Why do men do this?

[TooOldForGlitter]

Of course, NAM, but really, why? It's 7.40 Saturday morning. A new nursery is being built down the road and its on my dog walking path. I walk by and there are two vans parked up on the pavement, clearly blokes about to start work on the new nursery. They just do this thing when they see you coming down the road and start to stare. As if to see if you'll look away first, or get your 'phone out and pretend to be on the phone. Its as if they don't want you to feel like you can walk down a pavement without feeling uncomfortable. I'm not going to go into all the minute things they do I think I'm just saying, I'm not alone in seeing and feeling this am I?

I think a lot of men turn into twats when they put on builders uniforms

I think sweeping generalisations help no one.

I am almost perpetually surrounded by twattish men in that case, as something like being stared at, beeped by a car horn, told "You're lovely", having my personal space invaded on trains by men either splaying their legs so their thigh touches mine and forcing me into a little huddle or by sitting opposite me with their feet practically under my seat and their genitals in full-on DISPLAY MODE - One of these things happen to me almost every single day of my life.

I'm not sodding Angelina Jolie either. I'm just a normal looking woman IN MY FUCKING FORTIES.

I fully expect to be told that I'm imagining it or that I'm over sensitive, but the truth of the matter is that I am Not and I am NOT.

their genitals in full-on DISPLAY MODE

This is vile, its usually just after they've plonked themselves down with force and a weird 'irgh' type noise, as if to say,
"Look at me everyone, I'm so unbelievably manly that you must know I'm here and all look at me"

Hence why I said 'a lot' not all.

Building sites are much stricter with all that shite now thank goodness

The reason these men have to site with their legs splayed is because they have such enormous cock and balls. I got on a train last night and sat opposite a man afflicted with HUGE SEXY PARTS which meant he couldn't possible sit in a way that that meant I had any leg room at all. Poor soul.

LockedBox

It was probably to stop his brain getting squeezed.

I know its only laterally connected but my Exw used to moan about how I sat, not because I spread my legs but because I'd cross my legs at the knee. Apparently that's the girls way and men should cross their legs with their ankle on their knee. made me lol for several minutes.

Yes, it's dreadful how some of them are. Unless I think they are drunk or on drugs it's best to look at them or as someone said say Good morning. Don't let them think they can force you to look away or put your eyes down or anything else.

"I fully expect to be told that I'm imagining it or that I'm over sensitive, but the truth of the matter is that I am Not and I am NOT."
When I had some sympathetic male colleagues who couldn't quite believe it was as bad as I said it was, I suggested they walk several yards behind me. Then they could finally SEE that I wasn't over-reacting or making it up.

Given the videos available online now, and the overwhelming number of accounts from women, anyone ought to able to see that there is overwhelming evidence that women AREN'T over-reacting.

So I think it comes down to the usual responses:

1. Women tell lies
2. Women over-react
3. Even if true, there are BIGGER problems to worry about (and you should feel grateful someone noticed you at all................)

O, nearly forgot, of course we have the OTHER response:
4) Not ALL men....... (how dare you be so rude to not mention that! And how dare you ask if I challenge such behaviour when one of MY mates does it................)

^Exactly

Quite.

I got catcalled this morning by some guys in a van - beeping their horn and shouting stuff. I'm 9 months pregnant, I was assuming that I'd get a free pass on this stuff once I was visibly pregnant, but I've experienced about the same level of harassment as usual. I can't believe that many men are attracted to me - they obviously enjoy trying to make me feel uncomfortable.

I usually just find it amusing or act like I do, as laughing at them seems the best way to deal with it, but obviously I don't always feel like doing this.

I think there is a particular kind of fucking twat (great description) who tries to intimidate women and men, but there are also the ones who do it just to women, or at least do it to a lot more women than men. Otherwise the guys shouting at me this morning would also have been shouting stuff at the men.

Exactly.

The thing that pisses me off is when, if you tell men about staring, they reply, "Oh, they're just admiring how you look, what's wrong with that?"

No sorry, staring is not admiring how I look, I'm not a moron I can tell the difference between a guy liking what he see's and a guy that is trying to mentally undress and rape me. I don't mind an appreciative glance, or a glance up and down, it's the STARE that makes me feel uncomfortable.

Exactly, fit - I don't walk around thinking every man is staring at me, and I haven't met a woman who does. We can tell the difference. If a man says another man was staring at him, trying to intimidate him we don't tell him he must have misunderstood, I just want the same trust that I can accurately recount events.