well as being included in our groups, they are held up as examples to us eg for International Women’s Day one group had a talk from an ‘inspirational woman’ who was a biological male, who hadn’t had any surgery, was dressed as a bloke (not that that should make any difference..), had a bit of stubble going on and identified as non-binary (pronouns something like ‘zie’) not as a woman. Like, not only could they not find an actual woman who was inspirational enough to fill that spot, they couldn’t even find a man who was prepared to say they were a woman. Stuff like this is being funded by charity grants intended for women and for lesbian and gay people.

‘Queer’ straight trans allies

This is pretty much a consequence of the above. For those who don’t know, queer is now used as an all-encompassing term for anyone who doesn’t identify as a heterosexual “cis” person. However, it is also preferred by certain people over terms like lesbian, gay and bisexual because it does away with what are considered the rigid boundaries of ‘gender’ and sexuality e.g. lesbian and gay meaning being attracted to the same sex, bisexual as being attracted to ‘both’ sexes, when certain people reject these categories and the idea that there are two sexes.

Take, for example, Lily Madigan who is a biological male who has now come out as a lesbian and is dating a woman. Let’s presume for a moment that this woman (let’s call her Chloe) is a) a biological female b) and a passionate trans uber-ally. Chloe is a bio female who is dating a bio male with a penis who wears a pink hoodie and identifies as a woman. Say, before that, Chloe was dating a bio male with a penis who wears a blue hoodie and is, therefore, a man. Maybe in her next relationship, she will date a bio male with a penis who has purple hair and identifies as ‘genderqueer’. Therefore, Chloe can say that she dates men, women and genderqueer people, including both cisgender and trans people. Therefore, she is a queer or pansexual woman.

Along with the transbians, these ‘queer’ woman become involved in what was formerly the lesbian and bisexual women’s community. However, these trans uber-allies have a lot of views that are contrary to the interests particularly of lesbians. They believe that lesbians have ‘cis’ privilege and also that lesbians (along with gay men) are the most privileged people in the LGBT community. They believe that lesbians are narrow-minded and transphobic for only wanting to date other biological women and oppress transwomen who can’t break through the ‘cotton ceiling’ of their underwear.

I’m not even sure when this stuff started because, like most of us, due to the blurring of the meaning of words, I just didn’t see it happening. A lot of the main online websites, blogs and forums for lesbians started to change, with different women running them and, over time, a shift in the tone – lots about trans inclusion and more references to being ‘queer’ and open to relationships with anyone, about how some people (the lesbians) had privilege in our community and should prioritise these other people, less representation of butch women (despite the talk of blurring of gender boundaries/genderfluidity) etc.

It was only years later, someone who knew the women who had been running one of these websites was talking about who they were and who they were in relationships (bio females in relationships with bio males, basically) that the penny finally dropped with me that these were straight women appropriating our identity and lecturing at us and marginalising us in our own community.

This blurring of the language enables them to do it – but even in cases where you can see it for yourself (e.g. if you are looking at what is clearly a straight couple, who you know will be read by everyone they meet as a straight couple, even if the guy is wearing a bit of eyeliner), you couldn’t say anything as you couldn’t suggest that he wasn’t a woman (or genderqueer or whatever).

Why aren’t the LGB community (in particular lesbians) speaking out more?

  1. Firstly, I think it takes a while to see what it going on (for a number of reasons including the blurring of language, the shutting down of any discussion or even thought on the issue e.g. through the repetition of mantras such as transwomen are women, positive experience of/friendships with traditional transsexuals and not understanding how much the trans movement has changed, misrepresentation of this issue in what we consider to be ‘our’ trusted (LGB) news outlets, organisations, websites etc, the conflating of trans issues with gay issues that aren’t really comparable if you actually give them any thought but on the surface seem similar to negative things that have happened to you and feel personal to you resulting in a tendency to just automatically react against and feel angry about any opposition, especially if you are being told that it is ‘anti-LGBT’ and coming from ‘anti-LGBT’ organisations).

