Why do men apologise to other men when they hit on you by mistake?

[YoJesse]

Waiting for a friend outside a shop this afternoon. Some bloke starts chatting me up and I make it clear without being a dick to him that I'm not interested but he goes on and on. My male friend comes out of the shop and the bloke looks really embarrassed and apologies to him saying sorry I didn't realise she was your's!

I'm not fucking anyone's (is what I wanted to say) but I just shut my mouth as I usually do in awkward situations and my mate just laughed it off saying 'so your mine hey?'why do men do this? I really want to explain why it pissed me off and why men think like that but I can't work it out in my head. Help!!

I think you're right deydo that it's a combination of things. If the ownership of women is so ingrained in mens mind would they even realise that that's what was subconsciously going through their minds?

barbarian I'm sure it's a lot to do with avoiding a punch from a possessive tosser as well.
As for the stupidity of youth (well 23) I'm full on guilty of that. On our first date a bloke got into a full on, police involved Street fight with a guy that hit on me. I married him

When I had just got engaged and was showing off my ring at work one day, a male colleague just casually said "That's you tagged". He explained that it meant I was now visibly off limits to men

But that's what an engagement ring is, and why traditionally it has only been women who wear them.

It's only relatively recently men have worn wedding rings, and probably in my life time that some have started wearing engagement rings.

I really want to explain why it pissed me off and why men think like that but I can't work it out in my head. Help!!

Because both your friend and the man hitting on you accepted that it is normal for men to treat women as property.

When I lived in Ireland a couple of my male irish friends used to say that the sisters of their (male) friends were off limits. Occasionally if they really liked one of the sisters then they would check if it was alright with her brother first! Again it was like these women were possessions and the feelings of her brother were to be respected.

When first married DH was pleased that his wedding ring marked him out as "out of bounds" - not that women were throwing themselves at him - because it was easier to prove he was married and not get unwanted attention. I think it does work both ways in that sense. I'm not sure he considered himself my property.
Conversely, a friend told me too different men tried to chat her up and noticably hid their wedding rings in pockets or under tables .

It's because we are their property. When I was with my boyfriend, another boy tried to dance with me once, started groping me, I told him to go away and he apologised to my THEN BOYFRIEND when he objected and he said.........."SORRY MATE I DIDN'T REALISE SHE WAS YOURS"!!

Sadly, I think many of us have had experiences like Fantome. And come across men who hide their wedding rings before going out for the evening...

sassh - I know an engagement / wedding ring makes your marital status public knowledge, but it was the word "tagged" that stuck with me. (And the fact it was an apparently nice, would introduce him to your best friend, type bloke who said it)

it's simple i their little brains women are like a property

I hate this so fucking much. It has happened a fair few times throughout my life.

Many times I have been hit on and have said 'umm no, my husband is right there' or something..and its always 'oh sorry mate, I didn't know' Whilst ignoring me completely.

When I have been hit on by dudes and my husband hasn't been there and I say no, they pester and pester and pester. I have actually left bars because of that nonsense.

In total contrast (should probably mention now that I go out mainly to gay bars as most of my friends are gay and feel more comfortable there) when a woman hits on me, I just have to say no thanks and thats the end of it. Even if DH is there with me, she will say sorry to ME then leave.

Exactly that . No doesn't actually mean no until your owner/man says so. Fucking hell!

wankingmonkey your name made me happier

men do see you as property, property of all men as long as you aren't married, property of one men when you're married

This is exactly it. So bloody depressing.