00100001 re it doesn't target a particular group of people well it does, it targets people with vaginas... that is a category of people. A big category but still a category. And I do think that men who rape women do it because on some level they hate women and the affect it creates in the female population is the same as the fear of other hate crimes.
...and earlier....re If Hate Crime is crime against a person because ofa hatred a particular thing about a person (e.g sex, religion, ethnicity etc) - then rape against women, is rape. It is a crime. Yes. It is terrible Yes. But is only a Hate Crime when the reason for the rape is because victim is a woman. BUT of course the rape of a woman by a rapist is because she is a woman. You've just proved my point.
Miranda Re I know of an instance of rape by a man who was popular with women, good fun etc. He raped because he could, because he wanted to. He didn't care about his victim's feelings; maybe he convinced himself she wanted it really; but he didn't hate her. How can you possibly know if this man hated women or not, the fact he was charming and people liked him proved nothing. People often like manipulating people, because they are manipulated by them!
Lweji control? Control to do something that the other person will find awful and appalling and terrifying, how is that not hate? How could someone do that unless they felt some degree of hate? They might be some rapes that do not fit this pattern, but I think most do. Control is how they are committed. A person can pay a prostitute to have sex with them and they can then be in control. There is more than control going on. Many women who are raped know the person who rapes them, yes, I am sure there is the desire to control them, but why.... because they like them, love them, respect them... I would guess not! 
Buddy re your words after *
So really, it depends on how you define 'hate' ...*
I totally agree with you.
thedacingbear Re *Eg. take a situation where someone decided to give an asian person a kicking, with a view to getting jollies out of it, and that they had selected their victim on the basis that she considered them inferior and their feelings worthless (essentially a racist attitude). I wouldn't have any difficulty with categorising that as a hate crime.
So how would that be different from the actions of a rapist with a casual disregard/contempt for women generally?*
thedacingbear - So why do you think the rapist selected the woman to rape?