A thread to discuss lesbianism, bisexual Women, and other kinds of sexuality patriarchy doesn't like

[LRDtheFeministDragon]

I am starting this thread partly because of current events (a LGBT rep at Edinburgh University who seems very unwell, and odd, has been expressing views that were, amongst other things, lesbophobic and misogynistic). But I actually wanted to start it before I read that, and didn't get up my courage to think it through.

What I want to ask you is, how do you think women's sexualities are formed? What's the relationship between bodies and socialisation?

I am currently thinking that sexualities that don't include men (lesbianism, sometimes bisexuality) seem to be taken as a kind of threat by patriarchy - but so do other kinds of sexuality that don't fit the patriarchal desire for women to be sex objects. Sexuality for mothers, maybe? Sexuality for rape survivors? Do you think patriarchy is uncomfortable with these, too? I think it must be. I am trying to work out what the common thread is.

What can we do to help younger women form healthy sexualities?

VESTAL that's a really interesting perspective. Thank you! I don't think good dad material neccessarily means lack of attraction at all. In fact one of my major regrets is not pursuing things with a man who had the potential to be both.
I do feel desperately guilty though that so many of my friends' partners seem to be lazy arses who do no housework and have no empathy, whereas my ex always did his share and is so caring and supportive. and yet he's the one who's lost his partner and they still have theirs.

Sorry I feel like I've hijacked this thread a bit. Thanks everyone for your thoughts!