  2. Some lesbians aren’t really that involved any more so aren’t aware of what is going on. Many lesbians will have accessed the LGB community, lesbian support groups, lesbian/gay bars when they first came out, when they were looking for a relationship, in times of difficulties etc but are now happily settled in a relationship and don’t feel the need to access those resources. They will still have their lesbian ‘community’ but that will mean texting their friends Sarah & Jo and Claire & Debs and arranging to meet up at their (straight) local pub for the evening. Any involvement with the wider LGBT community will be more minimal like maybe watching the Pride Parade once a year or occasionally reading something on an LGBT website about some awful transphobes who are attacking the LGBT community. They will think back to the transwomen they knew 10 – 15 years ago who were nice people who just wanted to get on with their lives.

  3. Young lesbians identifying as transmen rather than as lesbians and, for the few who do, a lack of access to a real lesbian community which could introduce them to an alternative to the current discourse and give them the opportunity to discuss shared issues, learn from others’ experiences and have other lesbian women on their side. Young lesbians who aren’t accepted or feel isolated in their school, family, community etc will seek out an LGBT youth group and this community they reach out to will heavily endorse the transactivist agenda as part and parcel (and absolutely central) to their identity. Where else do they go and how do they know that there is anything else?

  4. The low status of lesbian women within the LGBT community (I don’t think people outside are really aware of how much misogyny and in particular hatred of lesbians there is from some gay men).

  5. The reason you are probably all aware of – the risks of speaking out, which are increased if you are a lesbian as it is coming from your ‘own’ community and being a lesbian puts you under suspicion of being trans-exclusionary (ie penis-exclusionary) anyway. If you run a lesbian business or events, you can’t risk being anything other than pro the trans agenda or they will destroy your livelihood. And I’m sure most of us have seen the threats and actual violence meted out to those who dare to disagree. There’s also a fear about just broaching the subject with another actual female lesbian because you don’t know how many of you are onside so it’s a risk. From tentatively raising the issue with a select few, I do know lesbian friends who have got concerns about this but we are very cautious and tentative about saying anything to other women because of the risk. The bigger stories like the closure of MichFest ( www.curvemag.com/News/Michigan-Womyns-Music-Festival-to-End-after-40-Years-447/ ) and the men wielding baseball bats to keep the lesbians in check on Women’s Marches and Pride Parades ( gendertrender.wordpress.com/2017/06/27/transdykes-the-anti-lesbian-antifa/ ) are just symbols of the way we are being policed and the consequences for what is left of lesbian events, lesbian-run businesses etc, if we don’t keep in line.

  6. Finally, simply, as I’ve explained above, another reason some of ‘us’ don't oppose or seem to actively support transactivism is that not all of ‘us’ are actually ‘us’. As lesbians step away from the LGBT 'community' and more ‘lesbian and queer women’ emerge from the two groups referred to above, an increasing proportion of ‘us’ are actually a subset of heterosexual men and women who loathe lesbians and support the transactivist agenda - but, because of the way language is being twisted, you’d never know that.

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AngryAttackKittens · 21/05/2018 09:41

Damn is getting so frustrated at their repeated attempts to bully and shame us into obedience not working and it's hilarious.

(Passes out popcorn)

Tinkletinklelittlebat · 21/05/2018 09:46

Incidentally 30 years ago there was a lovely women only cafe where I used to go at lunchtimes, as somewhere any woman could go alone to read and eat and feel safe, and where lesbian groups often met, and where as a young lesbian I got a huge amount of support and positive role models. It was constantly under attack by men for excluding men, because just the words 'women only' enraged some. In those days however people got the concept of women's rights and named the misogyny for what it was.

If it still exists - and it would be a prime target as anything named or identified as for women has been intentionally targeted and acquired - it will now be full of men. And I'm supposed to see this as some kind of lovely progress or I'm a bad person. Confused

HotRocker · 21/05/2018 10:06

Well done Arielle, i’m glad you’ve addressed this and I’m sorry for all the shit you’re getting as a result.
I might be fooling myself into being over optimistic here, but I think the tide is beginning to turn. We’ve got a long way to go to roll back all this quasi religious gender nonsence, but it just seems like a few people are beginning to wake up or open their mouth‘s where they have previously felt unable to. I hope so.

