Can anyone explain queer heterosexuality to me?

[featherland]

I have noticed over the last few months / years more and more people I know on Facebook identifying themselves as queer, even though they are in heteronormative relationships.

For example, I went to a friend's wedding. It was very traditional - big white gown, all male speeches etc. she has been with her husband since she was a teenager and never (publicly) been in a relationship with a woman. She describes herself as femme and queer - and often posts photos of herself looking very beautiful and typically 'feminine' (makeup, pretty clothes ..) describing herself as such, with loads of pride emoticons.

I just .. Don't get it? I understand the desire to reject gender norms and heteronormativity. But surely those of us who are straight and in monogamous relationships can't just claim the word queer when we receive (willingly or not) all the social privileges of being straight?

And I can understand wanting to stand in solidarity with LGBTQ people. But don't we need to change heteronormative society rather than muscle in on the spaces created by and for people who are marginalised? Eg I am not married, mainly because I can't reconcile myself with the patriarchal history of marriage. I don't see that doing heteronormative tings and saying that you aren't is really queer? If there is such a thing as queer heterosexuality shouldn't it be about living in non normative ways?

My DH does the ironing and loves period drama. We're definitely queer.

I put the bin out yesterday but my other half fetched it in.

I’m submitting our story to The Guardian.

Why? Your initial question makes no logical sense. If you wish to confound yourself in ridiculous labelling then perhaps you need to get a grip on reality

DH and I each have an identical pair of scientific degrees and similar love of sci fi and dachshunds. This doesn't seem to fit the standard gender pair rules but doesn't invert the rules either as seems to be required for queerness. Could that be called homogendered heterosexuality perhaps? or just a bog standard couple with similar interests

Just straight people appropriating LGB so that they can claim to be oppressed too.

Much like 'trans' people who do not actually have gender dysphoria are just appropriating the trans label. With the help of stonewall.

i thought queer meant odd! maybe she is

FOR ANYONE WONDERING WHAT IT MEANS TO BE "QUEER HETEROSEXUAL," it means that the heterosexual relationship is non-conforming, or deviant, than that of the social construct of traditional heterosexual relationships. It has nothing to do with identifying with a different sexual identity, gender, or sex, and is not for attention. BASICALLY, this can be translated to present-time society, in which we are seeing both men and women - in heterosexual relationships - exchanging masculine and feminine characteristics. For example, in present time heterosexual relationships we are seeing men open up more, or learning to embrace their emotional side (this can be considered a queer heterosexual relationship).

My DH often has his hair long, and which of us earns more has varied throughout our relationship, and now varies from month to month because he earns commission. Are we just a regular old het couple when he's had a haircut recently and a good month in terms of sales, and queer when his hair is longer and he hasn't done as well that month at work?

This navel gazing bollocks can't end soon enough as far as I'm concerned.

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It hurts when tea comes out my nose like that. I'm reporting you all for hate crimes