Is your DP a feminist?

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I worry that my only choices in life are:

• be with someone who expects you to be better at household duties, so leaves you to it (that's just 1 example)...
• be alone forever.

Tell me there's hope

Is your DP a feminist?

I'm not sure I would describe my DH as a political feminist but as someone further up the thread said 'he is a decent human being'. In terms of housework/childcare etc etc he of course does his fair share - more probably as he wanted a child more than I did .

I don't measure out exactly in terms of time who does regarding housework, maintenance, gardening, home admin etc etc but I tend to measure it more in 'equal free time' terms - and quite honestly I have a lot more free time than he does!

Why aren't feminists pushing for more women to work in waste management or construction?

I think my DD became a feminist when they were doing 'what I want to be when I grow up' in yr 1 and her teacher told her girls couldn't be builders.

"The sad thing is most of these feminists are arguing for things which suits them. Why aren't feminists pushing for more women to work in waste management or construction?"

Why aren't men pushing for more men to work in care homes, as cleaners and in the more low paid areas of teaching?

"Why aren't men pushing for more men to work in care homes, as cleaners and in the more low paid areas of teaching?"

Pay is crap.

Men aren't stupid, rather than trying to get pay increased in a field, they're working in a field that pays well.

Men aren't stupid, rather than trying to get pay increased in a field, they're working in a field that pays well.

Ah... so they're already in fields that suit them and don't want the women having a share of it? Riiight.

My DP is certainly helping me live the feminist dream... he's a SAHD he does the householdy stuff and I work full time. Plus he also does the DY trad male duties so I really got a good deal.

He wanted to stay home and I wanted to return to work. He does have an income stream (property) which allows him to do this, and it was not worth having 2 kids in nursery and both working if we didn't have to.

DY? DIY

I think so, mostly. He's a darling in so many ways but has been brought up in a very traditional, farming family, as was I, and so we both have annoying residual habits/ingrained ideas unfortunately... it just so happens he has more of that than me. To be honest, if he does come out with something anti-feminist (rarely), I just argue the other side and more often than not, he just hadn't even considered that POV. And then obviously agrees with me