AngryAttackKittens · 21/05/2018 10:09

It definitely feels like we've passed the tipping point, or are rapidly approaching it. Compare the number of people sticking their heads over the parapet now to a year ago.

AngryAttackKittens · 21/05/2018 10:10

And look at Arielle, you can tell she'd been dying to say something for a long time. All it takes is on thing that pisses each person off enough for them to hit the "nope, I'm done", and it will be easier for each one who follows the ones who've done it earlier.

LangCleg · 21/05/2018 10:12

I find it hilarious that feminist objections to transactivist ideology is being likened to the far right. Wait until the actual far right has you in its crosshairs rather than just finding you something to snigger about. Then you'll be wishing you hadn't burned your boats with the feminists.

Tinkletinklelittlebat - when there are ever disagreements between radfems, I find it best to listen to those who are lesbians. They're the only ones who are in no way beholden to men.

Wanderabout · 21/05/2018 10:50

I find it hilarious that feminist objections to transactivist ideology is being likened to the far right.

When in reality everyone from The Morning Star through the Guardian, New Statesman and Times have carried pieces about problems with transgender ideology.

Ad hominem is one of the few arguments TRAs have. It doesn't carry weight here so they just shout it as loudly as they can.

Picassospaintbrush · 21/05/2018 10:55

Damn will be telling us shortly that dog leg cocking is proof that penis is lesbian.

LaSqrrl · 21/05/2018 10:59

I agree with the OP's analysis on the state of play.
I have only really skimmed this thread though.

The community for lesbians has been killed off, perhaps it even started before the TRAs. I myself, was pissy with the rampant misogyny back in the mid-90s, and that was 'only' when it had gay dudes, drag queens and transsexuals. And that is why I left. And sometimes reading threads here about upholding transsexuals over the newest threat, the transgenders/AGPs, I bite my tongue a bit. The misogyny was always there, you just had to view it from a feminist lens.

In every disadvantaged/discriminated group, always the men of that group have higher ranking (or are even violent to) the women of those groups. Black men, homeless, disabled, it all plays out the same. The main focus is always about the men of those groups, and never is their violence/dismissal of the women of those groups an issue.

The reduced alphabet, even before it got stupidly long, was never really inclusive or supportive of lesbians. It was always gay men, with the lesbians tacked on as some kind of afterthought.

Yes, it is almost impossible now to have a lesbian gathering or community, without a load of penis-crashers coming in. But that is deliberate, on the behalf of the TRAs, to sexually access lesbians and brainwash them into 'lady peen' or go 'transman'.

LaSqrrl · 21/05/2018 11:00

And I'm supposed to see this as some kind of lovely progress or I'm a bad person.

I hear you Tinkle. :(

huffsoy · 21/05/2018 11:32

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Tinkletinklelittlebat · 21/05/2018 11:35

Again. Please show me the 'hate' posts and I'll help you get them deleted. Because I can't see any

It's all very well going NATWALT - that doesn't and hasn't stopped the issue under discussion here which is invasion, take over and shutting down of lesbian groups, and changing the definition of what a lesbian is in a way that advantages people with penises and people with vaginas.

So no, sorry, not going to stop talking about it or feel guilty.

LangCleg · 21/05/2018 11:37

They need better quality control in the white knighting factory, I feel.

Destinysdaughter · 21/05/2018 12:20

This is a v good article by another v pissed off lesbian

www.feministcurrent.com/2017/01/13/todays-shameless-lesbians-wont-queered/

huffsoy · 21/05/2018 12:49

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EmpressOfSpartacus · 21/05/2018 12:52

When I came out in the 90s in Hull, I called the local Lesbian Line & walked into a lovely, supportive community of women.

When I moved to London a bit later on, I went to a lesbian social group at London Friend who introduced me to the local lesbian bars & groups, and again I became part of a fantastic community of women, some of whom I'm still close friends with 20 years later.

There were some transsexuals on the fringes of the community, but they were people with dysphoria bad enough for surgery, none of them claimed to be able to change sex and they respected the concept of women-only spaces. More importantly, there was NO concept of a "lesbian with a penis".

