"Lesbian women have always been accused of not being "real women" by misogynists, because they don't conform to patriarchally defined sexuality.
Never heard of this."
Then you need to get out more. Anyone who has ever engaged with anyone about lesbianism, has heard this slur.
"I think that as much, it promotes your own agenda (to remind everyone of how shit it is to be a woman, and how much we all need feminism) to find a few nut cases and claim they are actions are just more evidence of the deep hatred of women by so many men. This is why this particular battle ground seems so important to you, whereas to most people transgenderism or transexual or whatever you want to call it is very much a side issue."
Oh FGS. Transgenderism is a matter of supreme unimportance to me. I have no interest whatsoever in men who think they are women. The reason I engage with this topic, is because like anyone who is even remotely on the edges of feminist discourse, we have been forced into concerning ourselves with this topic, by the men who insist that we engage with them, accept them as women, accept them in our spaces. I tried to avoid the subject of transgenderism for bloody ages, because like you, I considered it a total side issue and not relevant to most women. But I wasn't fucking allowed to, these men have split our movement and are intent on controlling and therefore neutralising it.
The reason most lefty men don't bother to do the reading about it, is because it's women's stuff - not important, not worthy of attention. A spat between a bunch of women they don't want to fuck and men who don't conform to patriarchal masculinity. So they don't need to concern themselves with it.