Buffy

[blueBooby]

I miss reading her posts and I've just seen on another thread that she deregged.

I name change a lot and lurk more than I post on the feminist boards so buffy won't 'know' me but i miss her! (In a non-stalker way). If anyone speaks to her tell her to come back because some random on the internet said so!

Thanks to Buffy from me as well. I hope she does feel ready to come back eventually, I always found her posts really interesting and helpful.

If you rolled back time they would be the same women arguing that women should not be allowed to vote.

I'm really sorry to hear that Buffy has deregged. I learned a lot from her and I must admit, I was always a bit thrilled if she posted a response to anything I posted. It made me feel I'd really said something worthwhile.

Pound to a penny Buffy will be back.

Most people that leave, get an appreciation thread, read it obsessively and then come back to wild applause . We just need to keep the messages coming.

Don't bet on that Staples

Buffy doesn't need an appreciation thread and can decide to come back or not all on her own.

Nah - 'appreciation threads' are like funerals, for the benefit of those left behind not the dearly departed.

If Buffy has gone to a better place, I'm happy for her.

But still hoping for reincarnation sometime...

The last post Buffy addressed to me was a complaint that another poster had accused her of supporting child abuse and a rather sleight of hand attempt to link me to it.

Puffins Buffy was very happy to treat experiences which supported her view of women constantly living in a state of oppression as evidence of that but any experience which doesn't as being merely personal.

Personally I find posters like Yonic and Seneca ,Lurco ,BertrandRussell, whirlinggalaxy far more conducive to an interesting debate.

Since she's not here to defend herself I don't think it's right to be posting criticism directed towards her.

Lass, "sleight of hand attempt"?
Do you think it is fair to flatly declare another poster's intentions, especially apparent malintentions, when she is not here to defend/explain herself?

Sorry, cross post, stupid phone.

Of course you think that Lass. And the reasons are pretty obvious.

Oh, and I agree that slagging someone off when you know they aren't here to rebut is distasteful. And childish. But not unexpected.

I should have commented when she made the comment at the time.

There was no need at all for her to refer to me in relation to the comment she was complaining about. I wasn't aware of who it was or what it was nor was I a party to it. I found it pretty distasteful.

But slagging someone off when they are here is...acceptable!

Saying that criticising someone behind their back is not right is not the same as saying that slagging off somebody to their face is acceptable.

Lass

I didn't see the post but I know that you and I often have very different interpretations of responses to your posts. That may also be the case here.

I also think that, as Buffy didn't flounce, but quietly deregged, she would probably prefer this thread not to be ongoing, so I will try and bow out now.

That's such a shame, I only talked to Buffy on one thread but she had such interesting opinions and arguements. Comes across as a really lovely and intelligent poster.

One of those people you would like to know in real life.

Another who misses Buffy, I learnt a lot from her. Hope you're happy and well Buffy. xx

My best wishes to Buffy too. No doubt she's keeping the faith in other arenas so the MRAs haven't won at all; she's just moved on, not given up. Let them waste their time dicking around on here, keeps 'em off the streets don't it?

Oh, no! I'm another who has learnt a lot from Buffy. I remember reading her thread about her thesis and thinking I desperately wanted to read her 'alternate conclusion' (IIRC correctly she was writing a second conclusion as a piece of speculative fiction, as if she was writing in a world without patriarchy, thereby exploring how it shapes debate / styles of discourse...).

Best wishes to Buffy, wherever she may be! :)

My apologies Lass, the poster who made the original comment to Buffy was someone called Phaedra, who appears to have stopped posting now. It wasn't you who accused Buffy of supporting child abuse, rather it was the poster I've already named.

Thank you for all you've taught me, Buffy.

And Yonic and SGB and Puffins and ...everyone

Just catching up really really shouldn't be here and that is sad. I read & lurk here in FWR more than post, but we'd had a couple of really useful exchanges, from which I learnt a lot & PM'd a bit about academia etc etc

I'm so sorry that she was tired by the harassment. OTOH, I bet she's getting on with stuff. Wish I could kick the MB addiction!

If anyone's in touch with her elsewhere, give her my best! From a raddled old feminist academic to an up & coming one

I salute all the posters, Buffy included even if she is on a break, who so tirelessly argue and educate on these boards. I'm afraid I just don't have the patience (to argue that is, I certainly don't have the knowledge to educate but I am learning) but I really appreciate those who do and I have gained so much from reading FWR over the last 2 years or so.