I'm so thankful I'm not coming out now. I despise the whole LGBTQIAAXYZ nonsense and I feel terrible for young lesbians.

Tinkletinklelittlebat · 21/05/2018 15:06

feminists are quick to brand all trans people as the problem and some feminists use this to push hate

Wasn't this post implying that 'pushing hate' was what you felt this thread was doing? Confused Hence asking you to explain where exactly you saw hate.

Tinkletinklelittlebat · 21/05/2018 15:07

What do you feel are the real issues then Huff ?

Rufustheyawningreindeer · 21/05/2018 16:31

you shpuld really learn to read where in this topic have I accessed anyone of hate related posts

Oh god

The irony

daimbars · 22/05/2018 14:22

I'm a lesbian and have noticed nothing of the sort described in the OP. Am I really that oblivious? Where is this all happening?
All the young lesbians I know happily identify as women Confused

I often read on mumsnet about a big battle between the trans community and the lesbian community. In my experience (I am involved in a lot of LGBT organisations) we are all getting along just fine.

NatLuc · 22/05/2018 15:14

@daimbars - I have to admit that everything that has been said that is happening on Tumblr is happening. And it is vile. Literally every 'trans advice' blog I still have followed from when I used to need the guidance and support is littered with anon asks along the lines of:

'I am AFAB, I am 14, used to identify as a lesbian but recently doing girlie things is giving me dysphoria, maybe I am trans?'

And the answers, rather than you know.. the sensible thing and saying something along the lines of:

'you COULD be, but maybe you just don't like doing girlie things anymore and it is not dysphoria, perhaps speak to some other lesbians'.

Instead say:

'YES! It is likely you ARE trans! Here are a shit tonne of Tumblr resources on gender spaghetti, don't bother seeking advice from other lesbians, it is much more likely you are trans'.

I just don't feel equipped (or resilient.. enough) to step in though.

My best friend is a lesbian, she is young (ish - 25) and we talk about LGBT politics quite a lot, she's never brought up IRL infiltration, ironically we actually got talking through POF but I was pretty upfront with her about being trans and then when she got a girlfriend we kept talking and then met up. I might bring it up with her and see what she says. Maybe she felt awkward bringing it up because I am trans but I doubt it.

AssignedPuuurfectAtBirth · 22/05/2018 15:16

Daim

Are you one of those 'lesbians' in possesion of a penis?

YetAnotherSpartacus · 22/05/2018 15:46

They're the only ones who are in no way beholden to men

Really? I've found that outside of sexual issues many lesbians are what MN calls handmaidens and I call cocksuckers. In workplaces, for example, I've seen many lesbian women look after men at the expense of their sisters.

daimbars · 22/05/2018 16:01

NatLuc I didn't mean what you have read on trans activism blogs or on social media, where in the UK is this actually happening?

I haven't seen anything like it going on at the LGBT organisations I work for in London and Brighton. Is it therefore a northern thing? I honestly haven't even had a whiff of it and I work with LGBT youths every day. This is why I am wondering if I am being oblivious?

Can you let me know the organisations involved?

Assigned no penis here.

NatLuc · 22/05/2018 16:19

@daimbars - Hmm I will speak to my friend then. She is based in Portsmouth so it would be interesting to get her input maybe? I lived in London until a couple months ago but had to move out and further south to take a permanent job after contracting for 3 years. I have not really found my feet here. I always felt welcomed by LGB people at the likes of G-A-Y and Heaven? Maybe I am naive and my LGBT clubs are too mainstream?

Even Pink Punters in MK though.. Not once would I have sensed any under swell of conflict?

Not sure what there is in Surrey.. As I say, have not found my feet yet. I know there is HB in Portsmouth but have not had the chance to go yet.

I will say that the Meetup group I found, for LGBT Women was very happy to have me come along, I just have not had the chance yet.. Too much running Grin.

I do not doubt you though, but I feel that my exposure to the LGBT community has been pretty.. disconnected probably since London Pride last year, too much going on in my own life.

PS. If anyone has any ideas how I can combat the shit I have seen online.. Please let me know.